QUALIFICATIONS TO MARRIAGE

 QUALIFICATIONS TO MARRIAGE

In both (male and female)

                   

Bismillāhi Rahmaani Raheem.

Marriage is a long term life span till death. Therefore, before everyone involve himself or herself into Marriage, they must prepare well and make sure they *qualify* to marry.

If you are among the below list points, then you do not *qualify to get Marriage*

This was explained by one *Sheik* and he says:...

                  

1️⃣ AGE: Scholars agreed that, Islam do not have specific age that qualifies one for marriage.

The most important is that, in females; if the female child experience *her first menstruation* and well capable of having intercourse and bear a baby; then she can be married to a male.

Likewise a male, if he attains puberty stage and experience *wet dream* he can get married to a female.

But to the side of males it’s not common unlike females, because society believe the mind of such a male is not active enough to handle a wife.

Also children who got married early between *12 to 18* sometimes have *low mentally* to reason well.

Because they still behave childish.

Therefore a child like such do not *qualify* to marry.

2️⃣ MENTALLY SOUND: Before a man or woman get married, he/she must be someone who is *mentally active*, not having any mental disorder like: *jinns possession, lunatic* etc..

Because, such people lost their mind and are very difficult to live with.

*Also living with them will be very scary*

They might do something strange out of their senses because their mind is lost.

In this case, if a man or woman is having mental disorder, he/she don't *qualify* to marry untill a solution is sort.

3️⃣ ILLNESS: This is very serious and important to check, the one you intend to marry, *because most people hide it from their partners before marriage, and it has made a lot felt disappointed*

My brothers and sisters, you know your health and what's worrying you...Before you intend to marry someone, its better *you go for check up* to see if there's any illness.

There are a lot of illness in some people which do *not qualify* them to get Married.

*If I say illness I don't mean Malaria or headache or koko(piles)*❌

I mean infections, genital  disease and other strange and scary illness that passes through person to person*✅

Also it's better to check and know your *sickle cell, blood group* and that of your partner.

Seek advice from doctor about your health before you come together.

4️⃣ ACCOMMODATION: This point goes to the men.

Before you get married, you must fully prepared by having accommodation (House to sleep with your wife).

The accommodation must include bathroom, toilet, place of cooking etc...

If accommodation is not sort, then such man do *not qualify* to marry.

However! If the woman too can provide accommodation, then they can marry. But it's the responsibility of the man to provide accommodation.

5️⃣ CAPABLE TO HAVE INTERCOURSE: Before a man/woman intend to marry, he/she must be sure they are capable of having intercourse.

A man must be sure to himself he is capable of satisfying a woman if he gets married.

This can be seen or felt in your body and the private part must tell you something expecially when you wake up from bed at Dawn.

_If your manhood do not erect, then you don't *qualify* to marry until you sort for solution else you will make *your wife feel disappointed.*_

A woman too must feel or experience some signs of feelings in her system that relate to love making.

If you are a woman and you don't feel any sign, then you don't qualify to marry untill you seek for solution.

6️⃣ CAPABLE TO PROVIDE SHELTER, FOOD AND BASIC NEEDS: This point too goes to the men.

It's the responsibility of the man to provide such to his wife and children. Any man who is married already and is not providing the above is indeed sinning.

If a young man wish to marry but can't provide such, must wait until Allāh bless him with provision and stay away from Zina.

Any man who can't provide such basic needs do not qualify to marry.

7️⃣ CAPABLE OF HANDLING CHILDREN AND PROTECTING HUSBAND HOME:

This point to goes to the women.

It's the responsibility of the women to take care of their husband and children and to protect their husband’s home and property.

If a woman can't bear children or handle a child/children, look over her husband’s property, defending her husband then she doesn't qualify to marry.

8️⃣ WALI (GUARDIAN): One pillar of marriage is to have a guardian, other parents or any family member to be the guardian of the man or woman.

Any marriage which doesn't involve a WALI/GUARDIAN is invalid and Haram.

So if a man or woman wants to get married unless his/her WALI/GUARDIAN is involve and accept the marriage before the marriage can be done.

If you don't have someone as your WALI (GUARDIAN), then you don't qualify to marry.

If anyone find himself or herself in the above, then you don't qualify to get married until you find it solution.

Allāh alone knows best. 

May Allāh grant us understanding.

Aameen