The Pain of a Woman.

*The Pain of a Woman.*

Bismillah ~ I m a good observer, each time I look at how women suffer in their lives, I feel as if I should say "Women deserve Jannah more than men". Here is why:

◉◉ Look at the life of a woman right from infancy to adulthood. She grows through series of pains, from one pain to another.  Allah has created women to be so strong, even stronger than men. Because the pain they endure, even ten men together cannot endure, we simply can't take it. 

◉◉ Look at how women undergo their menses. Menstruation is not just about passing out blood through the private area; there is more to that. In some women, it comes with a severe pain known as menstrual cramps. These cramps are extremely painful and severe. Then managing the blood itself is not an easy task. Some women have a heavy flow; so they can change their pad six to ten times a day. Some women get ill; they cannot walk, their legs swell, some even fever. That is why if you are a good observer too, you will notice that women get frustrated and angry during that period. So handle them with care as instructed by Allah.

◉◉ Then after that, they pass through a moment known as ovulation period. Ovulation is the release of a mature egg from one of the ovaries, which happens about 14 days after/before the period. This ovulation makes them crave for intimacy even if they are singles, but they suppress it, at times it also comes with pain. 

◉◉ When they get married, a new challenge starts. We live in a society where men think women are housewives, nannies, housemaids, baby factory, sex doll. All these are frustrating for them. If they try to speak up, we hypocritically use religion to subdue them for our selfish interest. As a result, today, more than 70% of women are depressed whether you know it or not. Some will die in this depression. Only Allah knows what they are going through. 

◉◉When she gets pregnant, life becomes even more difficult. She shows illness, swelling, gained weight, faces diseases in the process. These problems keep happening for almost Nine months. And along the line, many husbands don't even help with the house chores. Later, when she is due for delivery, she has to face the nightmare of childbirth. That's if the birth is a normal one, if it is through operation, that's how she gives her body to the doctor's mercy. She is not sure whether she will die or live. How many men can give themselves for their child? Just to stay at home and show them love you can't. How then can you produce a child?

◉◉Then comes another challenge, after birth, she bleeds for approximately 40 days, non-stop. And then takes care of the newborn. Some babies don't sleep in their early birth. They sleep during the day and stay awake during the night. So for the first three months, she will not sleep at night. And the fathers mostly lock their room to avoid the cries. 

◉◉Some babies like to suck very hard, wallahi the pain of sucking the breast is as if your brain will explode. I know it. Because I watch my wife cry during breastfeeding. That is what a woman does for almost two years. Her breasts would lose shape, shrink, and look terrible. Yet, she tries hard every day to feed the child. Even though religion has given her the option of seeking payment for feeding the child, yet some women instead of payment, they get beaten or harassed for small mistakes. 

◉◉Today, I learnt something new. My wife is under the weaning process. I never knew weaning is also painful. Well, it is. It is painful because when the milk is not used by the baby, it tries to transform itself into breast tissues. This is the Qudra of Allah. So this process itches, and it gives so much pain. 

★★These are endless pains. Almost every woman undergo these pains. But sisters, I have good news for you. Whether your husband appreciates it or not, Allah does appreciate you. Because the Prophet PBUH says, for every pain, for every suffering, for every itch, Allah expiates your sins. No atom of pain is afflicted to you unless Allah expiates your sins for you. Another news, the Messenger gives this honour only to women, that if a woman is to raise children, in the Islamic way, until their adulthood, nothing will prevent her from getting into Jannah except death. 

★★To our sisters out there, maybe your husband or family do not understand these pains, (maybe) but you should know that there are people like me who understand what you are going through, and we make dua for your every day. Let me say this to you, my sisters, by Allah, apart from the blessing of being a Muslim, being raised by parents, the best gift that Allah gave me in this life is my wife. If I don't respect and love her, then what kind of a person am I?

★★If you are a husband who doesn't treat his wife right, after she has to go through all these pains or even more, then I say May Allah guide you. Anyone who does not appreciate women cannot appreciate Allah. Bcos apart from your Rabb, your parents, no one does what your wife can do for you. No one. 

 There are more to write about this. May Allah bless our women and grant them eternal peace in jannah.

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