Habit Doesn't Die Easily* [--4th Show--]

 *Habit Doesn't Die Easily* [--4th Show--]

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

This remind me of another testimony, apart from the one given in the previous episode, with the believe that this will help discuss this topic:

"I was married to *"Born-again womanizer"*.. Our first two years of marriage was a hell to me. For those 2years, my husband never see anything inside skirt without making efforts to have a taste of it. We fought and quarrel almost everyday. I invited our Islamic teacher to help admonish and advice him on that. Yet, his situation sounded like someone who added petrol to already burning fire. Then, our Islamic teacher suggested i use *"Drama method"* with him. Yes. Drama method. Our Islamic teacher explained to me how i will fake some dreams which will frighten my husband... The episode of the drama goes like this: - *"In the middle of the night, i shouted and scream calling my husband's name. My husband woke up and touched me to stand up. When i opened my eyes from the fake sleep, i bursted into a serious fake cry. My husband asked me what was the dream and why i was dreaming calling his name. I was just fake-crying and didn't tell him anything. He pet me to stop crying and lay down*. In the morning, the first thing he asked me after his Fajr prayer was - what did see you in your dream last night? Still, i just look at his face and bursted into another heavy fake-cry.. When i realized that he was seriously worried to know what was the dream, i now narrated thus: *"I saw in my dream that you died on top of prostitute and my biggest worries were that, your body started smelling seriously just 30minutes after the incident. Infact, even the person who bathe you could not bathe you well because of the odour. Only very few people could resist the smell to observe swalatul - janazah (prayer for the dead) for you. When the few people who went to bury you turned their back after your burial, they heard your voice crying seriously. When they came back and briefed us on the tragedy, they met me crying calling your name, and that was the time you woke me up "*. Fortunately for me, my husband knew that i hardly dream and almost all my dreams used to come to reality.. After my narration of fogged fake dream, it took my husband more than 30minutes looking worried and without mentioning a word. For complete 2days, he couldn't even go out of the house, and i also kept faking my mood because of the dream.. Guess what!!! Since that day, my husband sincerely repented".

Oh My People!

Sometimes, one single formula can not change your spouse's undesirable behaviors. It all depends on you, your situations and your type of man or woman.

Now,

*How To Handle A Difficult Husband Or Wife When it Comes to Change:*

These tips can make it easier for you to have a fulfilling relationship with your spouse.

*Tip No 1:* Effective Communication

Good communication is key to any healthy relationship. You need to create an environment where both of you can openly discuss anything and everything about the relationship, whether it is the anger patterns, the hurtful words used, or any negative behavior that bothers you.. In the cause of doing this, if you repeatedly take abuse and disrespect, then, it indirectly indicates that you are okay😃. Yes.  What you need is wisdom to change your spouse's undesirable behaviors and not this quarrel/fighting formula. Yes. Even Allah (swt) commanded us to use wisdom in this type of issues:

Evidence:

ٱدْعُ إِلَىٰ سَبِيلِ رَبِّكَ بِٱلْحِكْمَةِ وَٱلْمَوْعِظَةِ ٱلْحَسَنَةِۖ وَجَٰدِلْهُم بِٱلَّتِى هِىَ أَحْسَنُۚ

"Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best..." 📚An-Nahl 16:125

*Tip No 2:* Get to the Root of the Problem

TO BE CONTINUED