WHERE'S THE MAN II?

*WHERE'S THE MAN II?*

By: Abu Mazeedatilkhayr Bn Sa'eed

Sex is suspended at the pre-marriage stage. But it occupies the prospective *couple's mind at solemnisation. The relationship is* consummated with it. There's hardly a marriage that can survive without sex!

Sex is a sacred act. For us *Muslims, it's a religious act of worship, for the performer is* rewarded. It therefore deserves utmost respect, honour and careful indulgence. Hymen is a *symbol of chastity; it is the most honoured flesh of the* fragile being called a woman.

But emotion is the dominant essence of the female. This is *probably what makes her inferior to her male counterpart* who claims to dominate with reason. Thus, a woman deserves to be nurtured. She deserves to be pampered. She is a pet, and *she deserves to be treated thus!*

Even when you make love to her, you express the sexual love with compassion, so that she must equally derive her maximum *pleasure from the act, as you do. Islam has honoured her that she should be safely lodged at* home. 

Ordinarily, a wife is both a *partner to her husband and also his student. She's not a* commodity purchased with a bride price, used in sex and then discarded in an emotionally devastating divorce.

We repair an automobile, if we discover a mechanical fault. We fix the broken window of our house, rather than collapsing the *whole building. We mend our torn clothes, even if we still need* to buy another one. We visit the clinic to restore our failing health.

But why do we kick out a *woman, that emotionally fragile human being, for a lack of sexual pleasure? Why do we collapse a* reparable marriage? Why do we throw away a woman, after taking her hymen and rupturing her womb with *numerous births..?*

We can, of course, teach her how to satisfy us. We can also help her repair the elastic part. Yes, it is possible, we can! We can help her battle the affliction of a *notorious jinn. Why not sympathise with her as she* revolts against your choice of polygamy?

Meanwhile, have you also found *a solution to your own epileptic performance of half a second heavy breathing on top of a* helpless queen, because she is equally not satisfied with your limited skill, but modesty and the fear of being called a bitch have *shut her up?*

She has upon you that right you have upon her!

In an inspiring lesson I learnt yesterday, in the class of *knowledge, from my female students who are happily married, it's not wrong to engage* extra hands to baby-sit your babies, cook your food, wash your clothes, so that you can keep your wife for sex alone!

*It sounds crazy? But it's not a bad suggestion anyway, that's what they said! Where is the man* who will make a woman happy? Where's the man?

There are many avenues to *resolve a marital issue, rather creating additional problems for the Ummah. Thousands of* young and middle age women are scattered around in search of husbands. How do we manage the emotion of widows and *divorcée? Do you want to add more..!*

*We were warned during the last sermon of the holy Prophet to fear Allah in matters of our wives, so let's fear Allah!*