WHY WIVES ARE COMMANDED TO OBEY THEIR HUSBANDS IN ISLAM

 THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum Ath-thalaatha. 24th day of Dhul-Qa'adah, 1444AH (Tuesday, 13th June, 2023). *_WHY WIVES ARE COMMANDED TO OBEY THEIR HUSBANDS IN ISLAM_*. BismilLah.

What the Muslim has to do when he or she learns the ruling of Islam is to submit to it and believe in it even if he or she does not know the wisdom behind it. ALLAH (Al-Hakeem, The Wise) says: 

“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when ALLAH (Al-Qawee, The Strong) and HIS Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys ALLAH (Al-Mateen, The Firm, The Steadfast) and HIS Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error” [al-Ahzaab 33:36].

When a man and a woman come together in marriage and live together, there are bound to be differences in opinion between them, and one party must have the final say in order to resolve the issue, otherwise the differences will multiply and disputes will increase. So there has to be someone in charge, otherwise the marriage will collapse. 

Hence ALLAH (Al-Walee, The Protecting Friend)  made the husband the protector and maintainer of the wife and gave him the responsibility of heading the household, because he is more perfect in rational thinking than her in most cases. This means that it is obligatory for her to obey him. ALLAH (Al-Hamid, The All Praiseworthy) says  

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because ALLAH (Al-Mubdi’, The Producer, Originator, and Initiator of All) has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means” [al-Nisaa’ 4:34].

Among the reasons for that are the following: 

1. Men are more able to bear this responsibility, just as women are more able than men to take care of the children and the household affairs. So each of them has his or her natural role and position. 

2. In Islam, men are obliged to spend on their wives; the wife does not have to work or earn a living. Even if she has an independent income or she becomes rich, the husband is still obliged to spend on her as much as she needs. Because he bears the responsibility of spending, he is made the protector and maintainer of his wife and is put in charge (of the household). 

Hence we see chaos in the societies which go against that: men do not shoulder the responsibility of spending on their wives, and wives are not obliged to obey their husbands; they go out of the home whenever they want and leave the marital nest empty and neglect their children. A woman has to work hard even if that is at the expense of her house and family. 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” so let's treat our wives well hoping for ALLAH (Al-Muhyi, The Giver of Life) to bless us all. 

*_May ALLAH (Al-Qayyum, The Self Subsisting Sustainer of All) keeps guiding us all and protect us from any satanic influences_*. Aameen.