Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 111* *PEARLS OF MARRIAGE

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 111*

*PEARLS OF MARRIAGE*

In marriage, you will win every battle if you fight it together and you will lose every battle if you fight against each other. In good times and bad, remember that your spouse is always your partner and never your enemy.If they respect you, respect them. If they disrespect you, still respect. Don't allow the actions of others to decrease your good manners.Marriage is so much more than love and romance. It has to be.

A couple struggles together to cope when there is a miscarriage, and the loss of love, dreams, and excitement they had for that child.

A couple struggles together when the bank account is low, hospital bills from a sick child are stacking up, and more work or a higher salary is hard to come by.

A couple struggles together when one of their parents becomes ill, and after years of care, finally returns to our Lord.

A couple struggles together through the tantrums of the toddler years, and the storms of trying to keep a close hold on their kids in the teens and young adult years.

A couple struggles together when facing the loss of their home, or car, or job and how to recreate stability at a time when there seems to be none.

A couple struggles together when one spouse's iman is low, and their faith is teetering on the edge, while the other strives hard to keep them both at a safe distance away from that same sharp edge and dramatic fall.

Marriage is not just about love and romance. It's also about fulfilling this ayah:

"And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought." Quran 30:21

Love and romance are what surrounds the marriage to make ease in hard times, laughter in the midst of stress, passion at the most ironic times.

But it's depth, the meaning of love, and even romance, should be given so much more depth and value. Hollywood romance doesn't even come close to this kind of beauty.

Love is worth the struggle, and the struggle is beautiful. May Allah bless our marriages. AmeenSometimes Allah takes away something you never expected losing, but he WILL replace it with something you never imagined you could have.Dear parent, you refuse to give your daughter to him to marry when he came for her hand in marriage and the reason is that you said she is a small girl(19-20yrs) but in the girls list she has dated about four guys so far and all of them their skin go inside. Please tell me, what do you mean by she is a small girl?

My brother, you are not growing any younger and masha Allah, Allah has richly bless you but you don't want to marry, so what do you want to do?

Real happiness is when a lady is disvirgin after her marriage.

My sisters please please and please never unlock that place to any guy who is not your husband. 

My brother, you have disvirgin her but you want to marry a virgin.

who do you think will marry the one you disvirgin?

My sister, you said you want to enjoy life before you get married.

Who told you that you can't enjoy life in marriage?

Marriage is the only institution that allows a man and a woman from different family to sleep on the same bed.

A man without a wife is like a food without salt or a car without engine or a phone without battery or a classroom without students and so on and so on.

One of the easy ways of attaining paradise is by getting married because of Allah.

My brother you said you are not ready to get married because you don't have money but you have money to be giving to her just for her to open her legs for you.

 if you don't repent the same thing will be done to your daughter or sisters

My sister you are now 37yrs and still not married (because you denied and rejected many guys) and now that you know no one will come for your hand in marriage you are there saying even laadan(a caller to prayers) kraa you will manage him like that. What is paining me is how they say it, "even laadan kraa I will manage him like that".come and marry him now 

I will disagree with anyone who will say marriage is not sweet.When a man and a woman(who are not married) kiss, they get sin but when married people kiss they get blessing.

Subhanallah!!!

My sister are you looking for a perfect man before you get married?, then trust me you will rote in your father's house because there is no perfect man on earth not even me

May Allah help us in our marriages, increase the love between each other, bless them with kids & make things more easier for them.

Those going through hell in their marriages may Allah increase them in sabr & protect their marriages from the devil. Aameen

*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*

*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)