Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 113* *SUNNĀH OF URGENT INTIMACY

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 113*

*SUNNĀH OF URGENT INTIMACY*

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Wallah, Islam has not left anything untouched. A woman can hide her urge for 1 year, but a man cannot conceal his urge for even one day. Marriage doesn't permanently cure lust, it only restrains it. It is not surprising that a married man can still find another woman attractive out there even if he has four wives, but what keeps him from adultery is his Taqwa and self discipline. Men are moved by what they see, hence a man can suddenly be aroused by something he merely glanced at, even if he doesn't steer at it. 

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The naked truth is, even if a woman is covered from head to toes with hijab, Niqab, socks, gloves and even bulletproof, her 'screened' appearance can still move a man. It takes a man just two seconds to be aroused while it takes a woman minutes of foreplay to attain it

عَنْ جَابِرٍ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله 

عليه وسلم رَأَى امْرَأَةً فَأَتَى امْرَأَتَهُ زَيْنَبَ وَهْىَ تَمْعَسُ مَنِيئَةً لَهَا فَقَضَى حَاجَتَهُ ثُمَّ خَرَجَ إِلَى أَصْحَابِهِ فَقَالَ ‏ "‏ إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ تُقْبِلُ فِي صُورَةِ شَيْطَانٍ وَتُدْبِرُ فِي صُورَةِ شَيْطَانٍ فَإِذَا أَبْصَرَ أَحَدُكُمُ امْرَأَةً فَلْيَأْتِ أَهْلَهُ فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ يَرُدُّ مَا فِي نَفْسِهِ

Jabir reported that the prophet (ﷺ) once saw a woman, and so he went to his wife, Zainab, while she was tanning a leather and had sexual intercourse with her. He then went to his Companions and told them:

'A woman approaches and retreats in the tempting shape of shaitan, so when one of you sees a woman, he should quickly go to his wife (for intimacy), it will repel what he feels in his heart.

(Saheeh Muslim 1403) 

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This hadeeth absolutely shows that 'quickie' originated from Islam. If the best of mankind himself was aroused and had to rush to his wife to quench his desire, then how about us with low level of Eeman and Taqwa? So when you see a colleague at work suddenly making excuses that he urgently needs to rush home to attend to his wife's 'jedijedi', then you should know that such a fellow might have seen something tempting, and urgently needs to rush home to quench his desire the Halal way. This is why the prophet said: 

If a man class his wife to his bed, she must answer him even if she is in the kitchen. You never can tell, if you refuse your husband's urgent call and he is still aroused, he may be tempted to masturbate or watch pornography to quench his desire, since you refused to answer him, this is why many married men are involved in such filth today. 

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The Internet these days is so porous and corrupt that your husband may even be browsing through the net, and a provoking picture of a semi naked woman suddenly pops up, even in non-pornographic sites, then it will arouse him, so whenever your husband calls you, answer him even if it's at odd times, even if it's in the middle of a funeral, nature is crazy and doesn't give a damn what you are doing at the moment, when it comes, it must be answered, you are not only fulfilling your husband's rights, you are also saving him from major sins, and of course, the hell fire. Jahannam is as cheap as just one crazy urge. 

May Allāh save us. Ameen

*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*

*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)