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THE COST OF A HAPPY HOME

 *THE COST OF A HAPPY HOME* 


When you see a happy couple, don't envy them or assume they are lucky to find each other. *There is no happy home anywhere* - if you see any be sure they were made. *Being a good person or being religious* doesn't make a happy home *neither does riches and wealth.* Marrying the *most beautiful woman or the most handsome man* doesn't guarantee happiness in marriage either. *Many believers even think marrying another good believer is a sure way to having a happy home but many have been disappointed.* 


What then makes up a happy home? *A happy home is a function of mutual fulfilment derived from mutual selfless commitment to the marital union.* Having a happy home can only be achieved by deliberate efforts and determination of both parties. No matter how much a partner desires a happy home, *it can only happen if the other partner wants and agrees to build a happy home.* 


To achieve a happy home, *therefore both parties must first offer themselves as a living sacrifice on the altar of their marriage.* They must deny themselves and be willing to accept their cross.


 *In a happy home, ego and self are buried in the grave of marital bliss.* Partners in a happy home don't think too much about themselves but the happiness of their spouse. 


 *The journey to a happy home can be initiated by the man or the woman.* This journey starts with *contentment and diligence.* Then it continues in daily *forgiveness and mutual tolerance.* 


 *No couple is happy when they continue to look at each other's weaknesses or offences.* They can only be happy if they *choose to accept each other's* shortcomings and offenses and take their pains and hurts to the Almighty ALLĀH, instead of romancing with them. *Each partner should work on his or her weakness and become a better person for himself or herself and for his or her partner.* Happy couples *don't win arguments,* rather, they communicate to achieve a better union. 


 *Happy couples don't compare their marriage with others,* they are happy and contented with what they have. 


Happy homes are not meant for selfish and inconsiderate partners. Happiness is a choice but the price is not cheap. *Only the humble and the broken can buy it.* 


The manual for a happy home is not designed by the society or social media. *They are designed by the couple.* The ideal home mustn't follow the acceptable trends in the society rather working and practicing what makes the parties happy. 


You can initiate the journey to a happy home today no matter how far you have traveled in the path of bitterness and unforgiveness. *An unhappy home is the junior sibling to hell fire.* A happy home is a reflection of heavenly bliss. The choice is yours today. 


*Give Peace a chance in your marriage.*

✍🏼.

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