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 *The Senate President*

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بسم الله الر حمان الر حيم

Been infected with a disease called suspicion doesn't make you a responsible Senate President in your family. Yes. This can kill your marriage faster than you think:

Senate President Sir!

It is rightful for men to be watchful of their wives but not to an extent of suspicion and distrust.. Some men are suspicious and doubt their wives' faithfulness.. This is dangerous and makes life very difficult for all the family.

A man who is suffering, from this behavior, constantly picks up fault with his wife.. He monitors her closely and follows her everywhere.. He finds supporting evidence for his cause of suspicion from everything.. If he sees his wife talking to a man,, or finds a man looking at her, he would reach certainty with respect to her unfaithfulness. If she expresses her love for him less than before, he would doubt her sincerity. Yes. He might even think that since his daughter does not look like him😀, his wife must have committed adultery. 

Families, who are affected by this illness, suffer a great deal.. The man would act like a *detective*👮 around the house, and his wife would feel as if she was being kept in custody.. They would both suffer mentally and their marriage would become endangered.

A man should give up his fanaticism and extreme jealousy.. He must act logically.. He must be aware that *convicting* his wife of adultery is not a trivial matter, and that such an allegation needs definite proof.

♻Allah states in the Holy Qur'an:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ

" O you who believe! avoid most of suspicion, for surely suspicion in some cases is a sin..." 📚(Q49:12)

As long as a woman's unfaithfulness is *not* proved through firm evidence, a man does not have any right to accuse her, otherwise he would be committing a sin for which, as per Islam, he is to be punished with eighty lashes.

Oga Senate President!

If a woman is seen conversing with a stranger, although she is not right in doing so, this isolated event cannot be held against her as a proof of her unfaithfulness.. This is because she might have thought it rude not to pay heed to that man, or he might have not been a stranger but a friend of her father or brother u dont know.

In brief, 

For all situations which may indicate symptoms of unfaithfulness, one can find tens of good reasons which render the possibility of any wrong doing as void.

I am not saying that, as the Senate President of the family, you should be indifferent or careless but that you should act upon the amount of evidence you possess and not more.

Mr Senate President!

If you are suspicious of your wife, do not discuss it with just anyone whom you see, because they might approve of your suspicion out of enmity, simplicity or carelessness. They might even strengthen your suspicion and cause you unhappiness in this world and the life after.. You should not, specifically inform your mother or sister because they would naturally be in agreement with you and thus increase your suspicion.. You must seek advice from wise and experienced friends or relatives.

The best approach, however, is for you to talk to your wife and ask her for an explanation.. But you should not seek to prove her guilt.. Listen to what she has to tell you and decide like a fair judge who is free from any prejudice.

At least try to believe her and imagine your brother-in-law is presenting you with evidence of your sister's unfaithfulness.. Why should you act mercilessly and regard her as a proven criminal'❓

Now,

To the Madam of the house!

If you feel that he is monitoring your activities or controlling your comings and goings, do not *protest* . Tell him every thing,, tell the truth.. A void lies or denials of the events which have happened.. If he ever finds out that you have been lying about anything, he would regard it as a proof of your infidelity, the damage of which cannot easily be repaired. If your suspicious husband ever asks you not to associate with a certain person or wants you to do a certain task, then, accept his word, otherwise the cause of his doubt in you would strengthen.. In brief, avoid all deeds which could make him suspicious of you.

TO BE CONTINUED....

Allah alone knows best

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك

Share for Allah's sake