Backbiting is sinful; a very bad practice

 Backbiting is sinful; a very bad practice

We have to stop judging people wrongly especially on account of hearsay. Unsubscribe from assuming certain things, ask questions to get facts and save yourself from the sins of backbiting

My bosom friend visited me few months ago and we talked about the prevalence of backbiting/slandering in recent time. We both admitted nobody is completely safe from the heinous act, but we must strive to be conscious of our tongues from leaking unnecessarily. We must make excuses for people when their wrongdoings are brought forward, investigate matters carefully before taking a stand

My friend told me how he saw condoms in his boss' car and initially thought his boss was an adulterer but Allah was merciful to my friend enough to realize afterwards that the condoms could be a device adopted by his boss & wife for child spacing

Make excuses to defend your brother even when you see an alcohol dripping from his beard. It could be that someone poured it on him. Instead of backbiting him when he's gone, confront him and ask questions

Someone's mouth may be reeking alcohol, it could be that he has eaten bonjela; a gel for treating mouth ulcer. You may see a great sheikh following a porn or alcohol page here on facebook, don't be too quick to disrespect him, draw his attention to it. It's very possible that he mistakenly liked the pages or his kids did. Ask questions!

Before you tell some of your friends that a person has mouth odor, think of garlic, it could be that he/she eats garlic frequently. Ask questions!

We live in a society where we see guys/men buying condoms as adulterers or fornicators, and the ladies buying a drug like Misoprostol as condemn women aborting pregnancies

But a condom is a child spacing tool that can be used by married men to prevent their wives from getting pregnant, and YES, Misoprostol can be used for abortions but it's also a drug of choice for preventing ulcers, inducing labors, treating postpartum bleeding, etc

A 17 year old boy can be sent to buy condoms by his father or his married elder brother. A 15 year old girl can be sent to buy Misoprostol drug by her mother or elder sister. Don't be too quick to condemn them or spread tales about them. Call them to order instead, ask questions or talk to their parents to put them in the know of what their children are buying. Don't destroy the image of people's children or siblings on account of just mere assumptions

The ugly situation the society has plunged us into has made many married youngsters (who are still in school) but not ready to make babies yet to become emergency fathers and mothers as a result of an unprotected sex. They couldn't visit chemist shops to buy condoms for fear of being labelled a bad person or slandered.. Biko, if you are my brother here and you are married, and you know that I knew of your marriage, and you are scared of getting condoms from chemist shops. Contact me, I will supply you for free if you are in Okene/Kano

The prophet (May Allah exalt his mention) says: "The poor one in my nation is he who shall bring on the Day of Resurrection prayer, fasting and zakat, but will come having insulted this one, slandered that one, devoured the property of this one, shed the blood of that one, and beaten this one. This one and that one will be given some of his good deeds. But if his good deeds are exhausted before he pays his dues, some of their sins will be taken and cast upon him; and he will then be flung into Hell". (Muslim, no.2581)

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Do you know what gheebah (backbiting) is?" They said, "Allah and His Messenger know best." He said, "Saying something about your brother that he dislikes." It was said, "What if what I say about my brother is true?" He said, "If what you say is true then you have backbitten about him, and if it is not true, then you have slandered him." [Muslim]

May Allah show us mercy, forgive and rectify us. Aameen