DEAR SINGLES

*DEAR SINGLES,*

I share with you this quick tip for the sake of your future happiness and success. 

Being married to the right person is extremely important, given that the quality of your marriage is highly likely to impact almost every aspect of your life.

You may have heard the phrase, 'Love is blind'. Well, that is actually true to a large extent, especially in the early stage of a relationship. 

When you are infatuated with someone, you are very likely to become irrational and not see who they really are. 

When you become obsessed, there is a tendency to focus on the positives and miss the negatives.

Know that when the high of new love fizzles out, this is when the faults of the one you have been obsessing over become easy to see.

The key is to see the faults before you enter the marriage in order to avoid and minimise disappointment, harm and loss to both of you.

Don't be hasty to get married too soon after meeting someone you are attracted to, even if they are a practising Muslim. You can't be certain if you have been listening to the actual person or to the love induced illusion.

Real love as opposed to new love creates a deeper sense of bonding, peace, connection, happiness and warmth.

Know that leaving a short term relationship is painful, and that leaving a long term one can be devastating.

Once you have met a potential spouse, I urge you not to proceed to the next stage until you have done three things.

1. Be sure to ask people about the person you are getting to know (Istishaarah). I don't advise you ask their Ex.

2.  Be sure to sincerely seek out Allah's Divine Guidance (Istikhaarah).  For He will inspire you to see goodness and protect you from the evil of your ownself.  He will make you see the red flags .

3. Be sure to ask your potential partner about everything.

May Allah always inspire you to make the right choices, because they ultimately impact your worldly life and Hereafter. 

- Bilal Dannoun

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