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 *Fighting No More* 

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Every relationship will have its share of disagreements, fights and arguments. It is very hard to feel love in times of conflict especially among married couples.

Husband & Wife❗

Satan is the best destroyer of marriages and hates married couples the most.. Yes.. His best feast is when he manages to split a married couple. He causes doubts between them and make it seem that there is no way out of a particular situation.. And bcos Satan is very much aware of peoples' weak spots, and so approaches them from these angles.

👉Jabir (RA) reported that Allah’s Messenger SAW said:

“Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension) ; and on daily basis,, the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension.. One of them comes and says: “I did so and so.” And he says: “You have done nothing.” Then one amongst them comes and says: *“I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife.”* The Satan goes near him and says: “You have done well.” In another narration,: He then embraces him.” 📚[Sahih Muslim]

So to Iblis (Satan/Shaytan/the accursed devil) there is an ultimate goal considered most beloved and pleasing to him. This is: breaking up between a husband and wife and creating disagreements between them.

But,

Conflict is a part of life.. Yes.. It exists in most relationships and it is not necessarily bad.. This is bcos, whenever you put two unique individuals together, you are going to have two persons who don’t always see eye-to-eye (ie - view things the same way).

Husband & Wife❗

I want to remind you that, no matter the conflict in ur marriage now,, it is *sometimes* NORMAL bcos worse of it is happening everywhere.. You called it Normal❓Yes it is normal.. Maybe it is bcos of our *short-fall* in blocking our marital crises with certain workable wisdoms & approaches.

Did you know❓

That even a person of the stature of the Messenger of Allah (saw) had disagreements with his noble and chaste wives❓and it is recorded in the authentic and established Sunnah that such was the disagreement at one time that the Messenger of Allah (saw) have to leave his house for a period of one full month❗😳. Yes:

👉Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.134 Narrated by Um Salama:~The Prophet (saw) vowed to keep aloof from his wives for a period of one month, and after the completion of 29 days he went either in the morning or in the afternoon to his wives. Someone amongst the wives said to him "You vowed that you would not go to your wives for one month." He (saw) replied, "The month can be of 29 days."

Therefore,

Sometimes it is normal to disagree inorder to agree.. But always try to - *“Be a lover, and not a fighter.”* - This saying implied that in order to have a successful marriage, you should love more and fight less.

Husband & Wife❗

Allah alone knows best.

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك

   *~Ummul~ ~Rushdiyyah~*👩‍❤️‍👨