The Righteous Husband Exemplified by the Messenger of Allāh Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him)* *Part 5
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*The Righteous Husband Exemplified by the Messenger of Allāh Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him)*
*Part 5*
Problems between the righteous people and individuals and families are natural. The difference between us and the companions is that the problem was soon resolved, and the issue was quickly solved, and the issue of stubbornness and persistence and long abandonment did not exist, but today this is worse, the problem continues, and involves courts, defamation, and bad rumours in society, and people talk and violate teach others’ honour.
The example of the honourable Prophet, with his busy life, is the example of the best husband in history; his busy schedule and preoccupations did not prevent him from giving his wives their due rights, even though he was the leader of the state, the carrier of the message, the commander of the army, and the teacher of the people. But none of this came between him and his wives, unlike many Muslims today who violate their wife's rights under the pretext of busy schedule and numerous obligations.
The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) sought to remind the wives and husbands of the common rights. From Al-Husayn Ibn Muhsin that his aunt had come to the Prophet for a favour, when the Prophet said to her, “Do you have a husband?” She said: "Yes", he (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: “How are you with him?”, she said, "I look after him, except for what I am incapable of." He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said, “Look after him. He (his treatment) is your Jannah and Hell.”
And the Prophet’s saying that the husband is the Jannah and Hell shows the great rights of the husband; a wife can enter Jannah for his pleasure and hellfire for his anger.
And we narrate the story of Umm Ad-Darda (R.A.) who explained Abu Darda’s action: 'that he engaged in worship over himself and over his wife's right’, until Salman warned him to take care of all the rights that ensued on him, the right of Allah, the right for himself and for his wife. She summarized the situation and said: "Your brother Abu Ad-Darda has no need in this world!". And the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said, confirming what Salman said:
“Your Lord has a right over you, and your soul have a right and your wife has a right, so give each their due right”. This was a great victory for Umm Ad-Darda. The negligence of the wife is a responsibility. He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: “Whoever gives his wife water to drink, he will be rewarded”. Al-Arbaad said: "I gave my wife water, and then I told her what the Messenger of Allah said."
The Prophet encouraged this work to bond the woman and her husband by the bond of love, and he (Blessings and Peace be upon him) wants the husband to declare this love in ways that captures the heart of the wife and make her live in an atmosphere of joy, happiness and companionship.
And it is not only the drink of water that the Messenger (Blessings and Peace be upon him) has encouraged achieving peace, love and harmony. Let us hear what Sa'ad Ibn Abi Waqqas says that the Messenger of Allāh (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: “Everything you spend for the sake of Allāh gets you a reward, even when you feed your wife with your hand."
The Sunnah of the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) preceded the so-called "Etiquettes". Imagine a couple at the dining table feeding each other, and imagine how happy they are.
*(...To be continued In-sha-Allah!)*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur'an 51:55)
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*The Righteous Husband Exemplified by the Messenger of Allāh Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him)*
*Part 5*
Problems between the righteous people and individuals and families are natural. The difference between us and the companions is that the problem was soon resolved, and the issue was quickly solved, and the issue of stubbornness and persistence and long abandonment did not exist, but today this is worse, the problem continues, and involves courts, defamation, and bad rumours in society, and people talk and violate teach others’ honour.
The example of the honourable Prophet, with his busy life, is the example of the best husband in history; his busy schedule and preoccupations did not prevent him from giving his wives their due rights, even though he was the leader of the state, the carrier of the message, the commander of the army, and the teacher of the people. But none of this came between him and his wives, unlike many Muslims today who violate their wife's rights under the pretext of busy schedule and numerous obligations.
The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) sought to remind the wives and husbands of the common rights. From Al-Husayn Ibn Muhsin that his aunt had come to the Prophet for a favour, when the Prophet said to her, “Do you have a husband?” She said: "Yes", he (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: “How are you with him?”, she said, "I look after him, except for what I am incapable of." He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said, “Look after him. He (his treatment) is your Jannah and Hell.”
And the Prophet’s saying that the husband is the Jannah and Hell shows the great rights of the husband; a wife can enter Jannah for his pleasure and hellfire for his anger.
And we narrate the story of Umm Ad-Darda (R.A.) who explained Abu Darda’s action: 'that he engaged in worship over himself and over his wife's right’, until Salman warned him to take care of all the rights that ensued on him, the right of Allah, the right for himself and for his wife. She summarized the situation and said: "Your brother Abu Ad-Darda has no need in this world!". And the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said, confirming what Salman said:
“Your Lord has a right over you, and your soul have a right and your wife has a right, so give each their due right”. This was a great victory for Umm Ad-Darda. The negligence of the wife is a responsibility. He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: “Whoever gives his wife water to drink, he will be rewarded”. Al-Arbaad said: "I gave my wife water, and then I told her what the Messenger of Allah said."
The Prophet encouraged this work to bond the woman and her husband by the bond of love, and he (Blessings and Peace be upon him) wants the husband to declare this love in ways that captures the heart of the wife and make her live in an atmosphere of joy, happiness and companionship.
And it is not only the drink of water that the Messenger (Blessings and Peace be upon him) has encouraged achieving peace, love and harmony. Let us hear what Sa'ad Ibn Abi Waqqas says that the Messenger of Allāh (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: “Everything you spend for the sake of Allāh gets you a reward, even when you feed your wife with your hand."
The Sunnah of the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) preceded the so-called "Etiquettes". Imagine a couple at the dining table feeding each other, and imagine how happy they are.
*(...To be continued In-sha-Allah!)*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur'an 51:55)
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