The Righteous Husband Exemplified by the Messenger of Allāh Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him)* *Part 6 (Final)
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*The Righteous Husband Exemplified by the Messenger of Allāh Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him)*
*Part 6 (Final)*
One of the important means in the cause of reform and the quest to improve the relationship is the advise to be patient, as did Abu Bakr (may Allāh be pleased with him), with his daughter Asma, whose husband was busy, and so she complained to him from jealousy, he said: "O daughter be patient, if the woman has a good husband, and died before her, and she did not marry after him, they will be united in Paradise”. If the wife has mistakes, then the path of the faithful is to ignore the errors and overcome them and not disclose and spread them, while reviewing the memory to search for the good and positive qualities. He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said:
“The mu'min (believing) husband should not despise his mu'min (believing) wife because if there is any quality he dislikes in her he will certainly be pleased another.”
[Muslim]
Good relationship is not only by stopping from harming the wife, but also to have patience with her anger and unreasonable behaviour when there is harm expected from her, and to understand her feelings and her feelings of jealousy. The husband’s patience with the wife is one of the doors of Jannah, and we have the best example in the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him).
Anas Bin Malik narrated: “While the Prophet was in the house of one of his wives. One of the mothers of the believers sent a meal in a dish. The wife at whose house the Prophet was struck the hand of the servant, causing the dish to fall and break. The Prophet gathered the broken pieces of the dish and then started collecting on them the food which had been in the dish and said, “Your mother felt jealous.” Then he detained the servant till a (sound) dish was brought from the wife at whose house he was. He gave the sound dish to the wife whose dish had been broken, and kept the broken one at the house where it had been broken.”
From the good relationship that Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) ordered is to look at the good qualities of the wife and dislike looking at the bad ones. There is no perfect human being, and there are husbands who focus on the bad only: some defects in the shape of the wife, in her morals, in her nature, but she is virtuous, chaste, honest, clean, and obedient. But he ignores the good, and highlights her mistakes. This is not good relationship, and is unfair and unjust.
Our beloved Messenger (Blessings and Peace be upon him) groomed and used perfume for his wives, 'Ā'ishah (may Allāh be pleased with her) said: as if I see the whiteness of the musk in the intersection of the Messenger of Allah’s hair. And she was asked: "What was the first thing the Prophet do when he enters his house?" She said: "He started with Siwak." He does not want his wives to smell the smell of food he ate.
And it is necessary in the marital life to show fondness to the wife. Once Ali (may Allāh be pleased with him) came in and saw his wife Fātimah (may Allāh be pleased with her) using the miswak (tooth brush). He angrily took the miswak off her hand and held it up in front of his eyes. While looking at it, he said: “Fortunate are you oh stick of the Arrak (tree), how could you be in my wife's mouth! Aren't you afraid that I would see you? Had you been of the people of war, I would have killed you! None other than you, oh siwak, has been spared from me!”
This is our master Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him) as a husband; these are some examples of his treatment and his morals with his wives; he (Blessings and Peace be upon him) was the best husband ever. This is the marital life that is the basis of the family's happiness in the life of our Messenger and his noble companions, so as Muslims we must abide by what the early Muslims have committed to, and they produced for us heroes who carried Islam and raised its banner. Allāh willing, there will be heroes in the Ummah of Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him) who will restore the glory of Islam by adhering to the commands of Allāh and His beloved Messenger. We invite you to a peaceful, merciful and faithful marital life following the Sunnah of the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) and the companions to enjoy it in this world and to be rewarded for it in the Hereafter.
*Alhamdulillah!* This is the end.
May Allāh guide us. Ameen
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur'an 51:55)
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*The Righteous Husband Exemplified by the Messenger of Allāh Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him)*
*Part 6 (Final)*
One of the important means in the cause of reform and the quest to improve the relationship is the advise to be patient, as did Abu Bakr (may Allāh be pleased with him), with his daughter Asma, whose husband was busy, and so she complained to him from jealousy, he said: "O daughter be patient, if the woman has a good husband, and died before her, and she did not marry after him, they will be united in Paradise”. If the wife has mistakes, then the path of the faithful is to ignore the errors and overcome them and not disclose and spread them, while reviewing the memory to search for the good and positive qualities. He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said:
“The mu'min (believing) husband should not despise his mu'min (believing) wife because if there is any quality he dislikes in her he will certainly be pleased another.”
[Muslim]
Good relationship is not only by stopping from harming the wife, but also to have patience with her anger and unreasonable behaviour when there is harm expected from her, and to understand her feelings and her feelings of jealousy. The husband’s patience with the wife is one of the doors of Jannah, and we have the best example in the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him).
Anas Bin Malik narrated: “While the Prophet was in the house of one of his wives. One of the mothers of the believers sent a meal in a dish. The wife at whose house the Prophet was struck the hand of the servant, causing the dish to fall and break. The Prophet gathered the broken pieces of the dish and then started collecting on them the food which had been in the dish and said, “Your mother felt jealous.” Then he detained the servant till a (sound) dish was brought from the wife at whose house he was. He gave the sound dish to the wife whose dish had been broken, and kept the broken one at the house where it had been broken.”
From the good relationship that Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) ordered is to look at the good qualities of the wife and dislike looking at the bad ones. There is no perfect human being, and there are husbands who focus on the bad only: some defects in the shape of the wife, in her morals, in her nature, but she is virtuous, chaste, honest, clean, and obedient. But he ignores the good, and highlights her mistakes. This is not good relationship, and is unfair and unjust.
Our beloved Messenger (Blessings and Peace be upon him) groomed and used perfume for his wives, 'Ā'ishah (may Allāh be pleased with her) said: as if I see the whiteness of the musk in the intersection of the Messenger of Allah’s hair. And she was asked: "What was the first thing the Prophet do when he enters his house?" She said: "He started with Siwak." He does not want his wives to smell the smell of food he ate.
And it is necessary in the marital life to show fondness to the wife. Once Ali (may Allāh be pleased with him) came in and saw his wife Fātimah (may Allāh be pleased with her) using the miswak (tooth brush). He angrily took the miswak off her hand and held it up in front of his eyes. While looking at it, he said: “Fortunate are you oh stick of the Arrak (tree), how could you be in my wife's mouth! Aren't you afraid that I would see you? Had you been of the people of war, I would have killed you! None other than you, oh siwak, has been spared from me!”
This is our master Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him) as a husband; these are some examples of his treatment and his morals with his wives; he (Blessings and Peace be upon him) was the best husband ever. This is the marital life that is the basis of the family's happiness in the life of our Messenger and his noble companions, so as Muslims we must abide by what the early Muslims have committed to, and they produced for us heroes who carried Islam and raised its banner. Allāh willing, there will be heroes in the Ummah of Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him) who will restore the glory of Islam by adhering to the commands of Allāh and His beloved Messenger. We invite you to a peaceful, merciful and faithful marital life following the Sunnah of the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) and the companions to enjoy it in this world and to be rewarded for it in the Hereafter.
*Alhamdulillah!* This is the end.
May Allāh guide us. Ameen
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur'an 51:55)
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