The Righteous Husband Exemplified by the Messenger of Allah Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him)* *Part 4
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*The Righteous Husband Exemplified by the Messenger of Allah Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him)*
*Part 4*
The companions and the salaf (first Muslim generations) continued in this path in the issue of caring for the married life, its reform and being involved and practicing good intervention. Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) was angry one day with his wife, so she argued with him, and he objected that she argues with him. His wife said: "Why do you object that I disagree with you? By Allah the Prophet’s wives argue with him and they do not talk to him till the night." So he paid his daughter Hafsa (R.A.) a special visit, and said: “O Hafsa, do you (wives of the Prophet) argue with him and stay away from him until the night? If they ask him for nafaqa and he does not have it, do they get angry and not speak to him (Blessings and Peace be upon him) until the evening.” She said: "Yes, this happens", Umar (R.A.) said: “you are mistaken and lost, do you feel safe of Allah’s anger for the Prophet’s anger? If so then you will be in Hellfire!”
The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) also put great efforts in the reform between the spouses, such as what happened with Ali Ibn Abi Talib (may Allāh be pleased with him) and his wife Fatima (R.A.), the daughter of the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him), and they are from the best of the spouses on the face of the earth. She is the daughter of the first of the women in Jannah and he is the Prophet’s cousin and the fourth guided caliph, and the father of the masters of the youth of Paradise, Hassan and Hussein, (may Allāh be pleased with them). Was their life completely free of problems? No, it was not. Al-Bukhari (may Allāh have mercy on him) narrated that Sahl Ibn Sa'ad said:
“The Messenger of Allāh came to Fatima's house and did not find Ali (R.A.) in the house.” This is a time when the husband is supposed to be in the house, and its sleeping time. And since the husband is not present, this implies that something uncomfortable took place. He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said, “Where is your cousin?” He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) did not say where is your husband, because he felt that there was something wrong, so he (Blessings and Peace be upon him) wanted to remind her of their relation so that her heart can change in favour of her husband and be filled with mercy, so she can focus on her relation first than being her husband, so this will be the beginning of the solution. She said: “We had an argument; he was angry with me and left”.
So what did the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) do with the husband? Did he take his daughter with him to his house and demanded that he comes and apologize because he made a mistake against his daughter? Did he take her without the permission of her husband? Was he negative and said: Let them deal with this between them? No, by Allāh he did not do this, but he (Blessings and Peace be upon him) took care of it and sought reform, giving a lesson to parents after him, that the father of the wife is responsible even after the marriage of his daughter, and does what is in her interest. The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) came searching for him, and someone said, "He is there, lying near the wall." The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) came to him while his (`Ali's) back was covered with dust. The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) started removing the dust from his back, saying,
“Get up, O Abu Turab!”
He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) came himself to look for the husband, and wiped off the dust; this gesture alone has many implications, and great meanings, and great effects; this nickname was most loved to Ali (R.A.). The Prophet reconciled Ali (R.A.) and Fatima (R.A.).
And the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) ruled between them when they complained about the house work. He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said that she does the housework inside the house, and Ali does all that is done outside the house, Ibn Habib said: The work inside the house is making the dough, the cooking, the beddings, the cleaning of the house, getting the water and the work of the whole house.
*(....To be continued In-sha-Allah!)*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur'an 51:55)
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*The Righteous Husband Exemplified by the Messenger of Allah Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him)*
*Part 4*
The companions and the salaf (first Muslim generations) continued in this path in the issue of caring for the married life, its reform and being involved and practicing good intervention. Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) was angry one day with his wife, so she argued with him, and he objected that she argues with him. His wife said: "Why do you object that I disagree with you? By Allah the Prophet’s wives argue with him and they do not talk to him till the night." So he paid his daughter Hafsa (R.A.) a special visit, and said: “O Hafsa, do you (wives of the Prophet) argue with him and stay away from him until the night? If they ask him for nafaqa and he does not have it, do they get angry and not speak to him (Blessings and Peace be upon him) until the evening.” She said: "Yes, this happens", Umar (R.A.) said: “you are mistaken and lost, do you feel safe of Allah’s anger for the Prophet’s anger? If so then you will be in Hellfire!”
The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) also put great efforts in the reform between the spouses, such as what happened with Ali Ibn Abi Talib (may Allāh be pleased with him) and his wife Fatima (R.A.), the daughter of the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him), and they are from the best of the spouses on the face of the earth. She is the daughter of the first of the women in Jannah and he is the Prophet’s cousin and the fourth guided caliph, and the father of the masters of the youth of Paradise, Hassan and Hussein, (may Allāh be pleased with them). Was their life completely free of problems? No, it was not. Al-Bukhari (may Allāh have mercy on him) narrated that Sahl Ibn Sa'ad said:
“The Messenger of Allāh came to Fatima's house and did not find Ali (R.A.) in the house.” This is a time when the husband is supposed to be in the house, and its sleeping time. And since the husband is not present, this implies that something uncomfortable took place. He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said, “Where is your cousin?” He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) did not say where is your husband, because he felt that there was something wrong, so he (Blessings and Peace be upon him) wanted to remind her of their relation so that her heart can change in favour of her husband and be filled with mercy, so she can focus on her relation first than being her husband, so this will be the beginning of the solution. She said: “We had an argument; he was angry with me and left”.
So what did the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) do with the husband? Did he take his daughter with him to his house and demanded that he comes and apologize because he made a mistake against his daughter? Did he take her without the permission of her husband? Was he negative and said: Let them deal with this between them? No, by Allāh he did not do this, but he (Blessings and Peace be upon him) took care of it and sought reform, giving a lesson to parents after him, that the father of the wife is responsible even after the marriage of his daughter, and does what is in her interest. The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) came searching for him, and someone said, "He is there, lying near the wall." The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) came to him while his (`Ali's) back was covered with dust. The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) started removing the dust from his back, saying,
“Get up, O Abu Turab!”
He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) came himself to look for the husband, and wiped off the dust; this gesture alone has many implications, and great meanings, and great effects; this nickname was most loved to Ali (R.A.). The Prophet reconciled Ali (R.A.) and Fatima (R.A.).
And the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) ruled between them when they complained about the house work. He (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said that she does the housework inside the house, and Ali does all that is done outside the house, Ibn Habib said: The work inside the house is making the dough, the cooking, the beddings, the cleaning of the house, getting the water and the work of the whole house.
*(....To be continued In-sha-Allah!)*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur'an 51:55)
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