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_*My wedding date 1*_


Assalamu alaikum warhamatullah wabarakatuhu..  


Hope we all are in the best of health and conditions..  Quite some time..  


Don't be too carried away by the heading..  Am not announcing any wedding date 😜😜


But.. 🤔🤔


How did we(married) feel the day our wedding date was announced??  


And to the single, how will you feel the day your wedding date is fixed??  


We become excited..  I mean super excited..  


And begin to prepare for that big day..  As they say "it's *my day*" and it's "once in a life time".. 


SubhanaAllah, let me begin with the parents..  Gone were the days when parents will seat their child and educate them on how to live a blissful marital life..  


"O son, if you want to live peacefully with a woman, you must exercise patience and you must not comment on everything..  You must ignore the little mistakes..  You are the head. You must now take important decisions not just for yourself..  But for the family.." etc..  


And to the daughters..  


"O daughter you will soon go to your husband's house, be gentle, calm and peaceful..  He is your head and you must obey and respect him at all time.. You must seek his permissions at all times and ensure he is pleased with you..  

Men are men, sometimes you may need to clean his mess. Your husband is your head, even when you disagree with him.. Tell him in a beautiful manner" etc.. 


Perhaps the last time most of us saw or witness this was in a movie... 😏😏


Even movies these days I doubt if they remember things like this..  😏😏


Preparation for *wedding* is now a substitute for preparation for *marriage*..  


Wedding is a day or two event..  marriage is an institution..  


If only we will worry more about our marriage (the aftermath of wedding) than we worry about our wedding; parties, ceremonies etc.. 


Couples will live a happier life..  


Weddings are no longer once in a life time, because we seem to have deviated from the path..  


You see marriages collapsing weeks, months and a year or two after the millions and thousands spent...  


And at 30 some sisters have already married more than one man and some men have divorced even 2 different women..  



May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us mercy and understanding..  Aameen Aameen Aameen 


_*To be continued....*_


#Ponder

#Reflect 

#Deepthinking 


Ibn Musa 


*Deepthinking 2*


*_My wedding date 2_*


Assalamu alaikum warhamatullah wabarakatuhu 


Like every other act of ibaadah that we should learn and practice according to the shariah..  


Marriage is no exception..  We need to learn the concept, practice according to the teachings of the nabiyy salallahu alaihi wa salaam..  


The nabiyy salallahu alaihi wa salaam was reported to have stated that marriage is amongst his sunnah..  


Do you practice the sunnah of the nabiyy salallahu alaihi wa salaam Your Own way?? 🤔🤔


Parents should therefore understand that it is more important for one to know what is required of newly married couples in the institution of marriage..  Preparing their mindset on how to coexist, appreciate, love and most importantly exercise patience in marriages..  


Don't just tell the young to get married...  Let them know that they need to learn to make sacrifices and make decisions that will affect others hence they should be considerate..  


Don't exhaust too much time in preparing for wedding, the ashoebi, anko, parties etc..  


Forgetting to educate your child on what is expected of him or her in the new journey he or she is about to embark on..  


May Allah subhanahu wa taala amend that which broken in our marriages..  Grant us guidance and understanding..  Aameen Aameen 


Getting married is not the problem... 


Remaining in it is the issue. 

And this we need to learn! 👌


May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us pious spouses..  Aameen Aameen 


#Ponder 

#Reflect

#Nikkah

#Deepthinking 


Ibn Musa

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