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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

My brother, my sister, read this message carefully.

You must learn to accept your spouse for who they are. Indeed, one of the major causes of marital conflict is the habit of comparing one's husband or wife with Mr A or Mrs B whom one admires from a distance.

Sometimes, we look at other people's marriages and assume that their spouses are more loving, caring, understanding and responsible than ours. We forget that we only see what they choose to show us, not necessarily what happens behind closed doors.

Listen!

By the time you get closer to those people you consider perfect and discover their own shortcomings, you may begin to appreciate the person you have at home. 😷

After all, nobody is entirely bad, just as nobody is entirely good. Every human being has strengths and weaknesses, including you and me.

Allah (SWT) reminds us in the Qur'an:

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِٱلْمَعْرُوفِۚ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰٓ أَن تَكْرَهُوا۟ شَيْـًٔا وَيَجْعَلَ ٱللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا

"And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them, perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good."

📚 Surah An-Nisa' 4:19

Therefore, learn to appreciate your better half and accept that nobody is perfect. Where there are shortcomings, make sincere efforts to address them through patience, Du'a, constructive communication, kindness, thoughtful gestures and other permissible means. Marriage requires understanding, sacrifice and a willingness to grow together.

Now, let us consider another important issue.

Not every disagreement or sudden change in a marriage should be dismissed as an ordinary marital misunderstanding.

Sometimes, a husband or wife may suddenly become unusually hostile, withdrawn or emotionally distant. Someone who once demonstrated genuine affection may begin to behave as though they no longer have any love or consideration for their spouse.

We have also heard of situations in which outsiders allegedly resort to seeking the assistance of devils to destroy peaceful marriages and families for selfish reasons.

In such circumstances, a wise husband or wife should not immediately resort to retaliation, hostility or the attitude of "do me, I do you." Such reactions may only deepen the problem.

Muslim faithful!

This world is full of trials, temptations and evils that can leave people emotionally distressed and spiritually vulnerable. Ultimately, Allah (SWT) alone is the Protector, and He is the One to whom we must turn for help, guidance and deliverance.

Oh, my people!

Rather than immediately concluding that you married the wrong person because your spouse's behaviour has changed, turn sincerely to Allah (SWT).

Make Ayatul-Kursiy (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:255) part of your regular recitation and maintain the authentic morning and evening adhkar, alongside other established supplications for protection.

Recite Ayatul-Kursiy with sincerity, seeking Allah's protection against the evil of Shaytan, harmful influences and every form of evil. There is no need to invent a special number or prescribed period for its recitation where none has been established.

Remember, however, that marital difficulties can also arise from psychological, emotional, financial, medical and interpersonal challenges. Therefore, do not automatically attribute every change in your spouse's behaviour to magic or evil influences. Seek appropriate advice and professional assistance where necessary.

You see!

When we hold firmly to the rope of Allah, seek His protection and remain steadfast in obedience to Him, we place our trust in the strongest Protector.

Never allow desperation to push you into the hands of fortune-tellers, fraudulent spiritual healers or so-called Alfas and Mallams who exploit people's vulnerability. Some may demand money, make questionable claims or involve practices that contradict Islamic teachings.

Even if someone experiences temporary relief through such individuals, it should never be taken as proof that their methods are Islamically acceptable.

But remember!

Ayatul-Kursiy, together with authentic prophetic supplications, regular prayers, sincere repentance and obedience to Allah, forms an important part of a Muslim's spiritual protection.

No human being can guarantee permanent protection from every trial or evil. Our duty is to seek Allah's protection, take the permissible means available to us and place our complete trust in Him.

May Allah (SWT) protect our marriages, preserve our families, remove hatred and resentment from our hearts, expose every harmful plot and bless our homes with love, mercy, tranquillity and understanding.

Ameen Ya Rabbal Aalameen.