Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 150* *I HAVE DISCOVERED THAT LOVE DOESN'T GUARANTEE THE SUCCESS OF A RELATIONSHIP

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 150*

*I HAVE DISCOVERED THAT LOVE DOESN'T GUARANTEE THE SUCCESS OF A RELATIONSHIP*

Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating

isn't always a product of not loving your partner.

In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with any other person.

Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart, it work out because

of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because time will come when you'll see more beautiful,

handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.

In those times, love will not help you, but self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue, commitment will keep you going.

With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people don't see better people than the one they married?

You think they don't feel funny sometimes and bodily emotions run wild?

You think they don't catch feelings? 

They do!

But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal

that destroys that impulse.

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship

takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them in the first place. 

It takes more than love.

We are too fond of loving when it's convenient, when it's sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there; 

but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the so called amazing relationship.

After then, you'll realise that those feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility

to make it work, not love's responsibility.

Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about

love, it requires commitment, it requires intelligence.

On the long run, in marriage, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment. Everyone falls in love, it takes little or no effort to do that.

But staying in love is the real test?

Building a relationship?

Only the strong and committed ones can do that.

That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one person.

Discipline yourself, bridle your emotions. 

Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a

career, It's like pursuing a dream.

It's always tough, and at some point it will be so bitter but you can only make it work

by putting your heads together, to scale through those trying times by being focussed and committed.

The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will

keep them together.

Be emotionally strong!

Be self disciplined.

Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that.

It works great and so perfect and

rewarding with people of like minds, people of the same believes, people that share the

same school of thought.

So,

. Build_yourself

. Be_Disciplined

. Stay_Committed

. Trust_Allah. 

It works for the like minds!

{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}

"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers." (Qur-ān 51:55)