Guidelines To Intimacy In Islam Episode 37

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Guidelines To Intimacy In Islam

Episode 37

Guidelines for Foreplay---Kissing-on the Lips

Kissing one's spouse is an essential part of foreplay and a Sunnahh of Rasulullaah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Sayyida Ā'isha narrates that Urwah said:

 

'Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم kissed one of his wives.”

Urwa [the narrator from Sayyida 'A'isha]says, "I asked Sayyida 'A'isha RA,

"It must have been you?" [Upon hearing this] Sayyida 'A'isha smiled." (Sunan al-Tirmidhi 86, Sunan Abu Dawud 181 and Sunan al-Nasa'i 170)

This Hadith indicates that kissing one's spouse is recommended, and it demonstrates the importance of kissing one's wife whenever one enters or leaves the house. This was the Sunnah of the beloved Rasul of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم .As such we should practice upon this Sunnah when leaving home and when returning home. 

Upon entering, grab her and kiss her with a passion and then hit her with a poem 

that you have by now byhearted. The question thereafter will be, ‘To eat or not to 

eat?’ cause brother, are you gonna get lucky.

Passionate kissing (or French kissing) is also a Sunnah of Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم . Sayyida 'Ā'ishah relates that:

'Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم would kiss her whilst he was fasting, and he would suck on her tongue." (Sunan Abu Dawud 2378)

According to the Hanafi and most other jurists, kissing one's spouse passionately to the point that it results in the exchange of saliva invalidates one's fast, necessitating both a make-up (qadaa) fast and expiation (kaffaara). (Maraaq'i al-Falaah P: 667)

Explanation of this Hadith

As far as this hadith is concerned, in which Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم kissed his wife 

passionately whilst fasting, scholars explain that, 

a) Firstly, Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم would ensure not to swallow her saliva. The sucking onthe tongue was very restrained and not to the point where saliva was exchanged 

and swallowed.

b) Secondly, it is possible to interpret it, so that sucking on the tongue is not connected to fasting.

As such, the meaning of the hadith is that Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم would kiss Sayyida Ā'isha whilst he was fasting, and normally when he kissed her (when he was not fasting), he would kiss her passionately and suck on her tongue.

(See: Ibn Hajar al-Asqalaani Fath al-Baar'i 4:195 and Khalil Ahmad Saharanpuri, Badhl al-Majhud fi Haal Abu Dawud 11 :202-203)

In this way, both spouses should kiss each other passionately during foreplay, and 

there is nothing wrong if saliva is exchanged. Licking or sucking each other's tongues is not only allowed, but a Sunnah of the beloved of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم .One may also suck the lower or upper lip of one's spouse. Biting softly on the lip is also allowed, provided the spouse is not hurt or harmed by it.

Kissing-Not confined to the Lips

Kissing is not restricted to the lips and mouth. One may also kiss other parts of the body such as the cheeks, forehead, tip of the nose, behind the ear or suck on the earlobe, the eyelid, back of the neck, palm of the hand, fingers, wrist, forearm, waist, stomach, navel, chest and breast, spine, behind the knees, thighs and the 

leg. In other words, it is permitted to shower one's spouse with kisses all over. 

Just as kissing these body parts is permitted, it is likewise allowed to lick them.

As for the area close to the genitalia, one must ensure that no impurity comes into contact with the mouth, since consuming impurities is explicitly forbidden. It is best to avoid getting too close to the genital area with the mouth. This will be explained in more detail in the section pertaining to "oral sex" In sha' Allaah 

Ta’aala.