Guidelines To Intimacy In Islam* Episode 35 SEDUCTION AND FOREPLAY

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*Guidelines To Intimacy In Islam*

Episode 35

SEDUCTION AND FOREPLAY

Introduction

In this section we will discuss those alluring and sensuous whisperings as well as those enjoyable pleasurable actions that ought to take place so that coitus can be relished by both husband and wife. They are:

Seductive Language

To set the scene, the husband should be gentle and affectionate, expressing his 

love for her with words that will seduce her. He should remember that women 

get "turned on" by what is said and the meaning behind the words is as important 

as the words itslef. It is all about how his words make her feel. It's a set of actions, 

and every small thing the husband does matters, and will help contribute to a 

healthy sexual encounter.

There is a subtle indication of the usage of seductive language in the Qur'an also. 

Allaah Ta’aala says:

''Your wives are tillage for you to cultivate. So approach your tillage from where 

you wish, but do some good act for yourselves beforehand; and fear Allaah 

Ta’aala." (Qur'an 2:223)

Some Mufassireen say that the phrase "but do some good act for yourselves 

beforehand" refers to the importance of things that come before coitus itself, 

such as having a correct intention, reciting the appropriate Du'a, and foreplay in 

increasing interest and making the matter easier. (Tafsir Abi al-Sa'ud 1:223 and 

Tafsir al-Kasshaaf 1:294)

Imam Abu Nu'aim narrates in Dala'el Al-Nubuwa with an isnad including Imam 

Bukharithat once Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم was sitting in a room with Aisha RA and fixing his 

shoes. It was very warm, and Aisha ra looked at his blessed forehead and noticed 

that there were beads of sweat on it. She became overwhelmed by the majesty of 

that sight and was staring at him for a long enough time for him to notice.

He صلى الله عليه وسلم said, "What's the matter?" 

She replied, "If Abu Bukair Al-Huthali, the poet, saw you, he would know that his 

poem was written for you."

Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم asked, "What did he say?" 

She replied, "Abu Bukair said that if you looked to the majesty of the moon, it 

twinkles and lights up the world for everybody to see."

So Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم got up, walked to Aisha, kissed her between the eyes, and said,

"Wallahi ya Aisha, you are like that to me and more."

look at the friendly and loving discussion between Rasulullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم and Asha RA. In 

marriage, flattery will get you everywhere. Comose poems if you so feel and 

express your love for in that way. Or if you so desire, tell her ‘Roses are red…’

Whisper into her beautifully curved ear:

“If I thought for just one moment that this would be my last breath,

I'd tell you I'll love you forever, even beyond death.

If I thought for just one moment that your face would be the last I'd see,

I'd take a million pictures and save them just for me”

Or:

“When I say I love you, please believe it's true.

When I say forever, know I'll never leave you.

When I say goodbye, promise me you won't cry,

Because the day I'll be saying that will be the day I die”

Or:

L is for 'laughter' we share along the way.

O is for 'optimism' you give me every day.

V is for 'value' of being my best friend.

E is for 'eternity,' a love that has no end

Let us say goodbye for now to seductive words and turn to the physical act that 

proceeds from there, that being foreplay. Under this topic we will discuss its 

importance as per the teachings of the Sharia’h, as well as some guidelines for the 

act of foreplay. In other words, what is permissible and what is not.