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Stop asking “How was anyone's wedding night”?

 Stop asking “How was anyone's wedding night”? Or Sex Stories, Very shamefully so it has become a norm to boast and talk about ones sex life infront of friends. Especially after the wedding night everyone gathers and asks "how was it" and brides and grooms describe it to their friends shamelessly.


In some cultures the men wait outside the bedroom till the groom tosses out his shirt or bedsheet with the blood of his bride proving she was virgin! Astaghfirullah like infinite times! Eyuuuuuuuu *cringes and shudders*


I remember nearly 3 sisters casually dropped the information of their sex lifes infront of me before I could realise what happened and I could stop them.


Please dont do that. It is mentally scarring, unislamic and downright disgusting. 


And when I did realise I told them not to tell me such things in future ever. You will most probably get a response "but I am educating you!" Tell them I will get educated through books and seerah of Prophet. Sadly many make it an ego issue or call you over sensitive if you donot listen.


No one wants to know how you did it or how many times you did.


Sex is not something animalistic in Islam.

It is a spiritual and intimate relationship. If your friends are telling you their sex stories stop them and don't be shy or embarrassed to be upfront about it.


Pleasing Allah should take precedence over pleasing people.


Subhan'Allah look at what Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said about this very issue.


It was reported from Asmaa’ bint Yazeed that she was with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and men and women were sitting with him, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Would any man say what he did with his wife? Would any woman tell others what she did with her husband?” The people kept quiet and did not answer. I [Asmaa’] said: “Yes, by Allaah, O Messenger of Allaah, they (women) do that, and they (men) do that.” He said, “Do not do that. It is like a male devil meeting a female devil in the road and having intercourse with her whilst the people are watching.”


(Narrated by Abu Dawood, no. 1/339; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Adaab al-Zafaaf, p. 143).

 

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