AbdurRahman

﷽ *Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 5* *NOT EVERYTHING IS WORTH TALKING ABOUT* In my experience as a married person, I must say that talking about everything you see at home as a husband is quite problematic. Some men just can't keep quiet. They find everything worth speaking about. Complaining a lot leads to disrespect. And it is a sign of not being considerate. Only Almighty Allāh is perfect. And we are all not perfect in one aspect or another. When a wife has a lot of home chores to achieve, sometimes you overlook her weakness and failures, not because you should not correct her, but because it is not easy to run a house. Sometimes when she is too occupied doing one thing or another, you can chip in as a husband to assist. Take, for instance, you saw some dirt on the floor, you don't need to always point at such things, simply, pick it up and throw it away. Some men might feel arrogant to do so, well, give a try and see the result. But when yo...

﷽ *AR-RAHĪQ AL-MAKHTOUM (The Pure Nectar). A Treaties On Prophet Muhammad's Biography.* *Part 143* *THE BATTLE OF AL-AHZĀB continues* Jābir narrated: "We were digging (the trench) on the day of Al-Khandaq (the trench) and we came across a big solid rock. We went to the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) and said: "Here is a rock appearing across the trench." He said: "I am coming down." Then he got up with a stone tied to his belly for we had not eaten anything for three days. The Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) took the spade and struck the big solid rock and it became like sand." Al-Barrā Ibn 'Azib said: "On the day of Al-Khandaq (Trench) we came across a big solid rock that spades couldn't break. We informed the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) of that. He came and took the spade, said, 'in the name of Allāh and gave one stroke to the rock. Thereupon he said: "Allāh is the Greatest. I will be...

 ﷽ *First Hadīth Of The Day* حَدَّثَنَا  مُسَدَّدٌ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى، عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، قَالَ  حَدَّثَنِي قَيْسٌ، عَنْ أَبِي مَسْعُودٍ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى  الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ الشَّمْسُ وَالْقَمَرُ لاَ  يَنْكَسِفَانِ لِمَوْتِ أَحَدٍ وَلاَ لِحَيَاتِهِ، وَلَكِنَّهُمَا آيَتَانِ  مِنْ آيَاتِ اللَّهِ، فَإِذَا رَأَيْتُمُوهُمَا فَصَلُّوا ‏" ‏‏.‏  Narrated Abu Mas`ud:                        Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "The sun and the moon do not eclipse because of someone's death or life but they  are two signs amongst the signs of Allah, so pray whenever you see them." Sahih Bukhari  (Eclipses) Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 1057 In-book reference : Book 16, Hadith 16 ﷽ *Second Hadīth Of The Day* حَدَّثَنَا  عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامٌ، أَخْبَرَنَا  مَعْمَرٌ، عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، وَهِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ،...

 ﷽ *Surah Aal-e-Imran, Verse 41:* قَالَ رَبِّ اجْعَل لِّي آيَةً قَالَ آيَتُكَ أَلَّا تُكَلِّمَ النَّاسَ ثَلَاثَةَ أَيَّامٍ إِلَّا رَمْزًا وَاذْكُر رَّبَّكَ كَثِيرًا وَسَبِّحْ بِالْعَشِيِّ وَالْإِبْكَارِ He said: "O my Lord! Make a sign for me." Allah said: "Your sign is that you shall not speak to mankind for three days except with signals. And remember your Lord much (by praising Him again and again), and glorify (Him) in the afternoon and in the morning." ﷽ *Surah Aal-e-Imran, Verse 42:* وَإِذْ قَالَتِ الْمَلَائِكَةُ يَا مَرْيَمُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ اصْطَفَاكِ وَطَهَّرَكِ وَاصْطَفَاكِ عَلَىٰ نِسَاءِ الْعَالَمِينَ And (remember) when the angels said: "O Maryam (Mary)! Verily, Allah has chosen you, purified you (from polytheism and disbelief), and chosen you above the women of the 'Alamin (mankind and jinns) (of her lifetime)." *COMMENTARY* Mary the mother of Jesus was unique, in that she gave birth to a son by a special miracle, without the ...

DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum Arbaà, 4th day of Jumaada Al-Thani (Wednesday 29th of January, 2020). *_HAPPY MARRIAGE, LIVING WITH PEACE AND HARMONY AT HOME_*. BismilLaahir Rahmaanir Raheem. ALLAAH says in the holy Quran; “And among HIS Signs is this, that HE created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them, and HE has put between you affection and MERCY. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.” [Al-Qur’an 30: 21]. Marriage is an institute which can be as firm as a rock or weak as a thread, it is up to the partners to make it either one.  We have to learn to be tolerant of each other for the MERCY of ALLAH to flow in the marriage. Marriage is a great Sunnah and an act of worship.  It is the responsibility of both husband and wife to give 100% effort to make their marriage successful and their home peaceful and Islamic solely for ALLAH sake. At the time of concern and tension in domestic affairs, please review your li...

DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum Ath-thalaatha, 3rd day of Jumaada Al-Thani (Tuesday 28th of January, 2020). *_ISLAMIC SOLUTION TO FORGETFULNESS_*. *Bismillah*. Frequently remembering ALLAAH, may HE be glorified, by reciting dhikr, tasbeeh (saying ‘Subhan ALLAAH ’), tahmeed (‘Al-hamdu Lillaah’), tahleel (‘Laa ilaaha ILL-ALLAAH ’) and takbeer (‘Allaahu akbar’), etc. ALLAAH says: “…And remember your Lord when you forget…” [al-Kahf 18:24]. Not eating too much, because eating too much makes one sleep too much and become lazy, and it dulls the senses, besides exposing one to the risk of physical diseases. Most of the diseases which we see result from food and drink. Some of the scholars have mentioned certain foods which increase the memory, such as drinking honey and eating raisins and chewing certain kinds of gum resin. Imaam al-Zuhri said: “You should eat honey because it is good for the memory.” Too much acidic food is one of the causes of laziness and weak memory. *_We ask ALLA...

*REFLECTIONS* 📌 Your heart is empty when Allah is not your priority and when tears are shed only for people and not for Allah. 📌Put your heart in Islam and put Islam in your heart. 📌 DUA FOR BARAKAH  It comes in the Hadeeth that whoever reads the following Duaa regularly fills his hands with goodness and blessings [Barakah]. سبحان الله والحمد لله ولا اله الا الله والله اكبرولا حول ولا قوة الا با الله العلي العظيم اللهم ارحمني وارزقني وعافني واهدني SUBHAANALLAH WAL HAMDULILLAH WALAA ILAAHA ILLALLAH WALLAHU AKBAR WALAA HAWLA WALAA QUWWATA ILLAA BILLAHIL ALIYYIL ATHEEM. ALLAHUMMA IRHAMNEE WARZUQNEE WA AAFINEE WAHDINEE O ALLAH! Have mercy on me, grant me sustenance, grant me health and comfort and guide me.             *Reflections*                   📌The delaying of debt – A pending soul. Rasulullah  ﷺ  said: "[Judgement on] the soul of the deceased Believer remains pending on...

﷽ *DU'Ā : THE MOST POWERFUL WEAPON OF THE BELIEVER* *DAY 4 (Tuesday)* ___________________________________ *(88)* اَللّٰھُمَّ لَکَ صَلَاتِيْ وَنُسُکِيْ وَمَحْیَايَ وَمَمَاتِيْ ، وَإِلَیْکَ مَاٰبِيْ، وَلَکَ رَبِّ تُرَاثِيْ Allāhumma laka salātī wa nusukī wa mahyāya wa mamātī ,wa ilayka ma’ābī, wa laka rabbi turāthī. O Allah, my salat, my sacrifice, my life, and my death are all for You. To You is my return and Yours is what I leave behind. __________________________________ *(89)* اَللّٰھُمَّ إِنِّيْ أَسْأَلُکَ مِنْ خَیْرِ مَا تَحِبْيئُ بِہِ الرِّیَاحُ - Allāhumma innī as’aluka min khayri mā tajī’u bihir-riyāh. O Allah, I beg You for all the good brought by winds. ___________________________________ *(90)* اَللّٰھُمَّ اجْعَلْنِيْ أُعَظِّمُ شُکْرَکَ ، وَأُکْثِرُ ذِکْرَکَ ، وَأَتَّبِعُ نَصِیْحَتَکَ ، وَأَحْفَظُ وَصِیَّتَکَ - اَللّٰھُمَّ إِنَّ قُلُوْبَنَا وَنَوَاصِیَنَا وَجَوَارِحَنَا بِیَدِکَ ، لَمْ تُمَلِّکُنَا مِنْھَا شَیْئًا ، فَإِذَا فَعَلْتَ ذٰلِکَ...

﷽ *Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 4* *PUTTING DIVORCE INTO WRITING* When Allah Ta'alah says something or instructs us to do something, it is because it is good for us. Take, for instance, the issue of writing divorce on paper. It is encouraged to do so, because when it is not written, later the couple can come back and deny the divorce, therefore it creates confusion. So when divorce is initiated, make sure it is written, so that in the end, one of the couples will not bring something else. Some men are very dramatic, they divorce without thinking about the consequences. Later, they realised their rush or mistake, so they want to revoke it. It is, of course, revokable, but revoked it before it is too late. So when it is late, they give themselves fatwa that they can have sex no problem. No! that is Haram. When you are divorced she is not yours and you are not hers. Allah will treat you like adulterers. *{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wi...

﷽ *AR-RAHĪQ AL-MAKHTOUM (The Pure Nectar). A Treaties On Prophet Muhammad's Biography.* *Part 142* *THE BATTLE OF AL-AHZĀB continues* Anas reported: "When Allāh's Messenger went to the trench, he saw Immigrants and Supporters digging it in a cold morning. They had no slaves that could do this task for them. Noting their fatigue and hunger, he said: "O Allāh! There is no true life but the life of the Afterworld. So forgive Immigrants and Supporters." (Narrated by Al-Bukhāry) They replied: We are the people who pledged Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him) to practice Jihad as long as we live." Al-Bara Ibn 'Azib narrated: "On the day (of the battle) of Al-Ahzāb I saw the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) carrying earth, and the earth was covering the whiteness of his abdomen. He was saying: "Without You O Allāh! We would have got no guidance, given charity, or prayed. So bless us with tranquility and make firm our feet when...

 ﷽ *First Hadīth Of The Day* حَدَّثَنَا  عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنَا مَالِكٌ، عَنْ هِشَامِ  بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنِ امْرَأَتِهِ، فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتِ الْمُنْذِرِ عَنْ  أَسْمَاءَ بِنْتِ أَبِي بَكْرٍ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ أَنَّهَا قَالَتْ  أَتَيْتُ عَائِشَةَ ـ رضى الله عنها ـ زَوْجَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه  وسلم حِينَ خَسَفَتِ الشَّمْسُ، فَإِذَا النَّاسُ قِيَامٌ يُصَلُّونَ،  وَإِذَا هِيَ قَائِمَةٌ تُصَلِّي فَقُلْتُ مَا لِلنَّاسِ فَأَشَارَتْ  بِيَدِهَا إِلَى السَّمَاءِ، وَقَالَتْ سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ‏.‏ فَقُلْتُ  آيَةٌ فَأَشَارَتْ أَىْ نَعَمْ‏.‏ قَالَتْ فَقُمْتُ حَتَّى تَجَلاَّنِي  الْغَشْىُ، فَجَعَلْتُ أَصُبُّ فَوْقَ رَأْسِي الْمَاءَ، فَلَمَّا  انْصَرَفَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم حَمِدَ اللَّهَ وَأَثْنَى  عَلَيْهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ ‏"‏ مَا مِنْ شَىْءٍ كُنْتُ لَمْ  أَرَهُ إِلاَّ قَدْ رَأَيْتُهُ فِي مَقَامِي هَذَا حَتَّى الْجَنَّةَ  وَالنَّارَ، وَلَقَدْ أُوحِيَ إِلَىَّ أَنَّكُمْ تُفْتَنُونَ فِي  الْقُبُو...

﷽ *Surah Aal-e-Imran, Verse 39:* فَنَادَتْهُ الْمَلَائِكَةُ وَهُوَ قَائِمٌ يُصَلِّي فِي الْمِحْرَابِ أَنَّ اللَّهَ يُبَشِّرُكَ بِيَحْيَىٰ مُصَدِّقًا بِكَلِمَةٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ وَسَيِّدًا وَحَصُورًا وَنَبِيًّا مِّنَ الصَّالِحِينَ Then the angels called him, while he was standing in prayer in Al-Mihrab (a praying place or a private room), (saying): "Allah gives you glad tidings of Yahya (John), confirming (believing in) the Word from Allah [i.e. the creation of 'Iesa (Jesus), the Word from Allah ("Be!" - and he was!)], noble, keeping away from sexual relations with women, a Prophet, from among the righteous." *COMMENTARY* Notice: "a Word from Allāh", not "the Word of Allāh", the epithet that mystical Christianity uses for Jesus. As stated in Sūra Āl-'Imrān, verse 59, Jesus was created by a miracle, by Allāh's word "Be", and he was. ﷽ *Surah Aal-e-Imran, Verse 40:* قَالَ رَبِّ أَنَّىٰ يَكُونُ لِي غُلَامٌ وَقَدْ بَلَ...

*REFLECTIONS* 📌The period of waiting patiently for release from suffering is an act of worship. ~ Imam Al-Ghazali Rahimahullaah Ghibah 📌It was narrated from Abu Hurayrahرضي الله عنه  that the Messenger  of Allah ﷺ said: “Do you  know what gheebah (backbiting) is?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He said, “Saying something about your brother that he dislikes.” It was said, “What if what I say about my brother is true?” He said, “If what you say is true then you have backbitten about him, and if it is not true, then you have slandered him.” [Muslim] 📌It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbas رضي الله عنه said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ  passed by two graves and said, “They are being punished, but they are not being punished for anything that was difficult to avoid. One of them used to walk about spreading malicious gossip [nameemah], and the other used not to take precautions to avoid getting urine on himself when he urinated.” Then he called for a gre...

*Du'ā for seeking protection from difficulty, wretchedness, bad Taqdeer, and taunting of the enemies.* اللهم إِن أعوذ بك من جهد البالء ودرك الشقاء وسوء القضاء ومشاتة األعداء Allahuma ini aaoozu bika min jahdil balaa wa dar kish shaqaa wa soo il  qadhaa wa shamaa tha thil aa'daa. O Allah! I seek refuge in you from severe calamities, and from the grips of ill hope, and evil destiny, and from the taunting of the enemies. In the first portion of the Dua we are seeking protection from all types of severe difficulty and hardship. Hadrat Ibne Abbas رضي الله عنه  explains by means of an example that a big hardship is where a person has many children and no money. For example, he has twelve or fourteen children, and each one has different need simultaneously. In the morning each one of them have a need to have breakfast, and he has nothing to give them, as he is poor. Somehow he might manage to give them breakfast, and before he knows, it is time for lunch, and he has to look ...

﷽ *DU'Ā : THE MOST POWERFUL WEAPON OF THE BELIEVER* *DAY 3 (Monday)* ___________________________________  (57) اَللّٰھُمَّ اجْعَلْنِیْ شَکُوْرًا وَّاجْعَلْنِیْ صَبُوْرًا، وَّاجْعَلْنِيْ فِيْ عَیْنِيْ صِغِیْرًا وَّفِيْ أَعْیُنِ النَّاسِ کَبِیْرًا Allāhummaj-‘alnīi shakūra(n), waj-‘alnī sabūra(), waj-‘alnī fī ‘aynī saghīran wa fī a’yunin-nāsi kabīra. O Allah, make me one who is highly grateful. Make me one who is patient and perseverant. Make me small in my own eyes but great in the eyes of others. __________________________________  (58) اَللّٰھُمَّ ضَعْ فِيْ أَرْضِنَا بَرَکَتَھَا وَزِیْنَتَھَا وَسَکَنَھَا - وَلَا تَحْرِمْنِيْ بَرَکَۃَ مَا أَعْطَیْتَنِيْ ، وَلَاتَفْتِنِّيْ فِیْمَا أَحْرَمْتَنِيْ Allāhumma da’ fī ardinā barakatahā wa zīnatahā wa sakanahā. Wa lā tahrimnī barakata mā a’ţayranī, wa lā taftinnī fīmā ahramtanī. Allah, put blessings, beauty, and calm in our land. Do not deprive me of the blessings of what You have given me and do not subject...