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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 5*
*NOT EVERYTHING IS WORTH TALKING ABOUT*
In my experience as a married person, I must say that talking about everything you see at home as a husband is quite problematic. Some men just can't keep quiet. They find everything worth speaking about. Complaining a lot leads to disrespect. And it is a sign of not being considerate. Only Almighty Allāh is perfect. And we are all not perfect in one aspect or another. When a wife has a lot of home chores to achieve, sometimes you overlook her weakness and failures, not because you should not correct her, but because it is not easy to run a house.
Sometimes when she is too occupied doing one thing or another, you can chip in as a husband to assist. Take, for instance, you saw some dirt on the floor, you don't need to always point at such things, simply, pick it up and throw it away. Some men might feel arrogant to do so, well, give a try and see the result. But when you have to pick it, Make sure she sees it. In-sha-Allāh, tomorrow, you won't see that happen again because she will feel ashame to let it happen again. This means action speaks louder than voice. Always remember, she is not a machine, she can't do it all. As a husband, I worked in the kitchen, I sweep the house, I cleaned and washed the toilet. I babysit the kids. Whenever I open my mouth to complain about something, I quickly remember what's like to have a list of activities in your routine which makes it very difficult for her to be perfect, especially if she is working or attending school.
Sisters, don't take things for granted. Those minor issues you ignore are the reasons for many problems. When you are wrong, accept your mistakes and apologise, no need to argue. Argument always results in a fight. So be humble and do your job. His duty is to provide for you, as long as he is doing it well, do your job well too. If you fail as a wife, then your children will also fail. And your marriage will fail too. This is a race... Strive to win it. Else, your husband will underestimate you, and eventually, he will develop hate for you especially when you are dirty.
May Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) increase our beneficial knowledge. Ameen
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*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 5*
*NOT EVERYTHING IS WORTH TALKING ABOUT*
In my experience as a married person, I must say that talking about everything you see at home as a husband is quite problematic. Some men just can't keep quiet. They find everything worth speaking about. Complaining a lot leads to disrespect. And it is a sign of not being considerate. Only Almighty Allāh is perfect. And we are all not perfect in one aspect or another. When a wife has a lot of home chores to achieve, sometimes you overlook her weakness and failures, not because you should not correct her, but because it is not easy to run a house.
Sometimes when she is too occupied doing one thing or another, you can chip in as a husband to assist. Take, for instance, you saw some dirt on the floor, you don't need to always point at such things, simply, pick it up and throw it away. Some men might feel arrogant to do so, well, give a try and see the result. But when you have to pick it, Make sure she sees it. In-sha-Allāh, tomorrow, you won't see that happen again because she will feel ashame to let it happen again. This means action speaks louder than voice. Always remember, she is not a machine, she can't do it all. As a husband, I worked in the kitchen, I sweep the house, I cleaned and washed the toilet. I babysit the kids. Whenever I open my mouth to complain about something, I quickly remember what's like to have a list of activities in your routine which makes it very difficult for her to be perfect, especially if she is working or attending school.
Sisters, don't take things for granted. Those minor issues you ignore are the reasons for many problems. When you are wrong, accept your mistakes and apologise, no need to argue. Argument always results in a fight. So be humble and do your job. His duty is to provide for you, as long as he is doing it well, do your job well too. If you fail as a wife, then your children will also fail. And your marriage will fail too. This is a race... Strive to win it. Else, your husband will underestimate you, and eventually, he will develop hate for you especially when you are dirty.
May Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) increase our beneficial knowledge. Ameen
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*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
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