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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 2*
*MY WIFE LEFT ME WITH TWO KIDS!*
Before I share my story, I like to share something in advance. As a man, husband and father, I cook at home, we share house chores with my wife, I bath my kids, I feed them. I wash toilets; I can do everything except cleaning babies poop.
One morning, my wife woke me up and said she had an emergency at home, so she needed to go. I asked, how about the kids, she said, please manage. She quickly bathed them all and gave the instruction about their food. One is four years old, and the other is five months old.
Three hours after her departure, the little one started crying, which is a regular thing. But then suddenly he pooped again. Oh Boy! I started trembling because that's the last thing I ever want to do. I said in my mind, Hmm, you wait until your mother comes back. Minutes later, the poop started gushing out from beneath and above his diapers. So I had no option but to clean him.
I took him to the toilet, not knowing what to do or how to do it. At first, I called the elder one to bring the wipes (babies tissue). Then I started to think, how would she have done it if she were here? A lot of thoughts went through my head. Then I smiled and said, Allahu Akbar! Our wives and mothers are really trying. So, an idea came to me.
1. I removed the diapers gently so that I don't spill it everywhere. I used the diapers to clean some of the poop.
2. Then used the wipes to clean his bombom, front and back. I typically reduced the quantity of the poop present on his bombom.
3. My elder kid was standing, watching, He said, "Papa, you can't do it". I said, get out. I was in a dilemma because I don't know how to clean him with water, should I use my two hands, or just one, but what if he falls.
4. So I placed him on my right arm, extended him to the sink, opened the tap, and started washing the poop. Then, I brought a shower gel and rewashed him.
5. After that, I towelled him and took him to the room, cleaned him and put diapers on him.
Hours later, the mother came. She saw that his clothes were changed, so she knew what happened. She went straight to the toilet to see the mess. To her surprise, she saw nothing but a clean bathroom as if it didn't happen. I was just looking at her. As she came out, she jumped on me and kissed me. She said you are a darling; you are the best in the world. I smiled and said, babe, I'm proud too. Because little Muhammad was there watching, waiting for me to make a mistake. But now my kids will one day say, their father was everything for them.
Brothers and sisters, that is one part of my personal life at home.
The lesson one can learn is the importance of helping their spouse. Just because I am the breadwinner I should not allow her to do everything. Sometimes I need to come in; sometimes, we design a timetable for home routines.
Also, I am lucky. My kids love me to the extent that they don't know the difference between their father and their mother. They can stay with anyone. Likewise, they can't sleep without us all present.
It will surprise you if I tell you that my five-month-old kid knows if I am not home., And the moment his mother's phone rings, he starts to jump, he wont stop until he sees me on a video call.
My hope and wish are that someday my kids will do the same for me. Because If I am not there for them, they will never be there for me.
Thank you all for reading this episode of "Let's change our mindsets about marriage."
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*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 2*
*MY WIFE LEFT ME WITH TWO KIDS!*
Before I share my story, I like to share something in advance. As a man, husband and father, I cook at home, we share house chores with my wife, I bath my kids, I feed them. I wash toilets; I can do everything except cleaning babies poop.
One morning, my wife woke me up and said she had an emergency at home, so she needed to go. I asked, how about the kids, she said, please manage. She quickly bathed them all and gave the instruction about their food. One is four years old, and the other is five months old.
Three hours after her departure, the little one started crying, which is a regular thing. But then suddenly he pooped again. Oh Boy! I started trembling because that's the last thing I ever want to do. I said in my mind, Hmm, you wait until your mother comes back. Minutes later, the poop started gushing out from beneath and above his diapers. So I had no option but to clean him.
I took him to the toilet, not knowing what to do or how to do it. At first, I called the elder one to bring the wipes (babies tissue). Then I started to think, how would she have done it if she were here? A lot of thoughts went through my head. Then I smiled and said, Allahu Akbar! Our wives and mothers are really trying. So, an idea came to me.
1. I removed the diapers gently so that I don't spill it everywhere. I used the diapers to clean some of the poop.
2. Then used the wipes to clean his bombom, front and back. I typically reduced the quantity of the poop present on his bombom.
3. My elder kid was standing, watching, He said, "Papa, you can't do it". I said, get out. I was in a dilemma because I don't know how to clean him with water, should I use my two hands, or just one, but what if he falls.
4. So I placed him on my right arm, extended him to the sink, opened the tap, and started washing the poop. Then, I brought a shower gel and rewashed him.
5. After that, I towelled him and took him to the room, cleaned him and put diapers on him.
Hours later, the mother came. She saw that his clothes were changed, so she knew what happened. She went straight to the toilet to see the mess. To her surprise, she saw nothing but a clean bathroom as if it didn't happen. I was just looking at her. As she came out, she jumped on me and kissed me. She said you are a darling; you are the best in the world. I smiled and said, babe, I'm proud too. Because little Muhammad was there watching, waiting for me to make a mistake. But now my kids will one day say, their father was everything for them.
Brothers and sisters, that is one part of my personal life at home.
The lesson one can learn is the importance of helping their spouse. Just because I am the breadwinner I should not allow her to do everything. Sometimes I need to come in; sometimes, we design a timetable for home routines.
Also, I am lucky. My kids love me to the extent that they don't know the difference between their father and their mother. They can stay with anyone. Likewise, they can't sleep without us all present.
It will surprise you if I tell you that my five-month-old kid knows if I am not home., And the moment his mother's phone rings, he starts to jump, he wont stop until he sees me on a video call.
My hope and wish are that someday my kids will do the same for me. Because If I am not there for them, they will never be there for me.
Thank you all for reading this episode of "Let's change our mindsets about marriage."
(Copied)
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
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