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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 53*
*MOTHERS-IN-LAW: FEAR ALLĀH*
It was devastating writing this article, I know it is going to hurt a lot of people while making others happy. The reality is we must bring out the truth and guide people to it.
Our mother and in-law these days have lost their ways wallahi, most of them don't fear Allāh. Mother just because you bring a child to this world and he becomes husband to sister X, that does not give you the right to violate the sister. You have rights over your son but you don't have rights over her. It is a courtesy if she respects you not because she is obliged to do so.
You block your son from discharging his duties as a husband and father for your personal interest. You won't allow him to take good care of his kids and wife. Dear mother, did someone block your husband from you during your time?
Dear mother, you should know that when you instruct your son to hurt or harm his family you are not doing him a favour, rather you are making Akhira (hereafter) difficult for him.
Dear mother, you stopped your son from spending on his family, he cant even buy something and bring it home because of your trouble. Mother is that how you want your own daughter to be treated?
I heard of this mother who would give 1 litre of water to her son's wives to be used in a day. She had to measure food in quantities because she does not want them to have access to the food store. Mother what kind of a dangerous mother are you?
By Allāh, Mother, Allāh will question you on how you treat your son and his wives. And Wallahi you will be tortured for tutoring them. Mother you are not Allāh, why put sanctions on your son to make life difficult for him?
Dear Son,
Allāh has instructed you to obey your parents, but when they instruct you to deviate from the correct path, you have no right to obey them. You obey Allāh.
You cannot allow your mother to harm your wife, your wife is an Amanah to you. Her security and well-being is put upon you. You cannot allow your mother to harm her.
You don't divorce your wife just because your mother says she will curse you. Allāh is not an unjust King. Allāh will not punish you for refusing to divorce your innocent wife. In fact the messenger says only Shaitan and his allies love divorce.
Also note that, some of our mothers are really devilish, they will plot and say anything to destroy your family. Don't listen to everything they say. Investigate before you act.
Dear wife,
Obey your mother-in-law and respect her like your own mother. She is not your competitor, so don't compete with her. Stay out of her way. You have no right interfering in mother and son affairs.
Be patient. Be Patient. Be Patient.
Despite that, do not allow her to crush you or make you a laughing stock. If you cant bear it, invite your family into the matter,
May Allah protect us from the evil of mother in laws and guide the mother in laws.
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 53*
*MOTHERS-IN-LAW: FEAR ALLĀH*
It was devastating writing this article, I know it is going to hurt a lot of people while making others happy. The reality is we must bring out the truth and guide people to it.
Our mother and in-law these days have lost their ways wallahi, most of them don't fear Allāh. Mother just because you bring a child to this world and he becomes husband to sister X, that does not give you the right to violate the sister. You have rights over your son but you don't have rights over her. It is a courtesy if she respects you not because she is obliged to do so.
You block your son from discharging his duties as a husband and father for your personal interest. You won't allow him to take good care of his kids and wife. Dear mother, did someone block your husband from you during your time?
Dear mother, you should know that when you instruct your son to hurt or harm his family you are not doing him a favour, rather you are making Akhira (hereafter) difficult for him.
Dear mother, you stopped your son from spending on his family, he cant even buy something and bring it home because of your trouble. Mother is that how you want your own daughter to be treated?
I heard of this mother who would give 1 litre of water to her son's wives to be used in a day. She had to measure food in quantities because she does not want them to have access to the food store. Mother what kind of a dangerous mother are you?
By Allāh, Mother, Allāh will question you on how you treat your son and his wives. And Wallahi you will be tortured for tutoring them. Mother you are not Allāh, why put sanctions on your son to make life difficult for him?
Dear Son,
Allāh has instructed you to obey your parents, but when they instruct you to deviate from the correct path, you have no right to obey them. You obey Allāh.
You cannot allow your mother to harm your wife, your wife is an Amanah to you. Her security and well-being is put upon you. You cannot allow your mother to harm her.
You don't divorce your wife just because your mother says she will curse you. Allāh is not an unjust King. Allāh will not punish you for refusing to divorce your innocent wife. In fact the messenger says only Shaitan and his allies love divorce.
Also note that, some of our mothers are really devilish, they will plot and say anything to destroy your family. Don't listen to everything they say. Investigate before you act.
Dear wife,
Obey your mother-in-law and respect her like your own mother. She is not your competitor, so don't compete with her. Stay out of her way. You have no right interfering in mother and son affairs.
Be patient. Be Patient. Be Patient.
Despite that, do not allow her to crush you or make you a laughing stock. If you cant bear it, invite your family into the matter,
May Allah protect us from the evil of mother in laws and guide the mother in laws.
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
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