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Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 59*


*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 59*

*EARLY MARRIAGE*

Marriage can be defined as a mutual relationship ordained by Allah for the believers as an act of ibadah between two people who love, trust, care, understand and respect each other for the sake of Allah so as to attain jannah, procreate children, fulfill their sexual desires, unite and enjoy companionship.

The prophet said, there is nothing better for two people who love each other than marriage (Jamii tirmidhi). The importance of marriage can be traced back to the early days of Adam alayhi salam. When Allah created him, the first thing Allah gave him is knowledge, and the second thing Allah gave him is marriage (hawa r.a) Subhanallah.

These shows how significance of nikkah. Adam alahyi salam felt lonely, Allah didn't give him a TV to while away time, he didn't give him PS3, or blackberry, iPhone or a car or laptop, but Allah gave him our mother in marriage. How can we now hesitate to marry today?

Brothers and sisters in Islam, why are you still single? Are you not tired of having wet dreams? Are you not tired of staring at the opposite ginger? Are you not tired of cooking undone food? Are you not tired of attending other people's marriage while you refuse to marry? Money is never an excuse, some companions were almost penniless as at the time they married. If the second thing that Allah gave the first human being /first prophet on earth is marriage, then what are u still waiting for?............What Is your excuse? Is it money? Allah promises to enrich married couples from his bounties. Is it unemployment? Allah promises to make a way for you from sources that you couldn't have imagined? Is it that you have not found the right person? Allah promises to be with the patient ones. Is it tribalism? Allah said he created us from a single pair of male and female and made us into nation and tribes so that we may know each other. What then is your excuse for refusing to marry? Is it your fear of heartbreak? The prophet said, what hit you couldn't have missed you and what missed you couldn't have hit you. Is it bcos you dislike early marriage and u want to graduate from school before marriage?

Allah said, perhaps you dislike a thing but in reality its good for you and perhaps you love a thing but In reality its bad for you. Is it bcos your friends are committing zina and u want to follow them too? Allah said, if you follow most of the people of the world, they will mislead you away from the path of Allah. Is it because you want to have ur own car/house first? The prophet said, whoever trusts Allah sincerely, Allah will provide for him just the way he provides for the birds who go out in the morning empty and return home satisfied.....

Dear single brodaz and sistaz, what then is your excuse ???? Why have you refused to marry? Is it that you don't believe in the words of Allah or in the hadith of the prophet? Don't you know you are not getting any younger? Has the time not come for you to give your parents grandchildren to carry in their hands? Has the time not come for you to have trust in Allah and get married irrespective of your situation?

Allah said, has the time not come for the believers that their hearts should be affected by the Quran and to embrace the truth which has been revealed. (Surah Hadeed vs 16). When you go to a family and make a proposal that you want to marry their 14yrs old daughter, they will tell you that their daughter is TOO young for marital commitments but when that same daughter has some boyfriends, her parents will not complain about it. This is the irony of our society today! Allah created us and so he understands our bodies needs even more than we know ourselves. Once a person reaches puberty, he naturally starts getting inclined to the other gender, because he/she has feelings and emotions running thru the veins and hearts which has to be fulfilled either through the halal way or haram way. Some people are born with high level of hawa (desire) while some have low hawa.

May Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) guide us. Ameen


*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*


*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)

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