❤️ *FRIENDS* ❤️
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*Everyone Need Friends But Not Everyone Has Them*
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
It is imperative that a Muslim be selective when it comes to making friends.. Bcos being friends with good or the righteous ones results in following the path of righteousness in this world and receiving according reward in the world hereafter, whereas, befriending bad, hypocrites and evils neither ends well in this world nor in the world hereafter.
But generally,
Human Beings in all phases of life, from the very beginning of childhood and youth till old-age, are in need of friendship and association with others. Owing to his social nature, man is compelled to live in society and with other individuals, he must benefit from the aid and cooperation of friends.
Brothers & Sisters❗
Allah Almighty says in Quran:
ٱلْأَخِلَّآءُ يَوْمَئِذٍۭ بَعْضُهُمْ لِبَعْضٍ عَدُوٌّ إِلَّا ٱلْمُتَّقِينَ
“Friends on the Day will be enemies one to another, except al-Muttaqun (i.e. those who have piety).” 📚(43:67)
From this ayah it is clear that on the Day of Judgment there won’t be any friends, rather it would be such a situation that friends would turn into enemies. At such an instance, only those who are pious would remain friends of each other. Therefore, if one is to make friends, then he or she should make friends who are pious *(not those who leur you into backbittng, slander, visiting fortunetellers, cheating on ur spouses etc),* because such friends don’t just remain friends in this world only, rather they remain friends in the world hereafter as well and help each other out.
Allah Almighty says in Quran (Translation only):
“And (remember) the day when the unjust one shall bite his hands saying: O! Would that I had taken a way with the Messenger! O woe is me! Would that I had not taken such a one for a friend! Certainly he led me astray from the reminder after it had come to me. Ah! The Evil One is but a traitor to man!.” (25:27-29)
In the above verses *(the first & the second)* , it is infact clearer that the kind of friend that one has have a great role to play in what a person gets in the life hereafter. Those who get paradise will definitely have their friends as their partners because they all contributed in the life each other and followed the path of righteousness. On the other hand, the ones who receive hell as a reward of their deeds will complain about their friends and lament upon the fact that it is following their unrighteous friends that has resulted in this plight of theirs, therefore, it is imperative that a Muslim has righteous friends.
Finally in this episode..
Some people are so confident of their own purity and nobility. They imagine that they will not be subject to any harm in their association with bad or wicked people.. They consider their personality as strong enough not to be influenced by vices.. However, they forget that cottonwool gets aflame by proximity with fire, and glass breaks when it comes in contact with stones.
And,
Lets assume that you are so dignified and noble that you aren’t influenced by the bad or wixked people you associate with, *what will people say about you❓* Won't they consider you as one of the rabble when you associate with them❓ Think twice pls❗
*The question then arises is that, how can a person identify whether the other person which he or she wants to make a friend is a good or bad friend? The answer to this & MORE will be given in the next EPISODE of this article 🔜 InshaaAllah*
Allah alone knows best
❤️ *FRIENDS* ❤️
[[---Episode Two--]]
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*Everyone Need Friends But Not Everyone Has Them*
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
When considering your friendships, remember the wise saying: *“Being alone is better than having an evil companion; and having a sincere companion is better than being alone.”* Yes.. Experiences have shown that many friendships have changed the destiny of individuals and their course of life.
Therefore,
As believers, we are instructed to be careful of the companions we choose for friendship.. This is bcos, our friendships can draw us closer to our Creator or cause us to sever all ties of faith we have established. As with most relationships in this lifetime, we will experience blessings in some friendships, and trials through others.
Most of us are usually aware of who, what, when and where pressure to do wrong can surface. It is important that we surround ourselves with righteous friendships, the kind that provides goodness, security, and remembrance of Allah.
👉 From the Qur'an:
"{And keep your soul content with those who call on their Lord morning and evening, seeking His face, and let not your eyes pass beyond them, seeking the pomp and glitter of this Life; nor obey any whose heart We have permitted to neglect the remembrance of Us,....}" 📚 [Quran 18:28]
👉 From the hadeeth:
The Prophet (saw) was once asked, “'Who is the best person to befriend?' He who helps you remember Allah, and reminds you when you forget Allah,' he wisely counseled. The Prophet (saw) was also asked, 'Who is best among people?' He replied, 'He who, when you look at him, you remember Allah.'"
Now,
*The question then arises is that, how can a person identify whether the other person which he or she wants to make a friend is a good or bad friend?*
▪️Regarding the kind of people a Muslim must try to be friend with, in Quran Allah Almighty say:
“And (as for) the believing men and the believing women, they are guardians of each other; they enjoin good and forbid evil and keep up prayer and pay the poor-rate, and obey Allah and His Messenger; (as for) these, Allah will show mercy to them; surely Allah is Mighty, Wise.” 📚 (9:71)
From this ayah of Quran, it is clear that,, if a Muslim is to make friends, then the righteous person should be made friends who fulfill all the obligations of Islam and follow the instructions of Allah Almighty and the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) in every aspect of their life.
▪️Pertaining to the people that a Muslim needs to avoid as friends, Allah Almighty says in Quran:
“The hypocritical men and the hypocritical women are all alike; they enjoin evil and forbid good and withhold their hands🤛; they have forsaken Allah, so He (Allah) has forsake them; surely the hypocrites are the transgressors.” 📚(9:67)
From this ayah of Quran, it is clear that the people who are evil are the ones who are hypocrites. The hypocrites enjoin in evil *(like those who leur you into backbittng, slander, visiting fortunetellers, cheating on ur spouses etc), and they forget Allah and the instructions He has imposed. Thus, such are the people who a sane Muslim should never befriend, as their friendship only leads to tyranny and evil.
*The Parents Can Help The Child In Making Good Friends.. How?*
Read EPISODE 3 of this article 🔜 InshaaAllah.
Allah alone knows best
❤️ *FRIENDS* ❤️
[[--Episode Three--]]
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*Everyone Need Friends But Not Everyone Has Them*
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
The weakest person is one who cannot make anyone his friend and brother.. And Not having friends is like being a stranger in ones own land.
Continuation of EPISODE 1️⃣ & 2️⃣ of this article - as promised:
*The Parents Can Help The Child In Making Good Friends.. How?*
A learned woman said to her children: “As our body is nourished by food to gain strength, so also our spirit acquires virtue or vice by association with good or bad friends.”
Therefore,
The parents can help the child in making good friends. They should pick children in their neighborhood with good behavior, character and background. Create opportunities for the children to meet and react with one another. If they become friends, encourage them to cement the friendship. This way, even if there are some minor defects in their own child, they can be warded off in the company of good children
*Characteristics of a Good Friend:*
In Islam, the followings are some of the characteristics to be looked forward to in a friend include: 👉 Intelligence' Faith, Honesty, Uprightness and well mannerism
*Rights of a Friend*
Following some narrations (Hadiths), friendship entails certain trusts and duties. Yes. The one who observes them is a true friend while one who breach them is unworthy of friendship in Islam.. Here are some of the rights of friends:
1) Respecting them and their personality;
2) Rendering material supports in the time of need;
3)Advising them when they need your advice;
4) Forgiving their shortcomings;
5) Concealing their lapses and faults from others;
6) Visiting them when they are sick;
7)Participating in their funeral when they die.
*Conclusion:*
Man is influenced by the faith of his friends. Therefore, be careful of whom you befriend.
And,
Friends are integral parts of our social life, and it is important to be selective in the choice of companions and friends. The righteous ones who lead one to righteousness in this world and prosperity in the Hereafter should be considered as friends.
*THE END*
Allah alone knows best
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