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Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 84*


*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 84*

*THE ROLES OF PARENTS TO THEIR CHILDREN IN AN ACADEMIC INSTITUTION*

Parents are expected to play four (4) major roles in the upbringing of a child within an educational environment. Namely:-

1. INSTRUCTIONAL ROLES
2. REBUKE ROLES
3. EXHORTATION ROLES
4. EDUCATIVE ROLES.

1. INSTRUCTIONAL ROLES

We must instruct our children:
➖To behave well in public.
➖To rise up early each day.
➖To pray first thing as they rise.
➖To be the first to greet people.
➖To clean up themselves properly.
➖To clean their environment.
➖To be early and timely to every daily tasks.
➖To be orderly.
➖To be respectful to people.
➖To speak in descent language.
➖To organise themselves.
➖To plan their schedules.
➖To have their daily timetable off hand .
➖To comfort themselves in quietness.
➖To be articulate, reasonable and expectant.
➖To ask questions once in doubt.
➖To listen carefully with understanding.
➖To act with decorum, courtesy and humility always.
➖To defend their family name and image at all times.
➖To obey elders, set rules and regulations.
➖To pray before retiring to bed at night.

2. REBUKE ROLES

We must rebuke our children:
➖When they portray laziness.
➖When they prayer less.
➖When they appear dirty.
➖When they're insolent.
➖When they speak foul language.
➖When they speak improperly.
➖When they sit carelessly.
➖When they participate in unsolicited discussions.
➖When they come late to appointments or tasks.
➖When they talk back to elders in anger.
➖When you notice Pride in them.
➖When they become spendthrift.
➖When they eat irregularly.
➖When they cannot control their appetite.
➖When you notice ostentatious lifestyle in them.
➖When they think materialism always.
➖When they unnecessarily compare themselves with others.
➖When they speak abusively of other parents, elders or mates.
➖When you notice the spirit of hate in them.
➖When they make hate speeches.
➖When they complain always about others.
➖When they move with suspicious characters.
➖When they are not extolling learning.
➖When they're are not proud of academic achievements.
➖When they abuse their teachers at home.
➖When they discredit their school.
➖When they plan to revenge or retaliate against actions.
➖When they renege to obey constituted authority.
➖When they fail to pray.

3. EXHORTATION ROLES

Parents must Praise their children :
➖When they do well in exams.
➖When they are properly dressed.
➖When they speak well in public.
➖When they speak well of their institution and teachers.
➖When they speak well of others.
➖When their carriage is descent.
➖When they express Godly values.
➖When they always talk about academic excellence.
➖When they spend less time watching TV.
➖When they spend more time studying.
➖When they spend less time talking.
➖When they spend more time listening.
➖When they spend right time praying.
➖When they spend less time playing.
➖When they know what to do.
➖When they know what is right.
➖When they refuse to do what is wrong.
➖When their ambition is to be the best academically.
➖When they speak of becoming Professors tomorrow.

4. EDUCATIVE ROLES

Parents must teach their children :
➖How to live an honest life.
➖How to live amongst people.
➖How to live in comfort with others.
➖How to love and appreciate others.
➖How to love their teachers, school and those in authority over them.
➖How to obey rules and regulations.
➖How to live in dignity and self esteem.
➖How to plan your future.
➖How to raise a religious home.
➖How proper education answers to most of life's challenges.
➖How to escape from bad friendship.
➖How to pick a career.
➖How to develop your career.
➖How to pass through life successfully by depending on ALLĀH and not man.
➖How to pass examinations without malpractice.
➖How to be studious and build their brains.
➖How to set academic standards for now and their future.
➖How to become an intellectual guru.
➖How to flaunt Excellent achievements and not beauty.
➖How to be an intellectual celebrity and not a Silver Bird Most Beautiful without certificate.

MAY ALLĀH (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) GUARD & GUIDE ALL OUR CHILDREN TO THE RIGHT PATH. Ameen

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*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*


*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)

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