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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 83*
*10 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE*
Women aren’t the only ones responsible for keeping a home and it’s wrong for people to say that. It’s the responsibility of both partners to keep a home.
Here are 10 mistakes men make in marriage
1. THINKING OF YOUR SATISFACTION ALONE IN THE BEDROOM
Most men are selfish in the bedroom and never think of their wife’s satisfaction. Disregarding the needs of your wife in the bedroom can ruin your marriage. Having a good time in the bedroom with your wife requires a very high level of communication and such conversations should happen when both partners are calm, relaxed and receptive to ideas.
2. RECKLESS SPENDING
Making big purchases without consulting your wife or spending recklessly is another big mistake most men make in marriages. Keeping a bank account hidden from your wife is a no-no in a marriage. When you cut off your wife from knowing about your finances, you make her feel less loved and connected. Your wife needs you to trust her with your heart and your finances.
3. NOT INVOLVING YOURSELF IN CHILD REARING
Most men leave child rearing for their wife and believe all they need to do is provide for the family and this is wrong. It is wrong as a husband to take a backseat when it comes to child rearing. Spend time with your children and play an active role in their lives.
4. NOT TAKING CARE OF YOUR BODY
Most men want their wife to take good care of their body but rarely do that themselves. I have seen so many husbands allow themselves to lose their body and many wives aren’t happy about it. Just as you want your wife to maintain a good body, you ought to do the same thing.
5. FAILURE TO MAKE FUTURE PLANS
As a husband, you need to give your wife and children security by planning for the future. You have to plan for the future of the marriage, your finances, the children etc. Don’t be the husband that lives for the now; make plans for retirement, old age, death, when the kids get married etc.
6. YOU DON’T LISTEN TO YOUR WIFE
Most men fail to see their wives as their partner and would rarely listen to her opinion. Learn to listen to what she has to say. Don’t assume you know what your wife is going to say or tune her out because you have heard it all before.
7. YOU DON’T CONFIDE IN YOUR WIFE
Not confiding in their wife is another common mistake most men make in marriages. Your wife is supposed to be your gossip partner and the one you confide in. She wants to be included in your entire world.
8. YOU ALLOW FAMILY AND FRIENDS DISRESPECT YOUR WIFE
You have failed as a husband when you allow your family and friends disrespect your wife. Anyone that disrespects your wife also disrespects you; it’s as simple as that. Avoiding talking bad about your wife in public so she won’t get disrespected. Your family and friends should only know about positives and not the negatives. You and your wife should sort out the negatives alone.
9. YOU REFUSE TO APOLOGISE WHEN YOU ARE WRONG
Refusing to apologize when you are wrong is one mistake husbands make in marriages. Many men believe they belittle themselves when they apologize to their wife and this is wrong. Just because you are a man is no reason not to apologize when you wrong your wife.
10. YOU COMPARE YOUR WIFE TO OTHER WOMEN
Comparison is dangerous and can destroy your marriage; never compare your wife to other women. There will always be women around you who have traits and strengths that your wife does not have but do you know the weaknesses these women have? Cherish and honour your wife for who she is, not for what she does or doesn’t do.
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 83*
*10 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE*
Women aren’t the only ones responsible for keeping a home and it’s wrong for people to say that. It’s the responsibility of both partners to keep a home.
Here are 10 mistakes men make in marriage
1. THINKING OF YOUR SATISFACTION ALONE IN THE BEDROOM
Most men are selfish in the bedroom and never think of their wife’s satisfaction. Disregarding the needs of your wife in the bedroom can ruin your marriage. Having a good time in the bedroom with your wife requires a very high level of communication and such conversations should happen when both partners are calm, relaxed and receptive to ideas.
2. RECKLESS SPENDING
Making big purchases without consulting your wife or spending recklessly is another big mistake most men make in marriages. Keeping a bank account hidden from your wife is a no-no in a marriage. When you cut off your wife from knowing about your finances, you make her feel less loved and connected. Your wife needs you to trust her with your heart and your finances.
3. NOT INVOLVING YOURSELF IN CHILD REARING
Most men leave child rearing for their wife and believe all they need to do is provide for the family and this is wrong. It is wrong as a husband to take a backseat when it comes to child rearing. Spend time with your children and play an active role in their lives.
4. NOT TAKING CARE OF YOUR BODY
Most men want their wife to take good care of their body but rarely do that themselves. I have seen so many husbands allow themselves to lose their body and many wives aren’t happy about it. Just as you want your wife to maintain a good body, you ought to do the same thing.
5. FAILURE TO MAKE FUTURE PLANS
As a husband, you need to give your wife and children security by planning for the future. You have to plan for the future of the marriage, your finances, the children etc. Don’t be the husband that lives for the now; make plans for retirement, old age, death, when the kids get married etc.
6. YOU DON’T LISTEN TO YOUR WIFE
Most men fail to see their wives as their partner and would rarely listen to her opinion. Learn to listen to what she has to say. Don’t assume you know what your wife is going to say or tune her out because you have heard it all before.
7. YOU DON’T CONFIDE IN YOUR WIFE
Not confiding in their wife is another common mistake most men make in marriages. Your wife is supposed to be your gossip partner and the one you confide in. She wants to be included in your entire world.
8. YOU ALLOW FAMILY AND FRIENDS DISRESPECT YOUR WIFE
You have failed as a husband when you allow your family and friends disrespect your wife. Anyone that disrespects your wife also disrespects you; it’s as simple as that. Avoiding talking bad about your wife in public so she won’t get disrespected. Your family and friends should only know about positives and not the negatives. You and your wife should sort out the negatives alone.
9. YOU REFUSE TO APOLOGISE WHEN YOU ARE WRONG
Refusing to apologize when you are wrong is one mistake husbands make in marriages. Many men believe they belittle themselves when they apologize to their wife and this is wrong. Just because you are a man is no reason not to apologize when you wrong your wife.
10. YOU COMPARE YOUR WIFE TO OTHER WOMEN
Comparison is dangerous and can destroy your marriage; never compare your wife to other women. There will always be women around you who have traits and strengths that your wife does not have but do you know the weaknesses these women have? Cherish and honour your wife for who she is, not for what she does or doesn’t do.
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
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