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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 96*
*READ THESE INSPIRING STORIES, PONDER OVER THEM AND MOST IMPORTANTLY PRACTICE WHAT YOU READ IN ORDER TO BE AN EVERLASTING HAPPY MUSLIM SPOUSE*
Look at the story of Abdullahi Ibn Abubakar and Atikah bint Zaid, Atikah was so beautiful, one of the most beautiful female companions, they were so in love, that they were mad about each other.
Abdulllahi was crazy about her, to the extent that he started missing Salat and Jihad, until Abubakar Siddiq (RA) commanded Abdullahi
to divorce her, Abdullahi became depressed that he started singing love poems about Atikah up and down at home.
This was what made Abubakar to re-consider the issue and eventually Abdullahi and Atikah were back together again, and Abdullahi even made Atikah to promise him that she won't marry any other man even after his death.
The Prophet (Blessings and Peace of Allāh be upon him) said, "a woman will be with her final husband in Jannah (Tirmidhi)."
Abu Darda and Umm Darda were also another
lovebirds, to the extent that when Abu Darda died, Umm Darda refused to get married again
because she thought no other man can replace Abu Darda. When Muawiyah proposed to her, she declined and said, am already engaged to Abu Darda in paradise.
How sweet!
That's eternal love. Marriage can be made beautiful or terrible, it all depends on the spouses.
When Umm Silah, the wife of Ahmad Ibn Hanbal died, he wept and said, I have lived with this woman for the past 30 years and we never
quarrelled for once. People asked him, how is that possible? He said, whenever I am getting angry she keeps quiet and whenever she is getting angry I keep quiet, so we never had mutual argument. How romantic....
How many couples today can spend a week without argument? Brothers learn to be romantic and sweet, some brothers are even shy of expressing their love for their wives, if you don't tell her your feelings, who
will???
Ahmad Ibn Hanbal said, women love to be told clearly that they are loved, it strengthens the feelings and affection, if you refuse to express your feelings for her, it will create a barrier of harshness between you and her.
Most couples today are only romantic for the first few years of marriage, after that, its assumed that it’s childish to keep saying (I love you). What's childish about it? Wallahi those 3 words are the basis and foundation of marriage.
Brothers,
At times involve in pillow fights with your wives, throw pillows at her. when she is angry, hold her and tell her how beautiful she is, tell her "you look more beautiful. when you are angry", if she is still angry, then move back and throw chocolates at her, spray perfume on her or pour water on her, all these are part of being romantic.
At times carry your wife in your arms around the house, at times carry the baby on your back too. At times play simple games together, throw balls at each other, have a mini gymnasium in your house where you train your wife, carry her and let her carry you if she has the strength, but don't allow her to knack you down!!!
Watch Islamic stations together with her, eat pop-corn together, sleep on the same room and on the same bed, don't have your own separate room, some men now have their own room where they run to, after quarrelling with their wife, who are you leaving her for? Even if a man practices polygyny, he can't have
his own room, he has to be rationing rooms from one wife to the other. That's justice!!!!!
At times, go on a stroll with your wife and chit- chat with her, go to places of amusement or admiration of nature if the places are free from
half naked zombies.....
Don't only buy gifts for your wife when she is sick in the hospital, buy for her often. The best gift is the one that comes from the bottom of your heart not the store. Shop things for her, there is nothing wrong with you going to the market for your wife, its just a gift of love.
May Allah bless all our spouses. Ameen
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 96*
*READ THESE INSPIRING STORIES, PONDER OVER THEM AND MOST IMPORTANTLY PRACTICE WHAT YOU READ IN ORDER TO BE AN EVERLASTING HAPPY MUSLIM SPOUSE*
Look at the story of Abdullahi Ibn Abubakar and Atikah bint Zaid, Atikah was so beautiful, one of the most beautiful female companions, they were so in love, that they were mad about each other.
Abdulllahi was crazy about her, to the extent that he started missing Salat and Jihad, until Abubakar Siddiq (RA) commanded Abdullahi
to divorce her, Abdullahi became depressed that he started singing love poems about Atikah up and down at home.
This was what made Abubakar to re-consider the issue and eventually Abdullahi and Atikah were back together again, and Abdullahi even made Atikah to promise him that she won't marry any other man even after his death.
The Prophet (Blessings and Peace of Allāh be upon him) said, "a woman will be with her final husband in Jannah (Tirmidhi)."
Abu Darda and Umm Darda were also another
lovebirds, to the extent that when Abu Darda died, Umm Darda refused to get married again
because she thought no other man can replace Abu Darda. When Muawiyah proposed to her, she declined and said, am already engaged to Abu Darda in paradise.
How sweet!
That's eternal love. Marriage can be made beautiful or terrible, it all depends on the spouses.
When Umm Silah, the wife of Ahmad Ibn Hanbal died, he wept and said, I have lived with this woman for the past 30 years and we never
quarrelled for once. People asked him, how is that possible? He said, whenever I am getting angry she keeps quiet and whenever she is getting angry I keep quiet, so we never had mutual argument. How romantic....
How many couples today can spend a week without argument? Brothers learn to be romantic and sweet, some brothers are even shy of expressing their love for their wives, if you don't tell her your feelings, who
will???
Ahmad Ibn Hanbal said, women love to be told clearly that they are loved, it strengthens the feelings and affection, if you refuse to express your feelings for her, it will create a barrier of harshness between you and her.
Most couples today are only romantic for the first few years of marriage, after that, its assumed that it’s childish to keep saying (I love you). What's childish about it? Wallahi those 3 words are the basis and foundation of marriage.
Brothers,
At times involve in pillow fights with your wives, throw pillows at her. when she is angry, hold her and tell her how beautiful she is, tell her "you look more beautiful. when you are angry", if she is still angry, then move back and throw chocolates at her, spray perfume on her or pour water on her, all these are part of being romantic.
At times carry your wife in your arms around the house, at times carry the baby on your back too. At times play simple games together, throw balls at each other, have a mini gymnasium in your house where you train your wife, carry her and let her carry you if she has the strength, but don't allow her to knack you down!!!
Watch Islamic stations together with her, eat pop-corn together, sleep on the same room and on the same bed, don't have your own separate room, some men now have their own room where they run to, after quarrelling with their wife, who are you leaving her for? Even if a man practices polygyny, he can't have
his own room, he has to be rationing rooms from one wife to the other. That's justice!!!!!
At times, go on a stroll with your wife and chit- chat with her, go to places of amusement or admiration of nature if the places are free from
half naked zombies.....
Don't only buy gifts for your wife when she is sick in the hospital, buy for her often. The best gift is the one that comes from the bottom of your heart not the store. Shop things for her, there is nothing wrong with you going to the market for your wife, its just a gift of love.
May Allah bless all our spouses. Ameen
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
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