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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 89*
*Sisters lend me your ears*
*MOST GOOD MEN ARE POOR*
Some ladies today do not want to work on any marriage. They want a ready made man who will take away all their poverty in a day. They secretly pray for a man working in an oil company or is a successful business man, earn in at least six figures, has a company car or his own personal posh car and lives in a duplex at minimum, at worst, 3 bedroom flat.
Now listen young lady, the good man you want is not in that category! What? Yes! That man who will give you the love, affection and respect you truly deserve doesn't usually come with a posh car! He comes with his vision, struggling to find his feet and hoping with your help, he will make something great out of his life.
Here are the reasons you should think twice before marrying a ready-made man. That man has made it without you. You are nothing but a piece of property to him. He knows your greed.
He knows you don't really love him, if you do, you wouldn't be attracted to his success first.
Men are not daft. They know when a lady wants them for their money and nothing else. He has listened carefully to your conversation.
He knows you have nothing sensible to add to his life except to collect his money and show off.
He knows your respect is fake, it is due to the money he gives you and when the money is gone so will your respect. So he keeps working hard to feed your greed, never having time for you and the children.
He shouts you down when you talk because you do not have solution to his problems, you rather create more.
He believes you are a dummy upstairs.
He only married you because you are
beautiful, wants you to be his permanent sexual partner and raise his children, no more. Your emotional needs and problems are not his concern.
All you need is money and he has given you in abundance. Many women are weeping daily in such marriages! Their greed and lust for money has put them in a permanent dungeon of pain, regret and sorrow!These women had opportunities to pick the right men for their lives but they were too proud, too selective, too pompous to pick a man they will start life with. Better marry a man who sees you as his mate than a piece of
property!
Marry someone who sees you as his friend. Marry someone who values your words and respects you because you add value to his life. Marry someone at your level. Don't look for someone beyond your reach. Marry a man who will listen to you, value you, respect you and let you contribute to his life.
A virtuous woman is not indolent. She is not lazy around looking for who to rescue her. She is smart, sharp, intelligent, hardworking, generous and a great contributor to her man's success.
Don't be a liability. Be a blessing. Be a hard worker. Let Almighty Allāh direct you to your man. Stand by him, work with him, encourage him, motivate him, pray for him and be a part of his success.
When he becomes great and successful, he
will give you all the honour, respect
and love you deserve because he knows you were in his life to give and not just to take. Without you by his side, he wouldn't have become so wealthy and successful. He knows you are the reason behind his smile. You are his gold and he would never let you go. Behind every successful man, is a virtuous woman and that virtuous woman is you!
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*
*Episode 89*
*Sisters lend me your ears*
*MOST GOOD MEN ARE POOR*
Some ladies today do not want to work on any marriage. They want a ready made man who will take away all their poverty in a day. They secretly pray for a man working in an oil company or is a successful business man, earn in at least six figures, has a company car or his own personal posh car and lives in a duplex at minimum, at worst, 3 bedroom flat.
Now listen young lady, the good man you want is not in that category! What? Yes! That man who will give you the love, affection and respect you truly deserve doesn't usually come with a posh car! He comes with his vision, struggling to find his feet and hoping with your help, he will make something great out of his life.
Here are the reasons you should think twice before marrying a ready-made man. That man has made it without you. You are nothing but a piece of property to him. He knows your greed.
He knows you don't really love him, if you do, you wouldn't be attracted to his success first.
Men are not daft. They know when a lady wants them for their money and nothing else. He has listened carefully to your conversation.
He knows you have nothing sensible to add to his life except to collect his money and show off.
He knows your respect is fake, it is due to the money he gives you and when the money is gone so will your respect. So he keeps working hard to feed your greed, never having time for you and the children.
He shouts you down when you talk because you do not have solution to his problems, you rather create more.
He believes you are a dummy upstairs.
He only married you because you are
beautiful, wants you to be his permanent sexual partner and raise his children, no more. Your emotional needs and problems are not his concern.
All you need is money and he has given you in abundance. Many women are weeping daily in such marriages! Their greed and lust for money has put them in a permanent dungeon of pain, regret and sorrow!These women had opportunities to pick the right men for their lives but they were too proud, too selective, too pompous to pick a man they will start life with. Better marry a man who sees you as his mate than a piece of
property!
Marry someone who sees you as his friend. Marry someone who values your words and respects you because you add value to his life. Marry someone at your level. Don't look for someone beyond your reach. Marry a man who will listen to you, value you, respect you and let you contribute to his life.
A virtuous woman is not indolent. She is not lazy around looking for who to rescue her. She is smart, sharp, intelligent, hardworking, generous and a great contributor to her man's success.
Don't be a liability. Be a blessing. Be a hard worker. Let Almighty Allāh direct you to your man. Stand by him, work with him, encourage him, motivate him, pray for him and be a part of his success.
When he becomes great and successful, he
will give you all the honour, respect
and love you deserve because he knows you were in his life to give and not just to take. Without you by his side, he wouldn't have become so wealthy and successful. He knows you are the reason behind his smile. You are his gold and he would never let you go. Behind every successful man, is a virtuous woman and that virtuous woman is you!
*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)
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