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Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 86* *DATING

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 86*

*DATING*

By Naadira Chhipa

It is becoming increasingly accepted and welcomed to date before marriage.Dear brothers and sisters by dating before marriage or 'getting to know each other' before your nikkah you are falling directly into the web of shaytaan and diving deep into the dark depths of your own nafs.

Dear parents  by allowing your daughters and sons to date, to go out in private or public, to roam around in malls and go on late night drives, to visit each others homes as well as bedrooms and sadly to even live with each other before nikkah you are throwing your children head first into the scorching fire of destruction.

Does marriage scare you dear youth?Does the idea bore you?Does dating and fornicating entice you?Does getting dressed up and placing a perfect mask to to impress your girlfriend or boyfriend give you contentment?Does love mean zinah ?Does love mean dating?Does love mean butterflies and roses?Does love mean getting to know each other in every possible way before making nikkah? Does love mean living in sin?Does love mean heartbreak and breakups?Does love mean unwanted pregnancies and abortions?Does love mean hurt?Does love mean dating a hundred people before settling for one?NO!

True love is when a man requests your father or an elder for your  hand in marriage, old fashioned much?That is called respect.
True love is when a woman reserves her body, heart, mind and soul only for her husband.
True love is when you could choose to date but you make nikkah for the pleasure of Allah.
True love is when a man and a woman know that happiness, contentment and barakah can never be found in a relationship that does not have the blessings and mercy of Allah.
True love can only be found after nikkah as Allah places exclusive love, mercy and rahmah in every beat of your heart just for your spouse.
True love is when you and your spouse read Salaah and make dua together.
True love is when Allah blesses your union with a beautiful bundle of joy.
True love is when you and your spouse make dua to meet again in Jannah.
You will never truly love a person before nikkah as you will NEVER truly know a person before nikkah.

Dear sister remember if he loves you he will give you the honour and respect of being his wife.

Dear brother if you have no intention of making her your wife please keep your thoughts, hands, words and yourself away from her as she is a daughter, a sister and she will be a wife of another.


*{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}*


*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."* (Qur-ān 51:55)

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