Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage Episode 329 Defend your wife in public and correct her in private, don't give anyone a reason to disrespect your wife.

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 329*

*Defend your wife in public and correct her in private, don't give anyone a reason to disrespect your wife.*

If we at least feel sorry for our wives, we will not do some of the things we do.

For a woman to choose to marry you is not an easy decision. At least pity the lady.

Even being careless with your health shows that you do not pity your wife. Women are always at the receiving end. They are always the one to suffer when things go wrong.

We are not talking love or commitment now, let us start from pity at least. 

1. Most STDs have no symptom in men, but women suffer a lot when they get it. So even when you flirt she is the one to suffer it most. You can even blame it on her "you know a woman's body is open to these things". fear a Allāh. 

2. When she is sick people understand that you have to work and do other things, but when you are sick her life must pause or she is a witch.

3. You can manage to love more than one, often times she sees only you. She sees you as irreplaceable so when you misbehave she is completely frustrated. 

4. No money, no money, you will eat outside and bring the change home for your wife to manage. Some will say the solution is for her to make her own money. At which point you will abandon your responsibilities and as it is her love for you and her children will not allow her hold back, she is an emotional being.

5. A broken marriage is not a scandal to the man, it is a scandal to the woman. This is another way they are at the receiving end.

I can go on and on showing that in most cases, it is the woman who suffers, but then we all know. She is the one who leaves her father's house. I remember when we just got married, it use to feel bad anytime my father-in-law calls my wife, the way she greet, it sounded so emotional to me. Like someone has left her father and is hoping that someone she did not know most of her life will do right by her. We have to keep these things in mind.

One of the things you have to rid your head off as a man is this "women are problem" mentality. It is prejudice that will forever cloud how you see things. Yes there are basic challenges but in what in life do you not have challenges? These issues are largely exaggerated. We OWE our wives.Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "the best among you is the one who is best to his wife." For the Muslims, this should be enough. For any other reasonable person this should make sense to you.

Being good to your wife shows that you have the goodness of gratitude, compassion, and patience. Then who can be better than you?

At least the EFFORT should be there. I do not find a man more childish than when he constantly complain about "women". Give the sacrifice your mother gave you to your wife. You are not wise??

May Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) guide us.