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*10 HABITS OF HAPPY MUSLIM COUPLES* (Part 4) *4. They never lose focus of each other’s primary needs* What I’ve personally discovered through my own research and from those of all the people who’ve discussed marital issues with me, is that the primary reason for continuous marital stress and discord is almost always due to the neglect of a spouse’s primary needs. A lot of books (by Muslim and non-Muslim authors alike) tend to classify primary marital needs based on gender or a spouse’s role in the marriage. You must’ve definitely read about men’s primary needs being respect and physical satisfaction, and that women prioritize the need for love, verbal expression and emotional satisfaction. However true these classifications may seem in theory, they’re far from practical reality, because the truth is: both men and women need love, respect, physical and emotional satisfaction, just in different degrees and ways of expression. Men and women are equally human: Allah Ta’ala has cre...

 *First Hadīth Of The Day* حَدَّثَنَا  يَحْيَى بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ، حَدَّثَنِي ابْنُ وَهْبٍ، أَخْبَرَنِي عَمْرٌو،  أَنَّ بُكَيْرًا، حَدَّثَهُ أَنَّ عَاصِمَ بْنَ عُمَرَ بْنِ قَتَادَةَ  حَدَّثَهُ أَنَّهُ، سَمِعَ عُبَيْدَ اللَّهِ الْخَوْلاَنِيَّ، أَنَّهُ  سَمِعَ عُثْمَانَ بْنَ عَفَّانَ، يَقُولُ عِنْدَ قَوْلِ النَّاسِ فِيهِ  حِينَ بَنَى مَسْجِدَ الرَّسُولِ صلى الله عليه وسلم إِنَّكُمْ  أَكْثَرْتُمْ، وَإِنِّي سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ ‏"‏ مَنْ بَنَى مَسْجِدًا ـ قَالَ  بُكَيْرٌ حَسِبْتُ أَنَّهُ قَالَ ـ يَبْتَغِي بِهِ وَجْهَ اللَّهِ، بَنَى  اللَّهُ لَهُ مِثْلَهُ فِي الْجَنَّةِ ‏" ‏‏.‏  Narrated 'Ubaidullah Al-Khaulani:                        I heard `Uthman bin `Affan saying, when people argued too much about his intention to reconstruct  the mosque of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), "You have talked too much. I heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, 'Whoever built  a mo...

 *Surah Al-Baqara, Verse 211:* سَلْ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ كَمْ آتَيْنَاهُم مِّنْ آيَةٍ بَيِّنَةٍ وَمَن يُبَدِّلْ نِعْمَةَ اللَّهِ مِن بَعْدِ مَا جَاءَتْهُ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ شَدِيدُ الْعِقَابِ Ask the Children of Israel how many clear Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) We gave them. And whoever changes Allah's Favour after it had come to him, [e.g. renounces the Religion of Allah (Islam) and accepts Kufr (disbelief),] then surely, Allah is Severe in punishment. *Thought For The Day* Never doubt what the Almighty can do. The Lord of the Worlds can work miracles and make the impossible possible! He can suddenly change things and move people out of your life. He can suddenly open doors you never dreamed would open. All you have to do is to trust Him! *Excellence of remembrance and glorification of Allāh* سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ الْعَظِيمِ وبِحَمْدِهِ Subhaanallaahil-'Adheemi wa bihamdihi. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: "G...

THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum Ath-thalaatha, 20th day of Dhul Qaādah,1440AH (Tuesday 23rd July, 2019). *_WHEN ALLAH DECIDE WHO ELSE CAN DECIDE OTHERWISE_*. BismilLah. ALLAH says in the Holy Quran to the nearest meaning; To ALLAH belongs the dominion of the hevens and the earth; HE creates what HE wills. HE gives to whom HE wills female [children], and HE gives to whom HE wills males. Or gives in mix of males and females, and HE renders whom HE wills barren. Indeed, HE is Knowing and Competent. Ash-Shura 42:49/50. So people are divided into four categories when it comes to blessings with children: some are given daughters, some are given sons, some are given both sons and daughters, and some are not given either sons or daughters, but they are rendered barren, with no offspring. Only ALLAH knows who deserves to be in which of these categories. Why using evil means to conceive? Similarly to HIS CREATION HE created four categories of human beings. Some without father and mothe...

*THE ATTITUDE OF A LIFE PARTNER* *"Do not get angry, do not get angry, do not get angry."* [Hadīth] The righteous believing woman does not exhaust her husband with too many requests. She is content with which Allāh has decreed for her. Her example in that is the family of the Messenger of Allāh (Blessings and Peace be upon him). 'Urwah narrated from his maternal aunt 'Ā'ishah (may Allāh be pleased with her) that she used to say: "By Allāh, O' son of my brother! We watched the new moon come, then the next, then the next, three new moons in two months, and no fire was lit in the houses of the Messenger of Allāh." I said: "O' aunt! What did you live on?" She said: "The two black ones, dates and water. But the Messenger of Allāh had some neighbours among the Ansār, (Madīnan Muslims who helped the Makkan Muslim migrants). They had goats, so they used to send some of their milk to the Messenger of Allāh and he gave it to us to drink...

*10 HABITS OF HAPPY MUSLIM COUPLES* (Part 3)  *3. They communicate like best friends* What a Whatsapp conversation looks like a few years into a typical marriage: “Need bread.” “K.” I mean, c’mon: “K”?? Not even an “o” to make that miserable “k” look a little less miserable?! What happens to married people’s manners, interest, enthusiasm and most importantly good assumptions when talking to their spouses? Is it okay to talk this way because you’re just so used to someone? Why do we not talk this way to people we’ve been friends with for years? What makes a spouse less-deserving of respect, enthusiasm and affection when no one deserves it more than them (except our parents) for choosing to live every single day with us? Why do we not talk to our spouses like we talk to our best friends, even though they are much closer to us than anyone will ever be? Happy Muslim couples talk like best friends, in good times and in conflict. In good times, they wait to tell eac...

*First Hadīth Of The Day* حَدَّثَنَا  مُسَدَّدٌ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْعَزِيزِ بْنُ مُخْتَارٍ، قَالَ  حَدَّثَنَا خَالِدٌ الْحَذَّاءُ، عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ، قَالَ لِي ابْنُ  عَبَّاسٍ وَلاِبْنِهِ عَلِيٍّ انْطَلِقَا إِلَى أَبِي سَعِيدٍ فَاسْمَعَا  مِنْ حَدِيثِهِ‏.‏ فَانْطَلَقْنَا فَإِذَا هُوَ فِي حَائِطٍ يُصْلِحُهُ،  فَأَخَذَ رِدَاءَهُ فَاحْتَبَى، ثُمَّ أَنْشَأَ يُحَدِّثُنَا حَتَّى أَتَى  ذِكْرُ بِنَاءِ الْمَسْجِدِ فَقَالَ كُنَّا نَحْمِلُ لَبِنَةً لَبِنَةً،  وَعَمَّارٌ لَبِنَتَيْنِ لَبِنَتَيْنِ، فَرَآهُ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه  وسلم فَيَنْفُضُ التُّرَابَ عَنْهُ وَيَقُولُ ‏"‏ وَيْحَ عَمَّارٍ تَقْتُلُهُ الْفِئَةُ الْبَاغِيَةُ، يَدْعُوهُمْ إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ، وَيَدْعُونَهُ إِلَى النَّارِ ‏" ‏‏.‏ قَالَ يَقُولُ عَمَّارٌ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الْفِتَنِ‏.‏  Narrated `Ikrima:                        Ibn `Abbas said to me and to his son `Ali, "Go to Abu Sa`id and listen to what he narrates....

 *Surah Al-Baqara, Verse 210:* هَلْ يَنظُرُونَ إِلَّا أَن يَأْتِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ فِي ظُلَلٍ مِّنَ الْغَمَامِ وَالْمَلَائِكَةُ وَقُضِيَ الْأَمْرُ وَإِلَى اللَّهِ تُرْجَعُ الْأُمُورُ Do they then wait for anything other than that Allah should come to them in the shadows of the clouds and the angels? (Then) the case would be already judged. And to Allah return all matters (for decision). *Thought For The Day* Be kind to people. Never think you're better than others. The trouble with those who appear pious is that they think they’re on a higher level & scoff at everyone else who may seem less pious! It’s a terrible trait to have. Don’t be hard on others. Piety comes with gentleness. *Excellence of remembrance and glorification of Allah* سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ Subhaanallaahi. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: "Is anyone of you incapable of earning one thousand Hasanah (rewards) in a day?" Someone from his gathering asked: "How can anyone of us e...

THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum Al-Ithnayn, 19th day of Dhul Qaādah,1440AH (Monday 22nd July, 2019). *_ALWAYS REMEMBER THE FIRST COMMAND OF ALLAH_*. *BismilLaah*. When you buy a machine, and then you find it difficult to deal with, or it stops working, who is the best one to help you deal with this machine? The one who invented it, right? So basically either you go through the manual or those who have studied the manual to help you fix the problem. So logically as human beings, we have a CREATOR, ALLAH so for whatever bothers you, seek the Creator and understand what HE created. No one would know the CREATION better than its CREATOR who made it isn't it?. This is it. This is this revelation. This is the message in those verses. “Recite in the name of your Lord who CREATED, ”HE is telling us to study and understand ourselves and our life with the powerful Names and guidance of our own Lord who CREATED. CREATED what? “CREATED man from a clinging substance.”HE created us ou...

THE TEN DAYS OF DHUL HAJJ The Ten days of Dhul Hajj are almost here, 12th August In shaa Allah. Did you plan them as to what deeds you will perform on these days? if not then do it please, because these days will run out and you won't even know. If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. This is the time to do business with Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala, grab as much rewards as possible by doing good deeds,on these 10 days have a reward better than fighting in the cause of Allah. Below are some checklists for performing some of the deeds as a reference. 1. Give love to your parents, smile at them, kiss them , hug them, make them feel special, as they used to do when you were kids. 2. Be dutiful to your parents, because one of the major sin after shirk is being undutiful to the parents. 3. Feed the birds and cats in this hot summer with water/ grains/milk. 4. Take cold water and distribute to those working on the Sun, like laborers, cleaners, your staffs, passerby or any ...

*10 HABITS OF HAPPY MUSLIM COUPLES* (Part 2) *2. They are grateful for each other* If there is one fundamental need that exists in every single human relationship, it is the need to feel relevant and appreciated. And there is no other relationship where this need is as grossly overlooked and abused, as in marriage. Why does this happen? Is it because humans tend to take things for granted, especially when they’re done by those closest to them? When you’re newly married, every single thing your spouse does for you feels so special. As time goes by, your husband going out to work hard and earn for the family becomes normal; and a few years later it becomes “his duty anyway”. Similarly, every meal your new bride cooks is delightful, then somehow the salt always seems to keep getting lesser, till eventually she’s “not doing anyone a favour by just doing her job”. Sounds familiar? Oh yes, ungrateful Muslim spouse speaking right there. Happy Muslim couples live and breathe this h...

*THE WORLD OF KUFR (DISBELIEF) IS SUFFERING FROM MISERY* *"Is not Allāh Sufficient for His slave?..."* [Qur'an 39:36] A doctor at the Mayo Clinic delivered a paper to the American Association of Physicians and Surgeons studying work in industrial institutions, in which he said that he studied 176 cases involving businessmen, all of whom were around the age of forty-four, and he found out that more than one-third of them were suffering from one of the three diseases, all of which were the result of stress, namely heart problems, stomach ulcers and high blood pressure. All of these before any of them had reached the age of forty-five! Is a man to be considered successful if that is at the price of a stomach ulcer or heart problem? What can it benefit a sick man if he gains the whole world but loses his health? Even if a man owns the whole world, he can only sleep on one bed, and he cannot eat more than three meals a day. What is the difference between him and a worker ...

*First Hadīth Of The Day* حَدَّثَنَا  عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنَا مَالِكٌ، عَنْ عَامِرِ  بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ الزُّبَيْرِ، عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ سُلَيْمٍ  الزُّرَقِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي قَتَادَةَ السَّلَمِيِّ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ  صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏"‏ إِذَا دَخَلَ أَحَدُكُمُ الْمَسْجِدَ فَلْيَرْكَعْ رَكْعَتَيْنِ قَبْلَ أَنْ يَجْلِسَ ‏" ‏‏.‏  Narrated Abu Qatada Al-Aslami:                        Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "If anyone of you enters a mosque, he should pray two rak`at before sitting." Sahih Bukhari  (Prayers (Salat)) Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 444 In-book reference : Book 8, Hadith 93  *Second Hadīth Of The Day* حَدَّثَنَا  عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنَا مَالِكٌ، عَنْ أَبِي  الزِّنَادِ، عَنِ الأَعْرَجِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ  اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏"‏ الْمَلاَئِكَةُ تُصَلِّي  عَل...

*Surah Al-Baqara, Verse 209:* فَإِن زَلَلْتُم مِّن بَعْدِ مَا جَاءَتْكُمُ الْبَيِّنَاتُ فَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ Then if you slide back after the clear signs (Prophet Muhammad SAW and this Quran, and Islam) have come to you, then know that Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise. *Thought For The Day* When you stop worrying about who likes you and who doesn't, that's the start of something good. You want to be respected for who you are. Don't worry about what others think. Don’t worry about impressing people. Live to please the Almighty. Your reward is with Him!  *Excellence of remembrance and glorification of Allāh* سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ، وَالحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ، وَلَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ، وَاللَّهُ أَكْبَرُ Subhaanallaahi, walhamdu lillaahi, wa laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahu, wallaahu 'Akbar. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: For me to say: "Glory is to Allah, and praise is to Allah, and there is none worthy of worship but Allah,...

THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaumul Ahad, 18th day of Dhul Qaādah,1440AH (Sunday 21st July, 2019). *_Dunya as a pathway to Paradise or Hell_*. BismilLahir Rahmaanir Raheem. Our beloved Messenger of ALLAH (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “What have I to do with this world? As regards this world, I am like a rider who rests under the shade of a tree, and then continues his journey and leaves it.” [Tirmidhi; Kitab az-Zuhud]. Life is nothing other than a road that leads to the Garden, or to the Fire. Its nights are a man’s workshop, and its days are his market place. ALLAH (subhana wa ta’ala) says: “Know that the life of this world is only playing about and idle talk and showing off and boasting amongst yourselves, and competing in wealth and children. It is like a crop after rain whose growth pleases the farmer – but then it dries up, and you see it turn yellow, and then it becomes straw.” [Quran: Surah al-Hadeed, Ayat 20]. Allahu Akbar. *_We ask ALLAH to protect us from the ple...