Together Forever* [[-- Episode 2 --]]

 *Together Forever*

[[-- Episode 2 --]]

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بسم الله الرحمان الرجيم

Before marriage, what you feel is often called "Romantic Love." This is real. Your brain is filled with strong "feel good" chemicals. These chemicals give you a happy rush when you are together. You feel very excited and full of joy.

But after marriage, the brain slowly returns to normal. Those "rush" feelings calm down. This is natural. It is biology. When this rush ends, many couples face a problem. Some think, "I don't love my partner anymore." Others start to see their partner's true self—with all their faults.

This is where real love begins.

Real love is what comes after the rush. It is choosing to be happy with the person you married, even when the first excitement fades.

So where does love go after marriage? 

Often, it doesn't go anywhere—it just changes. And sometimes, we let it grow weak without knowing.

One big reason love grows weak is lack of undivided attention.

Before marriage, you gave each other full attention. After marriage, life gets busy. Jobs, children, family duties, and daily stress take over. Your spouse may get only the leftover bits of your time and energy.

But remember: your marriage is the foundation of your family. If it is weak, everything else can feel shaky.

What can you do?

Even in a busy life, choose to give your spouse real attention. Look at them. Listen to them. Spend time alone together, even if it's short. It is not about big gifts; it is about being truly present.

There is a beautiful story about Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and his wife Nana Aisha (r.a.). 

Nana Aisha (r.a.) reported that she was with her husband  (pbuh) during a journey. She said, *“I was not bulky”. He told his companions to move forward and they did. He then told me: “Come and race me”. I raced him on foot and I beat him. But, on another journey, when I became bulky, he asked me to race him. I raced him and he beat me. He started laughing and said: “This makes up for that beating”.* 📚 Authentic hadith 

You see?

They made time for joy together, even in simple ways.

My People,

Your spouse should not get only the "useless leftovers" of your day😃. Yes. Give them your focus. Protect your time together. This will not stop love from fading—it will make it strong again, insha'Allah.

In fact,

Love after marriage is a choice, not just a feeling. It is built in the quiet moments, in the listening, in the kindness you shower your husband when life is hard. Yes. But more kindness is expected from you - the husband because Allah (swt) say:

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِٱلۡمَعۡرُوفِۚ فَإِن كَرِهۡتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰٓ أَن تَكۡرَهُواْ شَيۡئࣰا وَيَجۡعَلَ ٱللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيۡرࣰا كَثِيرࣰا

"And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allāh makes something much good in that."📚An-Nisa' 4:19

So,

Choose each other again, today.

May Allah protect your marriage, fill your home with patience and true love, and make your union a means of entering Jannah. Ameen.

To be continued...