Together Forever* [[-- Episode 4 --]]

 *Together Forever*

[[-- Episode 4 --]]
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بسم الله الرحمان الرجيم

Love can feel different after marriage. Sometimes it feels less strong. This is normal, but it does not have to stay that way.

Think of love like sand in your hands. If you squeeze it too hard, it slips away faster. Love cannot be forced, bought, or made by wishing. Yes. It grows when we work for it.

Now,

Why does love sometimes grow weaker after marriage?

One big reason is talking about your spouse to others.

My People,

When we are upset, we may talk to friends, family, or neighbors about our husband or wife. We share small complaints or private problems. But this can hurt love.

Why?

(1) Sharing your spouse’s secrets or faults makes them feel disrespected.

(2) It can make you focus only on what is wrong.

(3) People you talk to might add more negative ideas, making problems seem bigger.

This does not mean you should never ask for help. Sometimes we need advice. But there is a difference between seeking wise help and just complaining.

What can we do?

(1) Look at yourself first.
     
The best way to love your partner is to work on yourself. Ask: “Could I be better in how I talk to my spouse or how I talk about my spouse?”

One of the wise men gave wise advice to new couples: “Do not disclose his/her secret, for if you disclose his/her secret, you will make him/her hate you.”

(2) Keep your marriage private.
     
Protect your spouse’s dignity. Yes. Do not share their secrets or weaknesses with others. This builds trust and NOT hypocrisy.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: "There are four qualities... whoever has them is a pure hypocrite... when he is entrusted with something, he betrays that trust." 📚[Bukhari and Muslim]

(3) Turn your complaints into change.

If something bothers you about your spouse, ask yourself: “What can I do differently?”
     
Often, changing ourselves changes our marriage.

My People,

Even the best marriages get stuck. But if we only see what is wrong, we miss chances to make things right.

Yes!

Love after marriage is not automatic—it is a choice we make every day, in what we do and what we say.

Start today. Protect your partner’s heart. Choose to build up your marriage, especially when it is hard.

May Allah (swt) protect your marriage, fill your home with patience and true love, and make your union a means of entering Jannah. Ameen.

To be continued...