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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Allaah has enjoined justice and fairness in all things. He (swt) say:

۞ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يَأْمُرُ بِٱلْعَدْلِ وَٱلْإِحْسَٰنِ"

“Allaah commands justice [and] the doing of good” 📚[al-Nahl 16:90]

Also,

Hadeeth  narrated from Abu Hurayrah (RA) that the Prophet (PBUH) said: *“Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning (ie- Paralysed).”* 📚 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1141), Abu Dawood (2133), al-Nasaa’i (3942) and Ibn Majaah (1969).

And,

We all know that, people ressurrected with physical challenges can not enter paradise.

Now,

Continuation of the previous episodes - as promised

*Travelling Issues - Justice between co-wives:*

One aspect of justice between co-wives is for the husband to draw lots if he wants to travel with one wife and not the other(s). This is what the Prophet (PBUH) did with his wives. 

*Evidence:*

It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (RA) said: When the Messenger of Allaah (PBUH) wanted to go out on a journey, he would cast lots between his wives and the one whose name was drawn, he would take her with him. 📚Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2454) and Muslim (2770).

Al-Nawawi (R) said: This shows that if a man wants to travel with one of his wives, he should cast lots between them. In our view this casting lots is obligatory. 📚Sharh Muslim (15/210).

Ibn Hazm (R) said:

It is not permissible for him to choose one of his wives to travel with him except by drawing lots. 📚Al-Muhalla (9/212).

Something similar was said by al-Shawkaani (R) in al-Sayl al-Jiraar (2/304): 👇

When he comes back from his trip, he should not count the period of his trip for the wife who travelled with him as the result of drawing lots. 

Also,

‘Abd al-Barr (R) said:

When he comes back from his journey, he should resume the division of his time among them, and he should not count the days of the one with whom he travelled. The hardship that the wife who accompanied him went through as the result of travelling is in return for the time she got to spend with him.  📚Al-Tamheed (19/266).

Furthermore,

If it is assumed that one of his wives was not able to travel with him, it is pointless to include her in drawing lots *(Meaning if it is not going to be possible to travel with a particular wife bcos of number of children she has for example, and there is no one to look after the children if she eventually travel or issue of sickness etc)* In that case, lots should be drawn among those whose circumstances allow them to travel, and lots should not be drawn between those who are able and those who are not able.

In this case he has to try to please both wives, even if it means making it up to the one who is not travelling by spending extra time with her when he comes back from his trip.

*Fairness in spending as regards to feeding:*

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك