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 *Head of the Family*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Hadeeth  narrated from Abu Hurayrah (RA) that the Prophet (PBUH) said: *“Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning (ie- Paralysed).”* 📚 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1141), Abu Dawood (2133), al-Nasaa’i (3942) and Ibn Majaah (1969).

And,

We all know that, people ressurrected with physical challenges can not enter paradise.

So,

The one who have OR wants to take two or three or four wives may do so, but if he is confident that he will not be unfair and unjust, and that he will be able to give them their rights. Therefore, any man who wishes to take a second wife has to meet the important condition of fair treatment of all his wives with regards to social, economical and physical needs.

Now,

Continuation of the previous episodes;

*Fairness in spending as regards to Feeding & Clothing:*

Due to individual differences as a factor,, it is not a must to feed ur wives with the same food. Some prefer Indomie to Spaghetti. Yes. Some people don't eat meat BUT fish. etc etc etc.. So, there is NO SIN if u give any of ur wives what each and everyone of them prefer to eat (provided the cost of the foods given to one of the wives did not express injustice).. For instance, giving one of the wives rice without meat or fish, and the other wife get rice with meat and or fish. This is INJUSTICE.

Also,

Giving the first wife with 6 children one bag of rice and second wife with 2 children half bag of rice is not injustice.

Furthermore,

Any of ur wives can eat and drink anything they like at anytime extrally provided the source is not from you. Yes. This could could be due to the fact that, they are working class or they have parents or relatives who give them gifts time-to-time.

DRESSES:

Bcos you want to be just, your wives must not appear like school children when they dress😃. I mean ALL wives appearing in green color LES for instance. Yes. Try to understand or find out from them, the color each and every one of them like.. Some may prefer pink colour.. Some may always go for red color materials. BUT the dresses must be of the same or almost the same quality or standard or price.. And it is NOT injustice if you give to the 1st wife who is slim 4 yards of clothes and 2nd wife 6 yards because she is very fat.

But,

Where u buy N2,000 LES material for your 1st wife and N10,000 LES material for your 2nd wife, is a SIN and injustice.

Also,

No matter how expensive any dress may be, any of your wives can wear it, provided the source is not from you.

👉 Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (RA) said:

With regard to fairness in spending and clothing, this is also Sunnah, following the example of the Prophet (PBUH), "He used to spend equally on his wives, and also used to divide his time equally among them". 📚Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 32/269.

*Fairness as regards staying the night & spending time with wives:*

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك