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 *Head of the Family*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Islam allows polygamy and permits men, under specific circumstances, to have at most four wives at any given time.. But,,, Islam does not have the intention of siding with men and encouraging them to overindulge in sexual desires and debauchery or to overlook the rights of women and *oppress* them.. Rather,, Islam’s aim is to uphold a range of women’s natural rights—the right to marriage, forming a family, and having and rearing legitimate children.

Now,

Continuation of the previous episodes - as promised:

*Fairness As Regards Giving Gifts:*

Whoever has two or more wives has to treat them fairly. It is not permissible for him to single out one of his wives with regard to spending to the exclusion of the others. And there is a stern warning issued to the one who has two wives and does not treat them fairly.

*Evidence:*

Hadeeth narrated from Abu Hurayrah (RA) that the Prophet (PBUH) said: *“Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning (ie- Paralysed).”* 📚 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1141), Abu Dawood (2133), al-Nasaa’i (3942) and Ibn Majaah (1969).

And,

We all know that, people resurrected with physical challenges can not enter paradise.

Now,

This evidence indicates that it is obligatory to treat co-wives fairly and equally, and that it is haraam for the husband to incline more to one of them in a way that will hurt the other. This does not include the inclination of the heart, for a person has no control over the inclination of the heart.

Hence,

The prophet (PBUH) used to divide his time equally among his wives, and he said: “O Allah, this is my division of that which I can control, so do not take me to task for that over which You have control and I have no control” [meaning love in the heart].. For more on why it is not possible for any man to have equal love (50-50) for his wives, pls read episode 2 & 3 of this article.

Based on this, it is not permissible for any husband to single out one of his wives with regard to something over which he has control (eg accommodation, feeding, clothing etc).

For Instance,

If u always choose to give one of ur wives gift of either money, materials or items without giving the other ones, it is injustice.. Yes.. Even ordinary recharge card, a man shouldn't give one of his wives and deny the other ones. Yes. Don't say the other one did not ask me of the recharge card. Buy for all of them (the same amount).

And,

It is possible that your 2nd wife asked u of say N100 recharge card for instance.. And 1st wife's phone have developed fault.. Don't say 1st wife's phone is bad.. Buy N100 recharge card for the 2nd wife who requested it and take N100 cash to the 1st wife as a gift.. And u don't need to tell her that, it is for recharge card I bought for so and so. Yes. Allah (swt) knows and sees ur intention.

*Fairness As Regards Justice Amongst the Children of your Wives:*

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك