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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Abu Hurayrah (RA) that the Prophet (PBUH) said: *“Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning (ie- Paralysed).”* 📚 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1141), Abu Dawood (2133), al-Nasaa’i (3942) and Ibn Majaah (1969).

And,

We all know that, people ressurrected with physical challenges can not enter paradise.

Now,

Continuation of the previous episodes - as promised:

*Fairness Amongst Co-wives As Regards Sexual Intercourse:*

Equality and fairness is not necessary with regards to sexual intercourse and love, for the former is based on agility and energy (nashat), whilst the latter (love) is the action of the heart.

👉 Al-Nawawi said:

"Our companions said: If he treats them equally (in the matters where that is required), he does not have to treat them equally with regard to intercourse, rather he should stay overnight with all of them but he does not have to have intercourse *(the same way or rounds)* with each of them. He may have intercourse with some of them when it is their turn for him to stay with them and not others.. But it is a sin for him to neglect intimacy with some of them with the intention of punishing them". 📚Sharh Muslim, 10/46.

👉 Ibn Qudaamah said:

"We do not know of any dispute among the scholars regarding this fact that - *"it is not obligatory to treat one's wives equally as regards intercourse, which is the view of Maalik and al-Shaafa’i, because intercourse has to do with desire and inclination, and there is no way to treat them equally in this regard"* .. Yes.. A man's heart may incline more to one of them than the other . Allah (swt) says

وَلَن تَسۡتَطِيعُوٓاْ أَن تَعۡدِلُواْ بَيۡنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ وَلَوۡ حَرَصۡتُمۡۖ فَلَا تَمِيلُواْ كُلَّ ٱلۡمَيۡلِ فَتَذَرُوهَا كَٱلۡمُعَلَّقَةِۚ ...."

"And *you will never* be able to be equal in feelings Or love between wives, even if you should strive to do so. So do not incline completely toward one and leave another hanging (ie - she is neither divorced nor married)...." 📚[al-Nisa’ 4:129]

👉 ‘Ubaydah al-Salmaani said concerning love and intercourse:

"If you are able to treat them equally with regard to intercourse, that is better, because it is more fair and just But it is not obligatory to treat them equally with regard to intimacy that is less than intercourse - eg kissing, touching, hugging etc, because if it is not essential to treat them equally with regard to intercourse, then that applies even more to the things that lead to intimacy". 📚Al-Mughni, 7/234, 235.

*Can wife relinquish or forfeit some of her right with her husband and give it to her co-wife?:*

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك