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 *Head of the Family*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Islam tolerates polygamy; however,, it has placed various conditions for it that,, in practice, are very difficult to observe for the majority of men going for polygamy today.

But, you will see a man who is sharing financial family responsibilities - feeding, clothing and even payment of house rent or children school fees (50-50) with his wife, AGITATING for second wife❗And when the innocent woman *protest,* he say - *she is jealous,* Islamically, men in this *types of 50-50 family responsibilities sharing formula* are not qualify to talk about second wife. Yes❗Must everybody in the family suffer bcos u want to be happy by taking another wife ❓

My people!

In hadith narrated from Abu Dharr (RA) that the Prophet (saw) said, narrating from Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted: *“ ‘O My slaves, I have forbidden zulm to Myself and I have made it haraam among you, so do not wrong one another.”*📚Narrated by Muslim (2577).

Now

Continuation of the previous episodes:

*Fairness as regards staying the night & spending time with wives:*

With regard to the husband going out when it is one wife’s turn, if that is because of some need and he does not intend to hurt her and he is not going out to the other wife to enjoy himself, there is nothing wrong with that in sha Allah. The basis of equal sharing of time is staying the night.. Yes.. He has to spend most of the night with the wife whose turn it is. Allah has not created any hardship in religion, and it does not prevent the husband from going out or going shopping or attending classes during the time of one of his wives, if he does not intend to hurt her by going out, and he does not spend most of the night outside the house of the wife whose turn it is.

Dr Ahmad Rayaan said:

"Some of the scholars have spoken in strict terms about fairness in dividing his time, and they say that everyone who goes against that is not treating his wives equally. Some of them even say that if he comes to the first wife after sunset and to the second after ‘Isha’, he is not treating them equally"

But due to unexpected unavoidable daily commitments, it is not possible now.. Bcos how many men now can regulate their movements in such a way as to make sure they enter the house before the sun goes down each day, so that their division of time and their spending the night with each wife is 100% equal?

Oh you who believe!

We have seen from the hadeeth the way in which this division of time was achieved in the family of the Prophet (saw).. And the fact that he visited his other wives by night or by day, or met with them in the house of the wife whose turn it was did not contradict this fair division of time.. This symbolizes that a man with morethan one wife can visit other wives rooms, *whether they live in the same house or not* to see how they are fairing.

Hence,

What matters with regard to the issue of dividing the husband’s time among his wives is that he should spend most of the night with her whilst stipulating that his coming late should not be done with the intention of harming the wife whose night it is, rather it is the result of the husband’s everyday work.

Oh you who believe!

A’isha (RA) narrates that the prophet (PBUH) would treat his wives equally and justly, and then say: “O Allah! This is my distribution according to my capability, thus do not hold me for what you own and I don’t (meaning, what is in your capability and beyond my means).” 📚(Sunan Tirmidhi, no. 1140, Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 3133 & Musnad Ahmad)

Therefore,

“It is mandatory upon a man to treat his wives equally with regards to spending the night. A virgin, non-virgin, old, new, freed, slave, Muslim and from the people of the book all have equal rights, and must be treated equally.

*Fairness Amongst Co-wives As Regards Sexual Intercourse:*

TO BE CONTINUED