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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

It is one of the foremost requirements from a man who has more than one wife to treat all his wives equally and justly. There are grave warnings mentioned in the Qur’an and Sunnah for oppressing, mistreating or not being fair with the wives.. And the Qur’an conditioned the permissibility of marrying more than one wife with justice and fair treatment.

*Evidence:*

"Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then marry only one.." 📚 (Q4 verse 3)

👉Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di (rh) said:

"The one who wants to take two or three or four wives may do so, but if he is confident that he will not be unfair and unjust, and that he will be able to give them their rights". 📚Tafseer al-Sa’di (p. 163).

And,

One of the consequences of playing the card of injustice amongst wives is been ressurrected paralysed on the day judgement *(as evident in the hadeeth qouted in the previous episode of this article)* ... And we all know that, people ressurrected with physical challenges can not enter paradise.

Now,

Any man who wishes to take a second wife also has to meet the important condition of fair treatment of all his wives with regards to social, economical and physical needs (Detail of this in the next episodes of this article - In shaa Allah).

But,

*Is There Aspect A Man Is Not Mandated To Treated His Wives Equally?*

Yes..... There Is. Bcos it is very difficult for a man with morethan one wife to be completely fair interms of feelings or love😳. Yes. For example, It is not possible for a man with 2 wives to love them equally 50-50.

*Evidence No 1 - Allah (swt) say:*

وَلَن تَسۡتَطِيعُوٓاْ أَن تَعۡدِلُواْ بَيۡنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ وَلَوۡ حَرَصۡتُمۡۖ فَلَا تَمِيلُواْ كُلَّ ٱلۡمَيۡلِ فَتَذَرُوهَا كَٱلۡمُعَلَّقَةِۚ وَإِن تُصۡلِحُواْ وَتَتَّقُواْ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا

And *you will never* be able to be equal in feelings Or love between wives, even if you should strive to do so. So do not incline completely toward one and leave another hanging (ie - she is neither divorced nor married). And if you amend your affairs and fear Allah -  then indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful.

*Evidence No 2:*

Captured in the book of Bukhari & Muslim.... After the prophet´s marriage with Aisha (RA), Sawdah, the older wife of the prophet (saw) noticed that, the prophet love Aisha seriously morethan he love her.. So, Sawdah bint Zam'ah noticed that the PROPHET WANTED TO DIVORCE HER, but she made peace with him by forfeited Or offering the night he used to spend with her to A'isha so that he (Prophet) would keep her. The Prophet accepted such terms and kept her.. And Allah (swt) revealed verse 128 of surah Nisaa to affirm (authenticate) this arrangement.

*Evidence No 3:*

Narrated Amr bin Al-As: I came to the Prophet (saw) and said, *“Who is the most beloved person to you?” He said, “Aisha.” I asked, “Among the men?” He said, “Aisha´s father.”* I said, “Who then?” He said, “Then Umar bin Al-Khattab.” He then named other men 📚[Bukhari].

So... It is not possible for a man with morethan one wife to love or have the same feelings for all of them 50-50 even if they strive hard to do so.

Beloved brother!

Islam requires the man who has more than one wife to treat his wives equally and fairly.. And what is meant by that is fairness with regard to spending the night, accommodation, spending and clothing, Travelling issues etc.....

But how?

Read the next episodes of this article for this & more - In shaa Allah

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك