Head of the Family

 *Head of the Family*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Islam allows polygamy and permits men, under specific circumstances, to have at most four wives at any given time.. But,,, Islam does not have the intention of siding with men and encouraging them to overindulge in sexual desires and debauchery or to overlook the rights of women and *oppress* them.. Rather,, Islam’s aim is to uphold a range of women’s natural rights—the right to marriage, forming a family, and having and rearing legitimate children.

Now,

*Don't hurt her with ill behaviors bcos you want to marry another wife*

It's natural that any woman who love her husband will feel bad and jealous if she heard about another woman coming in. Some women will protest lightly and some....... 🙆. In this situation, as a man, u are not supposed to be panic, you are not supposed to get angry with her😳.. Yes. The riot, protest and shakara will not continue forever😀. She will give up the fight after few months. Yes. How would you beat a child and say the child should not cry❓😀. But if u pick offense on her *ill* attitude during the period of her protest, and you maltreat her by avoiding her, or beating her, not giving her food, you are committing a big sin😳. Yes. Put urself in her shoe👞❗If u are sitted and a news came to you that your wife is *preparing* to marry second husband😀, how would u feel my brother❓How are u even feeling when u see her *former ex*❓This is why u should sympathize with her. Just continue to pet her, talk to her and be extra-kind to her at that time.

My brother❗

Some women, out of jealousy, may go as far as abandoning every house-work😀. Some may insult you.. Some may pack her load to her father's house. All these and more should not shake you. She will come down later. Atleast,, *you have beaten her* and you can not prevent her from crying. So, be a man and not a *foolish* by picking quarrel with her. Return home early. Don't pick calls anyhow from ladies/women you are not yet married legally  when you are at home. The ladies or women outside should know that you are married and you respect your wife.. Don't discuss your wife at home with ladies or women outside

Regarding polygamy,

A man who has more than one wife is obligated to observe equality, justice, and fairness among his wives in the amount, type, and quality of nafaqah,, and even in mannerism.. It is the duty of polygamous men to behave comparably in all events, even if their wives are different in age, beauty, character, social status, and other virtues and perfections.

Furthermore,

It is one of the foremost requirements from a man who has more than one wife to treat all his wives equally and justly. There are grave warnings mentioned in the Qur’an and Sunnah for oppressing, mistreating or not being fair with the wives.. And the Qur’an conditioned the permissibility of marrying more than one wife with justice and fair treatment.

*Evidence:*

".....فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَٰثَ وَرُبَٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَة....."

Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then marry only one....." 📚 (Q4 verse 3)

👉Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di (RA) said:

The one who wants to take two or three or four wives may do so, but if he is confident that he will not be unfair and unjust, and that he will be able to give them their rights. 📚Tafseer al-Sa’di (p. 163).

*Men With morethan One Wife:*

Narrated from Abu Hurayrah (RA) that the Prophet (saw) said: *“Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning (ie- Paralysed).”* 📚 al-Tirmidhi (1141), Abu Dawood (2133), al-Nasaa’i (3942) and Ibn Majaah (1969).

*Detail Concept of Injustice in Polygamous Family*

TO BE CONTINUED