Learn from Hafsah* [[--Fourth Outing--]]

 *Learn from Hafsah*

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Hafsah (ra), was the type who was not afraid to argue with the Prophet (pbuh) who was content to allow her to say what she thought.. *One day, while speaking to Hafsa's mother, Umar said, "I think I shall do so and so." Whereupon his wife replied, "But it would be better if you did such and such." "Are you arguing with me, woman?" said Umar who was a fierce man who did not expect his wives to talk back at him. "Why not?" she answered. "Your daughter keeps arguing with the Messenger of Allah until she upsets him for the whole day."* Umar immediately put on his cloak and went directly to his daughter's house. Umar asked Hafsah - "Is it true that you argue with the Messenger of Allah?". "Indeed I do." Hafsah replied. Umar was just about to chastise her for what he considered were bad manners, when the Prophet (pbuh) came into the room and would not allow him to even touch her.

Some sources say that the Prophet divorced Hafsah with a single divorce. Then, the Prophet took her back after Jibril had descended and said to him. "Take Hafsa back. She fasts and prays and she will be your wife in the Garden."

Now,

Continuation of the previous episodes  - as promised: (lessons from the above biography of Nana Hafsah)

*Lesson No 2:*

‘Home is the first school and mother is the first teacher’

A child’s behavior is dependent to a significant degree on the type of interaction that they have with their parents.

Mothers generally have more contact with their children than do the father & because it is speculated that mother-child relationships are more intimate than father- child ones.

Servants of Allah!

We have seen that, talk-back-behavior of Sayyiduna Umar's wife *(Nana Hafsah's mother)* have manifested in her daughter's behavior.. All these are allowed to happen in the past so that we should not feel so much bad if tested with a spouse with similar characteristics. And one of the good lessons we can pick from the above is that - *"Your spouse will never be 100% in terms of good manners"* - even though "talking-back " at your spouse is not not a good manners.

My People!

I think the main cause of rude behavior in children today, is the parents who model it themselves😃. Yes  Kids do what they see their parents do. If they see you talking rudely to your husband/wife or always shouting talking rude at people over the phone, they will pick that up. Yes  Likewise, if you fail to thank people for things that they do for you, your child will not consider this important either and will end up acting entitled and, well, rude.

Parents especially mothers!

Children should be taught manners, but they should also be shown and modeled proper behavior by their parents and others around them. That’s the only way. Do you speak properly to your spouse and/or other adults around? Do you swear and curse traffic? How does the child view that? If he/she hears Dad or Mom calling people by insulting names, then what’s wrong with him or her calling his friends names?

To end this episode,

Holy Prophet (pbuh) said about good manners in one of His hadith in these words: “Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners” 📚(Bukhari).

TO BE CONTINUED

سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك