AbdurRahman

﷽ *Series on The Etiquette of Eating*  *Episode 16* Do not criticize or insult the food. Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never criticized any food. If he liked it he would eat it and if he did not like it he would leave it. (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3370; Muslim, 2046) What is referred to here is permissible food; as for haraam food he would criticize it and forbid it.  [Sharh Muslim, 14/26] *Thought For The Day* When shaytān looks at you and sees you persistent in your obedience to ALLAAH (SUBHANAHU WA TA'ALA), he will do his utmost to deceive you; if he still sees you persistent, he will give up on you and leave. However, if he sees you alternating between this and that, he will have hope in you.    👉 Al-Ḥasan Al-Basri (RAHIMAHULLAAH)    [The Journey to Allah, page 39]

 ﷽ *Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 216* *WHEN YOUR WIFE IS EARNING INCOME* One of the most important rights that a wife has is that her husband should spend on her, and his spending on her is one of the greatest good deeds that he can do that will bring him closer to Allaah. This spending covers food, drink, clothing and housing, and all the other things that a wife needs for her sustenance and good health. When a wife is earning, the issue of shunning away from responsibility arises. Most men find it difficult to exercise justice. They feel as long as she earns income, they are free from discharging their duties. Some men out of jealousy and envy they even try to sabotage the income. At times they say things to despise the wife or make her regret starting the work or business. Even though many wives who earn assist their husbands financially. Yet, some husbands are ungrateful, they find it difficult to comprehend, all because she is a woman, and she does not de...

﷽ *First Hadīth Of The Day* حَدَّثَنَا  عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، أَخْبَرَنَا مَالِكٌ، عَنْ نَافِعٍ، عَنِ  ابْنِ عُمَرَ، عَنْ حَفْصَةَ ـ رضى الله عنهم ـ أَنَّهَا قَالَتْ يَا  رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، مَا شَأْنُ النَّاسِ حَلُّوا بِعُمْرَةٍ وَلَمْ تَحْلِلْ  أَنْتَ مِنْ عُمْرَتِكَ قَالَ ‏"‏ إِنِّي لَبَّدْتُ رَأْسِي، وَقَلَّدْتُ هَدْيِي، فَلاَ أَحِلُّ حَتَّى أَنْحَرَ ‏" ‏‏.‏  Narrated Ibn `Umar:                         Hafsa said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! What is wrong with the people; they finished their Ihram after  performing `Umra, but you have not finished it after your `Umra?" He replied, "I matted my hair and  have garlanded my Hadi. So, I cannot finish my Ihram till I slaughter (my Hadi). "  Sahih Bukhari  (Hajj (Pilgrimage)) Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 1725 In-book reference : Book 25, Hadith 203 ﷽ *Second Hadīth Of The Day* حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو الْيَمَانِ،  أَخْبَرَنَا شُعَي...

﷽ *Surah Al-Maeda, Verse 87:* يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُحَرِّمُوا طَيِّبَاتِ مَا أَحَلَّ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ وَلَا تَعْتَدُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ الْمُعْتَدِينَ O you who believe! Make not unlawful the Taiyibat (all that is good as regards foods, things, deeds, beliefs, persons, etc.) which Allah has made lawful to you, and transgress not. Verily, Allah does not like the transgressors. #COMMENTARY In pleasures that are good and lawful the crime is excess. There is no merit merely in abstention or asceticism, though the humility or unselfishness that may go with asceticism may have its value. In Qur-ān chapter v, verse 82, Christian monks are praised for particular virtues, though here and elsewhere monasticism is disapproved of. Use Allāh's gifts of all kinds with gratitude, but excess is not approved of by Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala). ﷽ *Surah Al-Maeda, Verse 88:* وَكُلُوا مِمَّا رَزَقَكُمُ اللَّهُ حَلَالًا طَيِّبًا وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي أَنتُم بِهِ مُؤْمِنُ...

 THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum al-Khamis, 8th day of Muharram (Thursday 27th August 2020). *_FASTING FROM TODAY_*. BismilLah.  Alhamdulillah for blessing us with another day and my apologies for the delay in sharing a reminder with you. I would like to remind all about the virtues of fasting in Muharram which is very beneficial especially by stepping up our efforts to fast on Mondays, Thursdays and the 3 white days of 13th, 14th and 15th of each Islamic month. In this blessed month we are encouraged to fast on the 9th, 10th and 11th just to ensure we don't miss the day of Ashoorah in which we Muslims fast in commemorating the rescue of the people of Israel by Musah alaihi Salaam (Moses) from Pharaoh as recommended by the Prophet sallallahu Alaihi wasallam.  Imam Ahmad said: whoever wants to fast ‘Ashoora’ should fast on the ninth and the tenth, unless there is some uncertainty about the months, in which case he should fast for three days. Ibn Sireen said that. Al-Mugh...

 ﷽ *Series on The Etiquette of Eating*  *Episode 15* Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever is fed by Allaah, let him say, ‘Allaahumma baarik lana fihi, wa at’imna khayran minhu (O Allaah, bless it for us and feed us with better than it).’ And whoever is given milk to drink by Allaah, let him say, ‘Allaahumma baarik lana fihi wa zidna minhu (O Allaah, bless it for us and give us more)’.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3455).

 ﷽ *Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 215* *MARRIAGE IS A TEST* Brothers and sisters, If you think your spouse is making your life difficult, then do these. Forget about the pain, forget about the discomfort, forget about the loneliness, remember, the Messenger of Allāh (Blessings and Peace of Allāh be upon him) underwent more than any human being could bear, yet He was patient and he emerged victorious. And today, 2 billion people are worshipping the right God because of his patience. So my brothers and sisters, be patient, for, by Allah, your patience will be hugely rewarded by Allah, and guess what, in the day of Qiyamah, you will be amongst those who will be sheltered by the shade of Allah. You will smile and laugh while your oppressor is crying and regretting. So be patient. Marriage itself is a test. By Allah, By Allah, if any Man, takes a second wife, with the intention to simply keep her as a sex object, without giving her her due rights, By Allah, that man...

﷽ *First Hadīth Of The Day* حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ  يُونُسَ، أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ بْنِ رُفَيْعٍ،  عَنْ عَطَاءٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ قَالَ رَجُلٌ  لِلنَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم زُرْتُ قَبْلَ أَنْ أَرْمِيَ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏  لاَ حَرَجَ ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَ حَلَقْتُ قَبْلَ أَنْ أَذْبَحَ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ لاَ  حَرَجَ ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَ ذَبَحْتُ قَبْلَ أَنْ أَرْمِيَ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ لاَ  حَرَجَ ‏"‏‏.‏ وَقَالَ عَبْدُ الرَّحِيمِ الرَّازِيُّ عَنِ ابْنِ خُثَيْمٍ  أَخْبَرَنِي عَطَاءٌ عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ عَنِ  النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏.‏ وَقَالَ الْقَاسِمُ بْنُ يَحْيَى  حَدَّثَنِي ابْنُ خُثَيْمٍ عَنْ عَطَاءٍ عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ ـ رضى الله  عنهما ـ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏.‏   وَقَالَ عَفَّانُ أُرَاهُ  عَنْ وُهَيْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ خُثَيْمٍ، عَنْ سَعِيدِ بْنِ جُبَيْرٍ،  عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه  وسلم‏.‏ وَقَالَ حَمَّادٌ عَن...

 ﷽ *Surah Al-Maeda, Verse 85:* فَأَثَابَهُمُ اللَّهُ بِمَا قَالُوا جَنَّاتٍ تَجْرِي مِن تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ خَالِدِينَ فِيهَا وَذَٰلِكَ جَزَاءُ الْمُحْسِنِينَ So because of what they said, Allah rewarded them Gardens under which rivers flow (in Paradise), they will abide therein forever. Such is the reward of good-doers. ﷽ *Surah Al-Maeda, Verse 86:* وَالَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا وَكَذَّبُوا بِآيَاتِنَا أُولَٰئِكَ أَصْحَابُ الْجَحِيمِ But those who disbelieved and belied Our Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.), they shall be the dwellers of the (Hell) Fire.

 THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum Arba'a, 7th day of Muharram (Wednesday 26th August 2020). *_LET'S FEAR THE DAY WE DIE_*. BismilLah.  ALLAH says in the Holy Quran: وَٱتَّقُواْ يَوۡمًا تُرۡجَعُونَ فِيهِ إِلَى ٱللَّهِۖ ثُمَّ تُوَفَّىٰ كُلُّ نَفۡسٍ مَّا كَسَبَتۡ وَهُمۡ لَا يُظۡلَمُونَ  Fear the day when you shall be returned to ALLAH, then each soul shall be paid what it has earned, and they shall not be wronged. Al-Baqarah 2:281. ALLAHU AKBAR.  Whatever you do please pause and remember this verse.  Ibn Abbas may ALLAH be pleased with him said, "The last Ayah to be revealed from the Qur'an was the above. *_MAY ALLAH grant us a good ending and take our soul only when HE is pleased with us_*. Aameen.

 *Series on The Etiquette of Eating*  *Episode 14* It is Sunnah to say the words of praise to Allaah and Du'ā after one has finished eating. When he had finished eating, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say, “Al-hamdu Lillaahi hamdan katheeran tayyiban mubaarakan fihi ghayra makfiyyin wa lā muwadda’in wa lā mustaghnan ‘anhu rabbana (Praise be to Allaah, much good and blessed praise. O our Lord, You are not in need of anyone, and we cannot do without Your favour nor dispense with it).”  (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5458).

 *IMPORTANT REMINDER (open your eyes and ears)* There are people among us known as "the Al-Qur'aniyyun". They only believe in the Qur’an. They discard and reject hadith of the prophet. And they are spreading this ideology among Muslims in groups and pages. Beware of them. Don't listen to their stories. A Muslim is not a true believer unless he or she believes in the hadith of the Prophet. We can provd that using sources from the Quran. Allah says: “And whatsoever the Messenger gives you, take it, and whatsoever he forbids you, abstain (from it) , and fear Allah. Verily, Allah is Severe in punishment” [al-Hashr 59:7] “Say: "Obey Allah and obey the Messenger, but if you turn away, he is only responsible for the duty placed on him (i.e. to convey Allah’s Message) and you for that placed on you. If you obey him, you shall be on the right guidance. The Messengers duty is only to convey (the message) in a clear way (i.e. to preach in a plain way)” [an-Noor 24:54] “We s...

 *How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids – 10 Proven Ways* 1. BE PROACTIVE If you feel the frustration coming, it’s time to clear your plate for the day.  Of course, it’s not always possible, but there are at least a couple of things on your list that you can skip to avoid the extra pressure.  Try to take it easy for the rest of the day.  Take this step before you get to boiling point. 2. BREATHE Breathing deeply does wonders!  As soon as you feel that fluttering in your chest, close your eyes, and breathe.  Breathe deeply and slowly at least five times.  When you open your eyes, that rising feeling will be tamed. 3. SING! This is my personal favorite.  I have a song I sing when I begin feeling frustrated.  It grounds me and takes my mind away for a minute or two.  This gives me plenty of time to calm down and stay calm. Whether you can hold a tune or not, it doesn’t matter.  You’re not competing for a prize.  You’re being an amazing...

 *SOME STEPS TO BATTLE DEPRESSION* The word for extreme sadness in Arabic is shaqiy (شقي). It is also used to describe a very unfortunate (or 'sad') state. The Quran mentions three matters to counteract this state of shaqāwa:  1) Making du'a to Allah always gives you hope and lifts your sadness. Zakariyya (as), praying for a son, said, 'And I am never disappointed (shaqiy) in my dua's to you O Allah!' [Maryam: 4]. 2) Servicing others, and especially your parents, and in particular your mother. Isa (as) says in the Quran: 'And I am kind to my mother; and He did not make me arrogant or deprived (shaqiy)' [Maryam: 32] 3) Worshipping Allah, and especially reading the Quran and doing dhikr.  The Prophet (salla Allah alayhi wa sallam) was told, 'We didn't reveal this Quran to you to cause you distress (tashqā)' [Taha:2]. So when you feel sad, of the things that you should do are: turn to Allah and read the Quran; make du'a to Allah to relieve y...

 *PROHIBITIONS THAT ARE TAKEN TOO LIGHTLY* :::Asking one’s husband for a divorce for no legitimate reason::: Many women hasten to demand a divorce from their husbands for the least little argument, or if their husbands do not give them what they want of money. Some women may be egged on by troublemakers among their relatives or neighbours to challenge their husbands with provocative words such as: “If you were a real man, you would divorce me!”  The dire results of divorce are well known: breakdown of the family and children roaming the streets. A person may come to regret divorce when it is too late. For all these reasons and others, the Sharee’ah wisely prohibited such actions. Thawbaan (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce with no sound reason will be deprived of smelling the fragrance of Paradise.” (Reported by Ahmad, 5.277; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 2703)....