*10 HABITS OF HAPPY MUSLIM COUPLES* (Part 6)
*6. They make each other bloom*
Did you know your spouse was a separate person with a unique mind, heart, body and soul before they married you?
And did you know that they still are that individual person, only with you by their side?
Marriages begin to go headlong into constant unhappiness when one or both spouses forget this fundamental fact: *marriage makes people partners, not parts of each other that must be controlled and bossed over* .As unfortunate as the truth may be, your spouse has a lot more roles to play in life than just being your spouse; and whenever you restrict them from doing justice to all their roles, you’re going to be the cause of their constant frustration, which will only spill into your own marital relationship.
Allah Subḥānahu wa Ta’āla (glorified and exalted be He) has created each of us to contribute in so many ways during our life on this earth and has blessed us with the potential to be all that He wants us to be. Be that amazing person who motivates, encourages and helps your spouse discover and use their God-given potential and traits to bloom and be a source of joy and mercy to the world.
❌Don’t stop your spouse from being kind and loving to their parents,
❌don’t stop them from being helpful towards their colleagues and relatives,
❌don’t make them cut ties that you know they should keep,
❌don’t compel them to bottle up their talents when you know their skills can be used in a halal way to bring about a lot of good,
❌don’t control their every relationship and acquaintance with other people like an air-traffic controller,
❌don’t bark orders and rules and taunts at them at every opportunity:
❌don’t make your spouse wither into a dull, lifeless, thorny, poisonous weed; because that is not what Allah Subḥānahu wa Ta’āla (glorified and exalted be He) created them to be – *that’s what control freaks make out of the people they live with.*
Happy Muslim couples are partners in growth and productivity:
🌹They acknowledge that their spouse is a slave of Allah Subḥānahu wa Ta’āla (glorified and exalted be He) alone and marriage does not change that.
🌹They acknowledge their spouse’s other roles and responsibilities and encourage them to do justice to all of them.
🌹They recognize each other’s unique traits and talents and catalyze their spouse’s growth and worth as an individual.
...to be continued In-sha-Allah.
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."*(51:55)
*6. They make each other bloom*
Did you know your spouse was a separate person with a unique mind, heart, body and soul before they married you?
And did you know that they still are that individual person, only with you by their side?
Marriages begin to go headlong into constant unhappiness when one or both spouses forget this fundamental fact: *marriage makes people partners, not parts of each other that must be controlled and bossed over* .As unfortunate as the truth may be, your spouse has a lot more roles to play in life than just being your spouse; and whenever you restrict them from doing justice to all their roles, you’re going to be the cause of their constant frustration, which will only spill into your own marital relationship.
Allah Subḥānahu wa Ta’āla (glorified and exalted be He) has created each of us to contribute in so many ways during our life on this earth and has blessed us with the potential to be all that He wants us to be. Be that amazing person who motivates, encourages and helps your spouse discover and use their God-given potential and traits to bloom and be a source of joy and mercy to the world.
❌Don’t stop your spouse from being kind and loving to their parents,
❌don’t stop them from being helpful towards their colleagues and relatives,
❌don’t make them cut ties that you know they should keep,
❌don’t compel them to bottle up their talents when you know their skills can be used in a halal way to bring about a lot of good,
❌don’t control their every relationship and acquaintance with other people like an air-traffic controller,
❌don’t bark orders and rules and taunts at them at every opportunity:
❌don’t make your spouse wither into a dull, lifeless, thorny, poisonous weed; because that is not what Allah Subḥānahu wa Ta’āla (glorified and exalted be He) created them to be – *that’s what control freaks make out of the people they live with.*
Happy Muslim couples are partners in growth and productivity:
🌹They acknowledge that their spouse is a slave of Allah Subḥānahu wa Ta’āla (glorified and exalted be He) alone and marriage does not change that.
🌹They acknowledge their spouse’s other roles and responsibilities and encourage them to do justice to all of them.
🌹They recognize each other’s unique traits and talents and catalyze their spouse’s growth and worth as an individual.
...to be continued In-sha-Allah.
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."*(51:55)
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