*10 HABITS OF HAPPY MUSLIM COUPLES* (Part 5)
*5. They are the comfort of each other’s eyes*
Happy Muslim couples strive to be the comfort of each other’s eyes. They seek to be the answer to the dua that Allah Ta’ala has taught us to make:
“ *And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous* .”” [Qur’an: Chapter 25, Verse 74]
What does it take to become a beautiful sight to look at?
*Smile at your spouse*
When was the last time you beamed at your spouse or saw your spouse smiling lovingly at you?
Okay, I shouldn’t have asked that question because you’d probably need to time travel back into the ancient past.
Smile when you open the door to your tired husband, smile when you get to see your wife after a long day at work, smile at the mother/father of your child for giving you such a beautiful gift; let your smile be the last thing your spouse sees before they close their eyes to sleep. Smile because there’s no reason not to.
*Look good for your spouse*
The noble companion Ibn Abbas (Radiallahu Anhu) is reported to have said:
*“I like to take care of my appearance for my wife just as I like for her to take care of her appearance for me. This is because Allah Ta’ala says: “And they (women) have rights similar (to those of their husbands) over them to what is reasonable.* ” ” [Tafsir Ibn Kathir]
You are the only man/woman your spouse is allowed to look at from head to toe, so please don’t be an eye sore!
Yes, make this your mantra.
Tell yourself this every time you look in the mirror at your unkempt hair, permanent pyjamas or neglected body. Looking good for your spouse is as important (and as easy) as everything else you do everyday like eating or sleeping.
*It takes a maximum of 20 minutes to:* shower, put on some attractive clothes and perfume, comb your hair and apply a dash of make-up (men: you don’t have to do the last bit so you have even less of an excuse!). Make these 20 minutes a fixed part of your routine, ideally just before your spouse gets home or before you sit down to relax at home after work.
Looking good for each other has even more to do with maintaining your health and fitness. You need to do this for your own self before anyone else. Slot in an hour at least everyday to work on your physical and mental fitness: work out wherever and whenever it is convenient for you, but make sure you do and your spouse makes time for their fitness too. There’s nothing more attractive to a spouse than having that healthy glow and fit physique!
*Be their source of comfort and support*
Who do you think of turning to when you’re depressed, afraid or going through a tough time? If your spouse was the first person that came to your mind, you have a wonderful marriage Alhamdulillah. Because that’s what Muslim spouses do: they are each other’s refuge, just like the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasalaam) and his wives were to each other.
When the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasalaam) received the revelation for the first time, he began trembling with fear and ran to his wife Khadijah (Radiallahu Anha) seeking comfort and reassurance saying:
“ *O Khadijah! What is wrong with me? I was afraid that something bad might happen to me.”* Then he told her the story. Khadijah (Radiallahu Anha) said, “ *Nay! But receive the good tidings! By Allah, Allah will never disgrace you, for by Allah, you keep good relations with your kith and kin, speak the truth, help the poor and the destitute, entertain your guests generously and assist those who are stricken with calamities.* ” [Bukhari]
...to be continued In-sha-Allah.
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."*(51:55)
*5. They are the comfort of each other’s eyes*
Happy Muslim couples strive to be the comfort of each other’s eyes. They seek to be the answer to the dua that Allah Ta’ala has taught us to make:
“ *And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous* .”” [Qur’an: Chapter 25, Verse 74]
What does it take to become a beautiful sight to look at?
*Smile at your spouse*
When was the last time you beamed at your spouse or saw your spouse smiling lovingly at you?
Okay, I shouldn’t have asked that question because you’d probably need to time travel back into the ancient past.
Smile when you open the door to your tired husband, smile when you get to see your wife after a long day at work, smile at the mother/father of your child for giving you such a beautiful gift; let your smile be the last thing your spouse sees before they close their eyes to sleep. Smile because there’s no reason not to.
*Look good for your spouse*
The noble companion Ibn Abbas (Radiallahu Anhu) is reported to have said:
*“I like to take care of my appearance for my wife just as I like for her to take care of her appearance for me. This is because Allah Ta’ala says: “And they (women) have rights similar (to those of their husbands) over them to what is reasonable.* ” ” [Tafsir Ibn Kathir]
You are the only man/woman your spouse is allowed to look at from head to toe, so please don’t be an eye sore!
Yes, make this your mantra.
Tell yourself this every time you look in the mirror at your unkempt hair, permanent pyjamas or neglected body. Looking good for your spouse is as important (and as easy) as everything else you do everyday like eating or sleeping.
*It takes a maximum of 20 minutes to:* shower, put on some attractive clothes and perfume, comb your hair and apply a dash of make-up (men: you don’t have to do the last bit so you have even less of an excuse!). Make these 20 minutes a fixed part of your routine, ideally just before your spouse gets home or before you sit down to relax at home after work.
Looking good for each other has even more to do with maintaining your health and fitness. You need to do this for your own self before anyone else. Slot in an hour at least everyday to work on your physical and mental fitness: work out wherever and whenever it is convenient for you, but make sure you do and your spouse makes time for their fitness too. There’s nothing more attractive to a spouse than having that healthy glow and fit physique!
*Be their source of comfort and support*
Who do you think of turning to when you’re depressed, afraid or going through a tough time? If your spouse was the first person that came to your mind, you have a wonderful marriage Alhamdulillah. Because that’s what Muslim spouses do: they are each other’s refuge, just like the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasalaam) and his wives were to each other.
When the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasalaam) received the revelation for the first time, he began trembling with fear and ran to his wife Khadijah (Radiallahu Anha) seeking comfort and reassurance saying:
“ *O Khadijah! What is wrong with me? I was afraid that something bad might happen to me.”* Then he told her the story. Khadijah (Radiallahu Anha) said, “ *Nay! But receive the good tidings! By Allah, Allah will never disgrace you, for by Allah, you keep good relations with your kith and kin, speak the truth, help the poor and the destitute, entertain your guests generously and assist those who are stricken with calamities.* ” [Bukhari]
...to be continued In-sha-Allah.
*"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers."*(51:55)
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