Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 139* DON'T BE TOO PROUD IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 139*

DON'T BE TOO PROUD IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP

Once, a man returned from work and found his wife cooking. She gave him a sweet loving  kiss.  They shared   happy  moments while preparing dinner together  . While they were  at the dinner table, the woman's cell received a message from her friend who wished her good night.

The husband saw the message and  assumed it was from a man. He got so  upset left the dinner table without talking to his wife and went to  bed without eating dinner.

The woman  looked at her husband with disbelief  and  wondered how he could be bothered by a simple message? She said to herself  "this is ridiculous and  I will not go after him..He is not a kid."

The woman had her meal and went to bed. She did not speak to the husband and  neither did the husband speak to her..Instead  both of them moved to the furthest corner of the bed and turned  their back on each other. Their night was very miserable. 

At midnight, the wife  got  a fever and started sweating profusely. She started having difficulties with breathing. She  reached out  and touched the husband’s back. Without even talking to her, he angrily removed his wife’s hand. The wife went silent and died of heart attack.

In the morning, the husband  woke up, took a bath and prepared himself some breakfast and went  to work. 

The wife was still in bed and he  did not bother to talk to her. He proudly  said to himself, " I will not speak to her, until she does it first!"

By the afternoon,  the man thought about his behaviour and decided that his love for his wife was greater than simple good night message from some guy .He therefore  returned home with a beautiful watch that he knew his wife would love.

When the husband arrived home, he was  all happy that  he was  going to give that precious gift  to his beloved wife and tell her how much he loved her. 

When he got home he went straight to the kitchen hoping to find his wife there and give her  the surprise gift.

Instead he found the breakfast remains and utensils just as he had left them in the morning. He was convinced that she was still mad at  him!

The man went slowly to his bedroom and found his wife in the same position he had left her. He rushed to wake her up only to find that she was long dead. The husband screamed himself hoarse but unfortunately his wife was no more.

 Autopsy tests revealed that she  had died of heart attack. He could not forgive himself for taking a hard line position based on mere suspicion which resulted to the death of his wife.

Lessons learnt.

1  Ask yourself how many times you have taken a hard line position in your marriage just to prove a point to your partner. 

2. Time is too short for fights. Make best use of time by maximising your happiness.

3. Appreciate your partner  with all his/her weaknesses and avoid being selfish due unfounded  pride. They say pride comes before a fall. Just know that Pride and love don't go together.

4. In the event of fights and disagreements try as much as possible not to go to bed while upset with each other.  Try to meet each other in the middle through compromise. 

5. Sometimes, we have to sacrifice for love; there are no perfect marriages..We have to invest heavily in improving communication and forgiving one another. Had this couple decided to talk and get out of their positions of pride, they would not have gone to sleep angry at each other and the husband would have saved  his wife's  life. Consequences of pride in a marriage could be irreversible.

6. If anybody told  you that he/she has a perfect marriage, just  know right away she/he is a great liar. Couples fight and fight badly  for that matter but it's the ability to revise ones stand, communicate with respect  and be honest with each which determines the survival of marriage relationship.  Please remove pride and arrogance in your marriage relationships.

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Share with all couples you know and pray for families to genuinely  love one another.

{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}

"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers." (Qur-ān 51:55)