Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage Episode 219 SOME ARGUMENTS DON'T HAVE A WINNER

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 219*

*SOME ARGUMENTS DON'T HAVE A WINNER*

I personally will not blame a lady who says she cannot stay in less than a flat. I also feel for the brothers who are bitter about it and it is really understandable on both ends.

I know some sisters and because of what I know of how their parents have been struggling to raise them, I would prefer them to marry a wealthy brother provided he has religion. There is nothing wrong if Allah uses marriage to assist a struggling family.

On the other hand we must be sensitive enough to understand how it feels to tell a brother who earn less than 30k that if he cannot rent a flat he should forget about you. Do you know how he feels? When I see men who earn that amount and are single I always wonder how they hope to get married. It's actually faith and Alhamdulillah they succeed. It is not for us to rub it in.

Perhaps the middle course is that a sister should not bluntly say such. There is nothing wrong in trying hard not to hurt someone. On the other hand brothers should marry their class. It even has some benefits. And we thank Allah that while your wife may be less than another woman in financial class she may be more in piety which is most important so it is not a bad idea to restrict yourself to your financial class.

Somebody was talking of marrying Dangote's daughter and I asked why he wants such wahala. How can you wish for security to be following you up and down. For people in that class however it is normal.

Let us not hurt ourselves by being too blunt about the issue. Some brothers are really struggling, it may be unfair to over emphasize some things. Let the sister who can marry into a single room do so and let others not discourage her. Let the one who cannot, politely decline and let us not call her names also, you do not know her story.

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