Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage* *Episode 218* *How Married couples destroy one another: The Game of Secrets

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*Let's Change Our Mindsets About Marriage*

*Episode 218*

*How Married couples destroy one another: The Game of Secrets.*

It is truly alarming how people are being destroyed today by business allies, friends, or even their family members due to their little secret being exposed by their spouse. Today we are in a society where people live on lies, deception, materialism, and show up. Some people believe they cannot be respected until they show wealth, or how big they fit, or how special they are. All these can lead to your destruction. Although that is not the point I m trying to make today.

Are you familiar with a situation whereby a wife sits and discusses her husband’s ways of earning with her friends? Are you familiar with cases of wives posting the photos of their husbands lavish spending? Are you familiar with cases of men who do the same to their wives not with a negative intention but later turns into negative? Are you aware of the fact that some spouses even unintentionally shared the travel routes of their spouse which eventually led to their death? Well I am familiar with them all.

*That’s what I want to talk about.*

 

As long as married couples cannot keep their spouses’ secrets, no doubt, haters will take that information and use it against them. We have heard stories of armed robbers coming to a house, searched it as if they knew every nook and corner of the house, just bcos one of the spouses have shared everything on Instagram. We heard stories of people who were defrauded because their marriage partners sold them out. There are a lot of them out there.

Secret is one big issue in Islam that Allah speaks about in the Quran. And it is an obligation on every partner to keep that part of their life away from others. It is simply painful to find out that you trust your partner and they are exposing you. In light of that Allah says:

“And fulfil (every) covenant. Verily, the covenant will be questioned about” [al-Isra’ 17:34] and “Verily, Allaah commands that you should render back the trusts to those, to whom they are due” [al-Nisa’ 4:58]

The prophet PBUH tells us the story of Prophet Ismail whose wife could not shut up when his father Prophet Ibrahim came to visit his son. She was asked about their condition, and she mistakenly said some bitter words about her husband and that incident led to Prophet Ibrahim to instruct Ismail to divorce her. This story tells you the extent at which married couple need to secure their secrets. We believe any spouse who can’t keep secret of the other is not a worthy spouse.

Therefore, do not engage in such acts as it destroys your partner and you along the line. Some words if uttered will never be taken back. And the damage they can cause is unimaginable. Your secret is your life. History tells us times without number how rulers, kings and powerful people lost their lives or thrones just because their partner refused to keep quiet.

May Allah guide us. Ameen